I am moving over to a new group in a couple weeks, still with my same company. My new team is having a off-site meeting in May. We are going to be at one of the team member's lake home about an hour away. The manager wants everyone to stay there at this home.
We need to be there Tuesday night and stay through Friday morning. I am very hesitant to be gone that long. I have a baby who will be 5-months by then and I am still nursing. I do have some freezer stash, but I don't think enough to cover that long, and besides, I do not want to be away from her for 3 nights.
How do I ask to be excused in the evenings to come home? Or is it even worth it, given the 1-hour drive each way plus getting up earlier and home later? I don't want to be the newbit coming in and making this request but I am so stressed about being gone that long. How should I handle this?
Re: how would you handle this work situation
I find that kind of odd/awkward. You're staying in someones home? Are there enough bedrooms for everyone?
Honestly, I'd really not "ask" as much as "tell" your manager that you'll be unable to stay all 3 nights as you have a nursing child at home. Could you swing a night? If so- offer that.
In the end, if they say this is a requirement and you feel you have to, then so be it. But again - I'd frame it in more of a "I can't stay over night" instead of "Is it o.k. if I don't stay over night".
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What a weird situation.
Honestly, I'd really not "ask" as much as "tell" your manager that you'll be unable to stay all 3 nights as you have a nursing child at home.
This.
This. Bless your heart this sounds dreadful!
How long have you worked for the company? Is it a kind friendly kind of place? Some places may say it is ok, but make you pay for it later or question your commitment. I am sure that not everyone wants to be there, so by not "suffering" with the group you may be an outcast.
With that being said my LO means more to me than a job. Despite the consequences I would probably not stay the night.
Yep - play up the fact that you are a nursing mother who needs to be there overnight for your LO.
I'm an EPer, and I would've had a hard time having that much stash to be gone that long.
What a weird situation.