DH & Sexy Time Fail

MegSowers · April 2012

So I've been hinting that we should try sex to try to get things going. I've explained what the semen does, etc... I've been saying this for over two weeks. But DH has yet to initiate anything! We did it about 3 weeks ago, but I initiated. Is he totally turned off by me? You'd think he'd jump at the opportunity. Literally. I told him if we want to induce on our own (before our induction date), we better start having sex. His response: "Yeah, I don't think anything is gonna get her out of there. She's too comfortable."

Patella1129 · April 2012

My DH was the same way with my last pregnancy and with this one. It seems like the closer I get to my due date, the less he wants to do it. I know that it doesn't feel the same and I don't have the "same energy" (his words), but come on and help a sister out here!

Crazijewel · April 2012

MIne won't either. He thinks LO's head is right there. Ugh!

Monicagail1 · April 2012

My DH had a hard time near the end in part because I explained how sex can get the ball rolling with labor. According to him it was too much pressure, or something. You may have to initiate, and really sell that it's because you want to do it, rather than just because you want it to get things going. Guys are sensitive like that.

JenLiggons · April 2012

I think if my DH initiated, the pure shock would send me into labor. He's so not into it that I swear he's sleeping with someone else. I jumped him last night after a few weeks of nothing. He was watching TV over my shoulder the whole time. Needless to say, no contractions from that. Fail.

MegSowers · April 2012

JenLiggons:
I think if my DH initiated, the pure shock would send me into labor. He's so not into it that I swear he's sleeping with someone else. I jumped him last night after a few weeks of nothing. He was watching TV over my shoulder the whole time. Needless to say, no contractions from that. Fail.

At least I'm not the only one!

cowgirl_up521 · April 2012

It is so good to know I am not the only one going through this. I am not wanting to have sex to get the ball rolling, even though that would be great, I actually would like to be close to my DH again! He doesn't seem remotely interested and I feel so huge that I am having a hard time initiated. I just want the sex we use to have. I miss him, and I joke around now and then about him having a girlfriend. I think I am just insecure.

vtwd40 · April 2012

I feel the same way. I'd like some sex to get the ball rolling, plus I just want some. We can't have it for a long time after she's born and she'll be here in a week tops! He keeps mentioning it, but the he gets "busy" and falls asleep. I think he's a bit scared subconsciously that it will get things started. But, I know he wants her here....he told me to lift heavy objects today when he left for work. SIgh...may have to jump him tonight

Mamasaurus · April 2012

I have given up trying to make sense of this issue. My H will complain that we don't do it enough and then proceed to not initiate even though I keep telling him that I won't be mad at him for asking if I am not feeling up to it. I am too tired and sore to climb on top and do all the work, so if he's waiting for me to jump his bones, he's just going to have to keep waiting.

I did decide that even if he is making me want to punch him in the face on Friday, I'm going to try a BJ and see if that gets him to slip me the hot beef injection. I know the full moon thing is just an OWT, but it can't hurt to help the odds and just try it.

TheBuddha · April 2012

Mamasaurus:

I have given up trying to make sense of this issue. My H will complain that we don't do it enough and then proceed to not initiate even though I keep telling him that I won't be mad at him for asking if I am not feeling up to it. I am too tired and sore to climb on top and do all the work, so if he's waiting for me to jump his bones, he's just going to have to keep waiting.

I did decide that even if he is making me want to punch him in the face on Friday, I'm going to try a BJ and see if that gets him to slip me the hot beef injection. I know the full moon thing is just an OWT, but it can't hurt to help the odds and just try it.

LOL! Thanks for that one!

We did it last night but I am so uncomfortable. DH was all over the place doing all this stuff and I kept thinking "how is he doing this? I am so fat and gross and huge..how is he not completely turned off by me?". I had to let it all go so I could reach the big O and hope to kick start some contractions.

He is so tired of seeing me so miserable I'm sure he would do anything to help me get this baby out.

Keep in mind that things are different down there and your H may just be uncomfortable. The last few weeks of pregnancy are the pits.

AmandaR204 · April 2012

Well my DH says im still sexy and blah blah...he does initiate every now and then.. HOWEVER since I lost my MP he doesnt want to..he thinks he will touch the baby or his penis with enter a hole and go into my uterus...I tried to explain that THATS IMPOSSIBLE but nope he knows better! He refuses to get busy so I refuse to do...other things!

specialkbride · April 2012

My DH feels the same way. I feel sex deprived. I have never gone this long without sex. : (

ateal2490 · April 2012

I think connecting sex to induction is what turns them off. Sex with a "purpose" just seems less enticing, I suppose. DH has had the same responses for the one time I brought it up. I also don't think it helps that LO moves so much AND the fact that she's a girl can't be much help either.

Annie234567 · April 2012

I find talking about sex -- particularly if there is a purpose and reasoning behind it -- can sometimes lead to failure. But initiating wordlessly has never failed me.

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