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10 week old not hitting milestones

JenJH923JenJH923
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All these posts of what peoples LO's are doing has me worried.  I just threw the "what to expect the first year" book in the trash because it was making me worried.  Charlie will be 10 weeks old tomorrow.  He enjoys tummy time and lifts his head to turn it side to side, but he doesn't lift it to 45 or 90 degrees like this book is saying he should. He has great head control when sitting up or being held and he can sit in the Bumbo for about 5-7 minutes holding his head up the whole time.  Also, he still makes limited eye contact. He looks around the room, but rarely focuses in on faces.  He tracks toys and looks at himself in the mirror. He swats toys in his play gym -probably unintentionally- but he isn't grasping toys and trying to put them in his mouth or anything. He is cooing and some days he makes great eye contact, smiles all day long etc. 

Anybody else have a LO who doesn't seem to be meeting milestones on time?  I called my pediatrician and she said as long as he makes consistent eye contact and smiles reciprocally by 6 months she isn't worried... that's a long time to wait to see if he is behind in some way. 

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Paranoid FTM Geeked

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Re: 10 week old not hitting milestones

  • rosiemommarosiemomma member

    The reason your doctor isn't concerned is totally valid. I think that those 'guidelines' that give week by week what a baby should be doing are hard on mama's. Really look at him for him, what is he doing that he wasn't doing? I wouldn't worry so much about how fast he is hitting milestones and just focusing on his achievements no matter how small... instead of thinking "he doesn't do this..." change that thought to what he is doing and enjoy it! 

    I want to add that babies are so unique, My daughter wasn't a 'smiler' I always worried because she didn't giggle or smile and it seemed impossible to do anything to invoke it... She is 2.5 and is a huge joker now, and I make her laugh constantly  so no problems there but she is a serious little girl and she takes time to think about things. I just got better at knowing what makes her laugh.


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  • minteamintea member
    I agree with PP. It can be worrisome seeing other posters writing about things your LO isn't doing. For example, my birth month board has a post about their LOs carrying on "conversations" by babbling a ton. My LO can babble but generally doesn't do it. She also smiles only on occasion-- perfectly able to but she seems to reserve it for special occasions lol. I am starting to think she might be a serious little one, as PP mentions, but it's hard not to think your LO should be doing exactly what the others are.

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  • JenJH923JenJH923
    Thanks for the replies!  This board is such a great resource, but it can also fuel worries because there is so much to compare your LO to!  Good point about concentrating on what he IS doing very what he ISN'T doing. I notice everyday that he is doing more and more and becoming more wakeful and alert.  Thanks ladies :)
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  • AMbabyAMbaby member

    Ummm I'm not sure what I'm missing but it sounds like your baby is doing fantastic! Seriously!

     Good job Mamma!

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  • beckybeth123beckybeth123 member
    One more thing, I think the 45 and 90 degrees are the angles LO is laying at when the lift their head. I can't imagine what lifting your head 90 degrees from the floor would look like....
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  • bparkhurbparkhur member
    Sometimes message boards can be misleading too. People will post about how proud they are that their LO is doing such and such 8 weeks early and....it was a fluke. Of course, no one posts to say, "you know I was totally wrong. LO is NOT actually holding conversations it was really just a bad bout of gas and my imagination."  I refuse to read the milestone books because they do nothing other than make us paranoid even though they are supposed to "help."
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  • Thinkerbelle80Thinkerbelle80 member
    HOnestly, I think your baby sounds fine.  What milestones exactly is he not hitting?  Everything you described sounds perfectly normal for that age.  
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  • PsyDr04PsyDr04 member
    Try not to worry. I have a book about baby's first year week by week (different than What To Expect) and every week when it lists milestones there is also a caveat saying that your baby can be 6-10 weeks on either side of that particular week and still be normal. In other words, if your child isn't doing the things they say babies "should" be doing that particular week, it may still be (and probably is) totally normal. Those are just guidelines. I know my DS doesn't do everything he "should" be doing. For example, this past week's chapter said he should be sleeping through the night. Yeah, right. Wink
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  • AZ_EricaAZ_Erica member
    Ds never grasp for toys.  It really worried me at the time.  Ds is 4.5 now,perfect and very smart.  Sounds like your ds is doing just fine.  If your pedi is not worried you should not either.
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