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People asking inappropriate questions...

kat530_528kat530_528 member
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So today I had an annoying encounter with someone I work with.  I am close friends with this woman's two daughters and just a few days ago her one daughter gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy ever.  Her and I would have been only one month apart from our due dates, the only difference is that I lost mine and she didn't.  Well grandma (my coworker) is on cloud 9 and I don't blame her.  But the thing that got me crazy was that she came up to me today and as we were talking she asked me "So do you have any news yet?" Yeah, I know she just wanted to be nice and positive and blah blah blah but if she only knew the half of it!  My husband and I lost our baby 7 months ago and we have been TTC for about 6 out of the last 7 months.  Each month brings more heart break and I really don't need any more reminders of my sadness.  Sometimes I wish I could just say to everyone to leave me alone and not ask anything!  Thank you for the vent.
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  • xDanniellexxDanniellex

    I'm sorry.  People just have don't think about what they are saying.

    I'm not looking forward to my sister's bridal shower next month, because I know people will make comments.  Just have to figure out if I want to go off on them or not.   

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  • LorMorLorMor member

    I tell people that when there is news, I will tell them, but until then I'd prefer not to talk about it. It could mean I'm struggling to conceive or it could mean I've had a miscarriage or whatever, but I'm saying I don't want to talk about it. 

    I hope that helps. Good luck! 

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  • TurboRxTurboRx

    I just hate how we are the ones that have just been through this tradgedy and then we have to make allowances for people speaking without thinking. We all know she was trying to be positive, but don't you think that if you had good news you wanted to share you would share it on your own terms. I that we are the ones hurting and then we have to basically take whatever people feel like saying to us just because their intentions are good.

    I am so sorry! I think that you should feel free to tell her that her question, no matter how positive, hurt.

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  • CCline09CCline09
    Ughhh, people say the stupidiest things. I for sure have watched my mouth after I personally experienced this miscarriage...
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