Is it Bad Karma to Lie about your pregnancy?

heatherf1017 · April 2012

I went to a bridal shower yesterday for my husband's cousin who is getting married in June, his fiancee' asked me twice why I wasn't drinking. The first time I told her I didn't feel good. The second time she touches my belly and says, "Are you sure you're not pregnant?" I was shocked and said no and then told her that that my allergies were acting up and I had taken benadryl and if I drank anything I would fall asleep.

My husband was at a bachelor lunch and we met up later to have a large cookout at the grooms father's house.

When we got back in the car I told my husband what the bride did and he said yeah, she asked me if you were pregnant too.

We hadn't told her we were trying so it was completely out of the blue. Is it bad that I lied? My husband are not telling our parents until Easter and we want to keep it a secret.

brideofduckman · April 2012

It's not bad karma... it might be difficult to lie about it, but it's not bad karma. I randomly had 3 girls from work this week ask me and I said no, but the huge smile on my face screamed YES! So now a couple people know. It''s your secret to keep as long as you want (or can)

~Ashley

IndiaInk · April 2012

In that situation, I would have for sure. In my opinion, it's bad manners to ask someone if they're pregnant before they volunteer the information. So, anyone who asks should expect to be lied to.

yogajen78 · April 2012

i just went out last night for a friend's birthday and i had my husband order me pineapple juice, and when people asked what i was drinking, i said "pineapple and malibu"...i figured it was easier to lie about that than drink water and have to deal with lots of questions over time. because i am very health focused and don't drink a whole lot anyway, no one said anything when i didn't drink on st patty's day...but i didn't want to do that too often. so feel free to steal my move until you tell people. i don't plan on telling the grandparents-to-be until mother's day, so everyone else will find out later in may...so i'll have some covering up to do until then!

JBM1204 · April 2012

Is it bad karma to lie about a pregnancy? No.

Is it bad manners to ask about a pregnancy? Yes.

Deethebee · April 2012

It is not bad karma. This baby is noone's business but yours and your husband's, and you shouldn't feel pressured to tell anyone until you're ready. People will be very nosy...it's something we have to get used to.

cassoppea · April 2012

I really hate lying. But I understand wanting to wait to tell. Ive never been outright asked if I am pregnant, but it I was, I'd probaby try to skirt around the question rather than blatantly saying no. But I don't think it's bad karma to lie. I also don't think it's very nice for someone to ask, especially if she's been pregnant before. It seems that (aside from your experience) I've found people are generally pretty respectful of wanting to wait to tell. Im sorry you were put in such an awkward situation!

Julie22b · April 2012

IndiaInk:
In that situation, I would have for sure. In my opinion, it's bad manners to ask someone if they're pregnant before they volunteer the information. So, anyone who asks should expect to be lied to.

This exactly!!! I would have lied too!

KikiCohen · April 2012

I don't think it's bad karma. It's a personal decision how long you want to keep it a secret. Besides, you weren't lying to be malicious. I wouldn't have spilled the beans either!

+easye+ · April 2012

JBM1204:
Is it bad karma to lie about a pregnancy? No.
Is it bad manners to ask about a pregnancy? Yes.

This. I would've freaked if someone touched my stomach when they asked, holy cow!

catherine24 · April 2012

It's not bad karma - it's your news to share when and how you want. It is in fact bad manners for people to pry and ask you that.

caajje6 · April 2012

No it isn't bad karma to lie about your pregnancy.

I haven't been outright asked yet for this pregnancy, but have in the past and if it was someone I didn't want to share the info with, I lied. It is no one's business until you decide to announce.

eris1995 · April 2012

JBM1204:
Is it bad karma to lie about a pregnancy? No.
Is it bad manners to ask about a pregnancy? Yes.

Ditto! I'm so nervous about Easter. I guarantee SIL asks me if I'm not drinking.

eris1995 · April 2012

JBM1204:
Is it bad karma to lie about a pregnancy? No.
Is it bad manners to ask about a pregnancy? Yes.

Ditto! I'm so nervous about Easter. I guarantee SIL asks me if I'm not drinking.

eris1995 · April 2012

JBM1204:
Is it bad karma to lie about a pregnancy? No.
Is it bad manners to ask about a pregnancy? Yes.

Ditto! I'm so nervous about Easter. I guarantee SIL asks me if I'm not drinking.

ucfsteph12262003 · April 2012

+easye+:
JBM1204:
Is it bad karma to lie about a pregnancy? No.
Is it bad manners to ask about a pregnancy? Yes.
This. I would've freaked if someone touched my stomach when they asked, holy cow!

Agreed and holy cow about touching the belly. I didn't even like that when I was visibly showing!

happilyeverafterxo · April 2012

KikiCohen:
I don't think it's bad karma. It's a personal decision how long you want to keep it a secret. Besides, you weren't lying to be malicious. I wouldn't have spilled the beans either!

Exactly! You definitely weren't being malicious! It's okay! You get to decide who you tell and when you tell them!

JLSmith124 · April 2012

Not bad karma at all! It is your decision to tell who and when.

FutureMrsBB · April 2012

I don't think its bad karma but I do feel bad lying to my mom about it and thats only because well shes my mom. Otherwise I agree with everyone else its bad manners to ask if someone is pregnant.

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