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Am I Being Overdramatic?

SuperDuperGirl23SuperDuperGirl23 member
in January 2012 Moms

My boyfriend has been about 5000% awesome throughout my entire pregnancy and really just in general since DD was born. We agreed when we left the hospital that there would be absolutely no score keeping-we're on the same team when it comes to raising our kid. He does awesome while we're at home, he says nothing about it if he's changed the last 6 poopy diapers or I sleep right through her 4 am screaming fit.

BUT as soon as we get around people he b*tches about it (in a joking manner) contstantly. We can't get through a dinner with anyone without him making a jokey comment about how he's always the one to get up with her (he isn't) or some other ridiculous exaggeration that makes me sound like a lazy cow.

Is it crazy that this bugs me so much? I feel like a drama queen for this getting under my skin so much, especially since he's such an awesome dad and boyfriend. We talked about it last night and he said he would work on it but I'm still fuming almost 24 hours later.

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  • Thinkerbelle80Thinkerbelle80 member
    I'd be so angry if he did that too.  It's basically putting you down in front of other people.  Instead of putting you down, maybe he could make a promise not to say anything negative about you and in return you could talk to others about what a great daddy he is and how he gets up in the middle of the night, etc.  Perhaps he just wants to brag about his involvement and is going about it in the wrong way.  
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  • michelle_1221michelle_1221 member
    I get why you'd be frustrated at DH, but if he's anything like my DH, he is actually more proud of his role of an active dad.  So possibly he is bragging as opposed to trying to put you down.  I'd also wonder if it's more his personality to "pick on you", again that's what my DH does and often he doesn't know when he crosses lines.  I'd try to see how he does based on your talk. 
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  • julesjarvais65julesjarvais65 member

    imagemichelle_1221:
    I get why you'd be frustrated at DH, but if he's anything like my DH, he is actually more proud of his role of an active dad.  So possibly he is bragging as opposed to trying to put you down.  I'd also wonder if it's more his personality to "pick on you", again that's what my DH does and often he doesn't know when he crosses lines.  I'd try to see how he does based on your talk. 

    This, especially the bolded. DH and I always pick on each other, and I found myself doing what your DH has done. I realized it without him saying anything, but I have definitely found myself focusing more on how great of a dad is he to other people instead of jokingly saying he's not doing much.

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