2nd Timers

lemonJAM · April 2012

Do you find that you're more laid back in general this time around? I definitely am. I remember nearly panicking if it was just a little too long since her last diaper change, obsessing over the milestone charts to be sure she was on track, being in a hurry for her to start solids, and fretting all the time about STTN. I feel so much less anxious about everything this time, thankfully!

ashleygirl04 · April 2012

Absolutely! I am much more willing to wait out the "big events" (solids, STTN, etc.)

I'm really focusing on enjoying him in the moment rather than anticipating the next phase. I'm not flipping out because he skipped a feeding or didn't sleep for a certain amount of time for naps. I guess I'm much more go-with- the-flow this time.

Mrs.Greeko · April 2012

Just wait till its your third! I was pretty laid back for the second after being way uptight for the first, but with the third I'm super laid back, more than I thought possible. If he's asleep and we've got to go somewhere, I just scoop him out of the crib and go. Never would have done that with my first and not even ith my second. If he's crying and I'm taking care of someone else sometimes he has to cry for a few minutes. If he doesn't really nap all day I'm okay with it, it all works out somehow. He's a pretty chill baby and I think a lot of it is that I'm a more chill mom. My first was pretty high strung, but so was I at that time so I wonder if some of it was me.

RedCamaro · April 2012

Oh yes much less anxious. But I also don't feel like I'm on top of things like I was with DD (i.e. schedules, house work, cooking). Then again I am BFing a little monster and taking care of everything said above.

All I can say is that my DD spoiled me!

Tanderson0201 · April 2012

YES. It's so much different. I don't worry about her every single second and wake up to check on her. I will check on her before I go to sleep and sometimes I'm like "she's breathing, right?" but I don't wake up in the night to do that. I feel much more relaxed about her than I did with DS.

The other day was DD's first time in the swing at the park. I started to take a video and this other people put their LO in the swing next to ours and completely video bombed me. All I can hear in the video is them cooing at the baby while the dad pushes and the mom watches. The mom keeps saying "oh, it looks like he's going to fall out of it!" The dad says "no, he won't. It's supposed to be like that." Then the mom freaks out because she didn't wipe the swing with a wipey before putting him in it. The dad is like "well, it's too late now." It was just hilarious because FI and I were definitely like that the first time around. Now, not so much.

smilelari · April 2012

Without a doubt. I feel more relaxed, better rested and I'm enjoying it more

Tanderson0201 · April 2012

*THESE other people. Oops.

lemonJAM · April 2012

Tanderson0201:

YES. It's so much different. I don't worry about her every single second and wake up to check on her. I will check on her before I go to sleep and sometimes I'm like "she's breathing, right?" but I don't wake up in the night to do that. I feel much more relaxed about her than I did with DS.

The other day was DD's first time in the swing at the park. I started to take a video and this other people put their LO in the swing next to ours and completely video bombed me. All I can hear in the video is them cooing at the baby while the dad pushes and the mom watches. The mom keeps saying "oh, it looks like he's going to fall out of it!" The dad says "no, he won't. It's supposed to be like that." Then the mom freaks out because she didn't wipe the swing with a wipey before putting him in it. The dad is like "well, it's too late now." It was just hilarious because FI and I were definitely like that the first time around. Now, not so much.

I forgot about this! That was totally me with DD. DS will probably have a much better immune system though because I don't wipe everything down!

mbgreenwalt · April 2012

I am pretty laid back in general, but I think I am way more relaxed about things this time. I remember making sure the bottles were measured out exactly because I thought just a little too much water would be horrible for her or not changing her diaper the instant she peed would scald her skin. I know what to do this time and I'm enjoying it much more. I keep forgetting how old she is though, I think my mind is trying to keep her tiny. I keep trying to jam her beefiness in 3 month clothes and then remember that she is almost 5 months. I just wish time would slow down. With two everything goes by faster.

missashleyyy · April 2012

I am a pretty relaxed person in general but I am just enjoying him being "little" and not wishing his life away by saying things like "I'm ready for him to walk" or "I can't wait until his first birthday" or things like that...

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