CPW: when did you and your DH/SO decide to DTD?

JellyTwoPointO · April 2012

At the urging of JuddAndJessica... How many dates did it take for you and your DH/FI/SO to "go all the way" and DTD?

[Poll]

GatorBaby2012 · April 2012

Technically our second date, but that was less than 24 hours after our first date.

What can I say, I was smitten!

kiki4 · April 2012

I'm gonna have to go with 1st date here. Big Smile

As I mentioned, we had a long distance relationship. We spent the first month on the phone and on email, and I will admit some of those conversations were pretty hot and heavy, so by the time he got to Dallas, it was all we could do to get back to my house. We had a lot of fun that weekend!

ashleyl31 · April 2012

We waited until we were married. This goes along with the bcp question. We never used back up, but it wouldn't have been the end of the world if it failed.

raashton · April 2012

I picked 5th or more but within an hour of our first I had already decided that I was going to sleep with him. He said it is only b/c he brought his A game.

We dated a month before that bastard kissed me. I beded him a week later.

kpowers982 · April 2012

I made homie wait 3 months...but he was my first, and I wanted to be sure! I was Queen of "Everything But" after those 3 months though, ahahaha.

shellyco · April 2012

I picked 5th date or more, but technically I think we are SS because A) it was high school and

We did everything but sex before we even officially started dating. We had sex the first time we were left alone at his dad's house, a few months after we became "official".

kiki4 · April 2012

raashton:

I picked 5th or more but within an hour of our first I had already decided that I was going to sleep with him. He said it is only b/c he brought his A game.

We dated a month before that bastard kissed me. I beded him a week later.

This made me laugh...I love it!

Allycat11 · April 2012

DH took me on a date for my birthday after my on again off again bf ditched me at the last minute. Date ended at a bar, I was drunk and mad at my on again off again, wasn't looking for anything serious soooo things just happened.

GatorBaby2012 · April 2012

raashton:
I picked 5th or more but within an hour of our first I had already decided that I was going to sleep with him. He said it is only b/c he brought his A game.

We dated a month before that bastard kissed me. I beded him a week later.

A month?!? Does he know the definition of A game? Though I suppose it worked, so maybe he does have all the secrets!

katharine25 · April 2012

I dont know the "date" number, maybe the 5th or 6th? I do know it was about 1 week after seeing each other every night from our first date, and it was the 4th of July. I don't think we spent a night apart after that until sometime after we were married....

Mash67 · April 2012

I would say 5th or more just because He lived an Hr away and I was sneaking around hiding it from my parents... they didn't approve of the age gap. I was 17. 3 months shy of 18 and he Just turned 23.. but I told them he just turned 22 because it sounded better... but It still didn't work LOL

Total time 2 months.. I met him October 29 and We BD December 21 Best Xmas present EVER!!

katharine25 · April 2012

GatorBaby2012:
raashton:
I picked 5th or more but within an hour of our first I had already decided that I was going to sleep with him. He said it is only b/c he brought his A game.

We dated a month before that bastard kissed me. I beded him a week later.
A month?!? Does he know the definition of A game? Though I suppose it worked, so maybe he does have all the secrets!

LOL. It's like friends, without the benefit!!

poohbear033 · April 2012

It was our 3rd....but we had done plenty in the first two dates.

raashton · April 2012

GatorBaby2012:
raashton:

I picked 5th or more but within an hour of our first I had already decided that I was going to sleep with him. He said it is only b/c he brought his A game.

We dated a month before that bastard kissed me. I beded him a week later.

A month?!? Does he know the definition of A game? Though I suppose it worked, so maybe he does have all the secrets!

I know! But he did romance me during that month, so I guess it worked. My mom says I just got used to guys trying to feel me up on the first date. Little does she know I soo would have let him.

MissRachel621 · April 2012

Sterling13:
Technically it was before the first date. Romance was a total afterthought at the time, at least for me. DH was smitten from the start.

Um, yes. This was my situation as well. Hey, at least we married them, eh? Wink

JellyTwoPointO · April 2012

We had a fast but "steady" progression. First date/second date (same day lol!) he was sooo respectful and hugged me but made sure I knew he liked me. Second official date was our first kiss. Third date was new years eve. Most people kiss on NYE at midnight. We did a heck of a lot more than kiss! When midnight struck, we were in the middle of our first time together. Now we love to repeat the tradition ;-)

MissRachel621 · April 2012

Sterling13:
MissRachel621:
Sterling13:
Technically it was before the first date. Romance was a total afterthought at the time, at least for me. DH was smitten from the start.
Um, yes. This was my situation as well. Hey, at least we married them, eh?
That's right. So we slept together first and fell in love second, it could have been worse.

Isn't that how the song goes? First comes sex, then comes loves, then comes.... ah *** it.

big_noise · April 2012

I'm a special snowflake. We started dating fairly young and weren't there yet, plus we were good friends for a long time before dating. And we never actually had a first/second/third date, etc. So yeah, not right away at all, but well before we were engaged.

JuddandJessica · April 2012

We started dating at 15 and 17. We held out miraculously until 18 and 20.

smcjmk09 · April 2012

GatorBaby2012:
Technically our second date, but that was less than 24 hours after our first date. What can I say, I was smitten!

Hey at least you married him afterwards! ;-)

s.alarie · April 2012

I went with 3rd date. We met online and chatted on the phone CONSTANTLY for a week before we actually met. He was home from NC for his sister's wedding, and we had our first date in Newport, RI. We had an amazingly long first date, and he was too tired to drive home. He was going to sleep in his car, but I let him sleep (and only sleep!) in my bed (roomie was there too, totally G-rated).

We DTD on our 3rd date, on the beach at night. Amazing.

misteezagirl · April 2012

my story is a bit different since we were extremely young when we got together and didn't really "date", it was more of a will you be my bf/gf and we just were and mostly saw each other at school and we were together off and on through high school and after high school, and we didn't even really go on a first actual "date" until we were in our 20's..I guess the last time we get together when we were in our 20's it was like the 3rd or 4th date, but before that we were just horny teenagers trying to get into each others pants all the time! The last time was the most special though because we didn't talk to each other for several years and we grew up a lot and it meant a lot more the last time around, even though we were each others firsts.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP · April 2012

s.alarie:
I went with 3rd date. We met online and chatted on the phone CONSTANTLY for a week before we actually met. He was home from NC for his sister's wedding, and we had our first date in Newport, RI. We had an amazingly long first date, and he was too tired to drive home. He was going to sleep in his car, but I let him sleep (and only sleep!) in my bed (roomie was there too, totally G-rated).
We DTD on our 3rd date, on the beach at night. Amazing.

Are you from RI? I am, I love Newport, it's so nice there!

CNYBride05 · April 2012

I plead SS - we weren't dating at the time. We have a complicated past :-)

s.alarie · April 2012

Mrs.DeliaMarieP:
s.alarie:
I went with 3rd date. We met online and chatted on the phone CONSTANTLY for a week before we actually met. He was home from NC for his sister's wedding, and we had our first date in Newport, RI. We had an amazingly long first date, and he was too tired to drive home. He was going to sleep in his car, but I let him sleep (and only sleep!) in my bed (roomie was there too, totally G-rated).
We DTD on our 3rd date, on the beach at night. Amazing.
Are you from RI? I am, I love Newport, it's so nice there!

MA originally, went to Salve for nursing school. I love Newport too, I need to go back for a visit. Where in RI are you from? My husband is from N.Prov.

KacyChicago · April 2012

smcjmk09:
GatorBaby2012:
Technically our second date, but that was less than 24 hours after our first date. What can I say, I was smitten!
Hey at least you married him afterwards! ;-)

True that!

I can't answer on the clicky poll, unfortunately ... Well, because technically we were already living together before we went on our first official date.

We did "everything but" the first night (and many, many nights following), but I made him wait a month before we did the deed.

Yeah, I'm a good girl. Ha.

GatorBaby2012 · April 2012

KacyChicago:
smcjmk09:
GatorBaby2012:
Technically our second date, but that was less than 24 hours after our first date. What can I say, I was smitten!
Hey at least you married him afterwards! ;-)
True that!
I can't answer on the clicky poll, unfortunately ... Well, because technically we were already living together before we went on our first official date.
We did "everything but" the first night (and many, many nights following), but I made him wait a month before we did the deed.
Yeah, I'm a good girl. Ha.

Ha! Nice!

HopingforChange · April 2012

I am also a special snowflake. We waited until we were married, but we were also "all but" people. Lol. We dated/were engaged and lived together before we were married, so it was not easy, but we did wait.

JellyTwoPointO · April 2012

HopingforChange:
I am also a special snowflake. We waited until we were married, but we were also "all but" people. Lol. We dated/were engaged and lived together before we were married, so it was not easy, but we did wait.

OMG! I have one word:

HOW?!?!?!

LuckEinLuv · April 2012

KacyChicago:
smcjmk09:
GatorBaby2012:
Technically our second date, but that was less than 24 hours after our first date. What can I say, I was smitten!
Hey at least you married him afterwards! ;-)
True that!
I can't answer on the clicky poll, unfortunately ... Well, because technically we were already living together before we went on our first official date.
We did "everything but" the first night (and many, many nights following), but I made him wait a month before we did the deed.
Yeah, I'm a good girl. Ha.

I did answer on the clicky poll, but I think it was technically before the first date. I mean, don't you have to leave your apartment for a date? Our apartment mates used to tell us that our room "smelled like sex" but it wasn't just me. My roommate was a hussy too! LOL

Spruce14 · April 2012

Dh and I started dating when I was 14 and he was 16 Sooo it was will you be my girlfriend not will you go out with me. We were together for 8ish months before we did the deed. It was a first for us both so a little awkward ... And we have ony been with each other. Luckily we have amazing sex so ive never found myself wondering what else is out there;)

HopingforChange · April 2012

Jellybean902:
HopingforChange:
I am also a special snowflake. We waited until we were married, but we were also "all but" people. Lol. We dated/were engaged and lived together before we were married, so it was not easy, but we did wait.
OMG! I have one word:
HOW?!?!?!

I know; I know! I grew up in a really conservative, Christian household, and he's Catholic. Not to mention, I know myself, and I am anxious and pretty attached anyway, and I knew it would just break my heart if we had sex and then split up. I am so sensitive. I don't regret waiting, but I know it's culturally weird, and everyone assumed we had already had sex since we were living together for a year and a half before we got married. In retrospect, it was a really bizarre set-up we had going there.

ETA: I was also only 22 when I got married, and DH was 23, so we were young, and I do think that makes waiting easier.

KacyChicago · April 2012

HopingforChange:
Jellybean902:
HopingforChange:
I am also a special snowflake. We waited until we were married, but we were also "all but" people. Lol. We dated/were engaged and lived together before we were married, so it was not easy, but we did wait.
OMG! I have one word:
HOW?!?!?!
I know; I know! I grew up in a really conservative, Christian household, and he's Catholic. Not to mention, I know myself, and I am anxious and pretty attached anyway, and I knew it would just break my heart if we had sex and then split up. I am so sensitive. I don't regret waiting, but I know it's culturally weird, and everyone assumed we had already had sex since we were living together for a year and a half before we got married. In retrospect, it was a really bizarre set-up we had going there.
ETA: I was also only 22 when I got married, and DH was 23, so we were young, and I do think that makes waiting easier.

I don't think it's bizarre at all, and I am proud of y'all that you waited. I don't have any regrets, but I'm always glad to see anyone who sticks to what they believe in!

littlemusings · April 2012

I think it took 3 months or so??? Keep in mind I was 19, a virgin and planned on saving myself for marriage (planned is the key word here lol!).. Oh well, we did end up getting married:)

HopingforChange · April 2012

KacyChicago:
HopingforChange:
Jellybean902:
HopingforChange:
I am also a special snowflake. We waited until we were married, but we were also "all but" people. Lol. We dated/were engaged and lived together before we were married, so it was not easy, but we did wait.
OMG! I have one word:
HOW?!?!?!
I know; I know! I grew up in a really conservative, Christian household, and he's Catholic. Not to mention, I know myself, and I am anxious and pretty attached anyway, and I knew it would just break my heart if we had sex and then split up. I am so sensitive. I don't regret waiting, but I know it's culturally weird, and everyone assumed we had already had sex since we were living together for a year and a half before we got married. In retrospect, it was a really bizarre set-up we had going there.
ETA: I was also only 22 when I got married, and DH was 23, so we were young, and I do think that makes waiting easier.
I don't think it's bizarre at all, and I am proud of y'all that you waited. I don't have any regrets, but I'm always glad to see anyone who sticks to what they believe in!

Thanks, Kacy. That is kind of you. Hope you are well today!

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