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Day after D&C (1st pregnancy)

Kate61382Kate61382
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I went to my first dr's appt with a new practice last Wednesday, March 28.  It was supposed to be the first time I would hear my baby's heartbeat.  I was scheduled to be at 11 weeks, but the baby did not grow past 8 weeks, and there was no heartbeat.  I was devastated!  My doctor told me that she wanted me to have a D&C since I haven't even had any symptoms of a miscarriage and my body hasn't started to pass it naturally.  I had my D&C yesterday morning.  I was soo unbelievably nervous.  I was put in 'twilight' and don't remember a single thing. I have had some cramping and bleeding, although today the bleeding is lighter.  

I haven't scheduled my follow up appt yet, but the dr wants to see me back in 2 weeks.  I am anxious to start trying again.  I have no idea what caused this miscarriage...it was my first pregnancy.  I have so many worries that we are going to have problems in the future.  Friends of mine have said that studies show that it may be easier to get pregnant again in the couple of months following a miscarriage because your body still thinks it is pregnant.  Has anyone heard this before?  I am hoping and praying that God will bless me with a child in the future.  

 Any thoughts, suggestions?  I am new here, and I am hoping that by talking about this, it helps make it easier...even if only slightly.  I thank you all for any input you have :)

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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Re: Day after D&C (1st pregnancy)

  • kkerankkeran

    I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy, and had the same experience of expecting to hear the heartbeat and then learning it didn't grow beyond 6 weeks.  It was so awful.  

    We waited 3 cycles to start trying again because that's what my midwife recommended.  We got pregnant right away and now have a healthy 14 month old.  I was really surprised because it took more than 6 months the first time.  I'm pregnant again and hoping that this one sticks too.

    I feel for you, it's definitely not an easy time.  I allowed myself to feel whatever I wanted to feel - including resenting a friend who was pregnant and didn't miscarry.  You just have to do what you need to do to grieve and keep moving.  It helped me to know that lots of people I know have had miscarriages and went on to have healthy babies (including my sister and my sister-in-law).  I also found a lot of comfort in these boards, and hearing from people who had gone through this experience.

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  • SweetPea1002SweetPea1002
    I had a D&C two weeks ago and I have my two week check up yesterday and the doctor gave me the go ahead to try again. I MC also with my first pregnancy, but with mine we were trying for 4 years, had to do IVF and got pregnant the first time. I wanted to try right away because I want to see if my body will conceive a child naturally, as I had undetermined infertility, otherwise we will have a FET in may/june. So, my doctor said go for it, miracles can happen. 
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  • behapy2daybehapy2day

    I miscarried our first at 10w4d and had a partial d&c (I ended up miscarrying the baby and sac at home, unexpectedly, the night before my planned d&C). Anyway, I am anxious to begin TTC again. It's hard feeling like your stuck in TTC purgatory! I was told by my obgyn to wait two cycles before trying again, but have read a lot of information agreeing that you have increased fertility right after a m/c. I plan to talk with my doctor when I have an appt with him next week as I would like to maybe try again this cycle. I currently have my first post m/c period which came at cd34.

     Anyway, I know the heartache youre feeling. Just know you arent alone.

    He's my fairytale, a dream when I'm not sleeping.

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  • zzyyxxzzyyxx
    imageKate61382:

    ... I am anxious to start trying again.  I have no idea what caused this miscarriage...it was my first pregnancy.  I have so many worries that we are going to have problems in the future. 

     

    This. I'm in the midst of my first miscarriage, too. I know that some 20% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, but it so very hard not to go to the bad place. Try to remember, though, that the first miscarriage is not indicative of there being problems in your future (at least, that is what everyone keeps telling me--I'm trying hard to believe it).  Let's try to stay positive (easier said than done, I know!)  Best of luck!

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  • AuntTateAuntTate
    I miscarried my 1st pregnancy also at 9w2ds.  I had a D&C and at my 2 week checkup my doctor suggested we wait 3 cycles before trying again.  We only waited 2 but it took almost 3 months for me to starty cycle #1 after my D&C and then I had to get put on the pill to get my cycle to regulate.  We started trying last month with nothing but are hoping to succeed this month.  The reason they say you are more fertile after a miscarriage is because your cervix takes some time to close and if it's open you're basically giving "easy access." haha
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  • Kate61382Kate61382

    Thank you everyone for replying to my post and for your kind words.  I am sorry that we are all in the same "boat" here.  I wanted to share with you a website that I found that actually answered a lot of my questions.  It is run by a woman who has been doing it since 1998 so I feel that she has had some experience with this kind of heartbreak and has also talked to multiple women who have too.  The site is https://pregnancyloss.info/.  Check it out!

     I will be praying for all of you.  Please keep in touch since we all share in this tragedy.

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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