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I might have to get mean.

hermione76hermione76
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My last appointment my OB did a total 180. He said he wanted me to have the baby between the 15-22 of July. I am not even due until the 22nd. I told him I would be waiting until at least 40 weeks to do anything. He kept going on and on about how big DS was, and how it could be more dangerous for me the bigger this baby is. I have done my research and I know women have successfully VBACed a 10lb baby.  DS was 9lbs and 1oz, and 21 inches long. I told him that I was not going to let him scare me into a c/s because of the weight of the baby. The ultrasound can be off on weight 1-2lbs.

The only reason I am even ok with another ultrasound is to check the position of DD and the placenta. I will do what is best for the baby, but I am not going to let him pressure me into a RCS. I just had to vent a little bit.

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Re: I might have to get mean.

  • vanillacouragevanillacourage member
    If you're only 24 weeks and are saying to your OB "I'm not going to let you scare me into a c/s" then I'd switch to someone more VBAC-friendly.  You have plenty of time and need to trust your doctor once you do get close to your due date and have to start making decisions as a team.
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  • tessatewkstessatewks member
    Yup, switch now.

    MY DS was 9lb 13oz!  Yesterday was my due date, and NO talk of induction yet from my midwives, though *I* started the conversation about stripping my membranes on Thursday. I'll only consent to an induction at 42wks and beyond.

    I worked very, very hard to diet/control what I was eating this pregnancy (I gained 80lbs with DS1), so hoping for a smaller baby, but even if baby is big, I'm not giving up on my VBAC! Most failed vaginal births of large babies are NOT due to their size, but "the cascade of interventions".
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  • hopecountshopecounts member

    Absolutely start looking for a new doctor. This one is setting you up for a RCS.

    For all he knows at this stage baby just had a major growth spurt and by EDD will be an average 7 lbs.

    If he's already talking about a "big baby" he wants to RCS you and is just indulging your VBAC plans until he can scare or push you into a RCS. 

    How will you trust him when you're in labor if you are having to fight him? Will you know if you can trust his suggestions/recommendations?

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  • nosoup4unosoup4u member

    imagevanillacourage:
    If you're only 24 weeks and are saying to your OB "I'm not going to let you scare me into a c/s" then I'd switch to someone more VBAC-friendly.  You have plenty of time and need to trust your doctor once you do get close to your due date and have to start making decisions as a team.

    Yeah, calling "big baby" at 24 weeks is crazy. Switch now!

    And FWIW, my VBAC baby was 10.5 pounds. But I didn't have any late u/s with him, and no one was thinking he was going to be that large.

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  • cchill01cchill01 member
    imagenosoup4u:

    Yeah, calling "big baby" at 24 weeks is crazy. Switch now!

    Agreed!

    OP - Way to stand up for yourself!  But you're definitely on an uphill battle.  You're not going to change his opinion....and even if you could, do you want that stress?  And then you'll have someone in the delivery room who is not vested in your success.  Seems like a recipe for failure to me.

    DD#1 was 9lbs 1oz and my provider hasn't said anything about LO#2 being too big to birth.  Our biggest concern is getting LO#2 to start labor on their own, since DD was induced 15 days late.

     

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  • cottonlily84cottonlily84 member
    24 weeks does seem quite early to be worrying about the size of the baby and already telling you when you should deliver.  You're barely halfway there!
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    Agree!
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  • hermione76hermione76
    Ob and I had another conversation about the weight. I brought him some research and I was very firm. I told him if was no on board I would go somewhere else. He seemed impressed that I had taken the time to be well informed. He promised that we would leave the weight out of it. I have to have another ultrasound to check placenta placement and baby placement.
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