TTC After a Loss

Ouch.. Facebook (preg mentioned, not mine)

2 of my cousins are pregnant, one is due the same week I was. The first cousin posted a pic of her baby bump today and announced the babies name and it was one that we were considering.

The second cousin announced today that they are having a boy. We have no boys in this generation so everyone is saying how she is having the first boy and how she broke the streak. My first loss was a boy. I feel like today has stabbed me in the chest.


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Married 07/17/2010
Diagnosed with PCOS 10/20/2010 
TTC since Oct 2010 
BFP #1 March 31st 2011 Due December 10 2011 
Missed m/c discovered June 2nd 2011 at 12w4d
D&C scheduled June 7th 2011 at 13w2d
Found out our baby boy had Triploidy XXY through embryopathology
BFP #2 September 28th 2011 Due June 8th 2012
Missed m/c discovered November 20th 2011 at 11w2d
D&C November 29th 2011 at 12w4d
Found out our baby girl had Monosomy X through embryopathology
BFP #3 April 24th 2012 Due January 5th 2013
Betas falling on 04/26/12 Chemical Pregnancy
RPL testing done, multi nodular goiters on thyroid discovered.

BFP #4 November 22nd 2012, Due August 5th 2013
Betas: 17 @ 9dpo, 62 @ 11dpo, 124 @ 12dpo, 321 @ 14dpo 720 @ 16dpo 13,805 @ 23 dpo 
First ultrasound at 6w3d, hb 122 bpm. 
Second ultrasound at 7w3d hb 143 bpm 
Third ultrasound at 10w1d hb 167-170 bpm 
Forth ultrasound 12w1d hb 167 bpm 
Graduated rpl program, moving on to regular ob! 
It's a boy! 

Little man was born August 1st 2013, 7lbs 8oz and 20.5 inches long



Re: Ouch.. Facebook (preg mentioned, not mine)

  • huge((hugs))
    11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS 
    10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks
    1/12/13 DD was born
    4/9/16 DS was born 
    9/17 CP 
    6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19 

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  • That would have knocked the wind out of me too. I'm so sorry...I do believe a throat punch is in order.
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  • I am so very sorry sweetie!  Much love and hugs!
  • Oh...I am so sorry! Big HUGS!
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    BFP #2 - 7/1/12 - Met my lucky charm Alexandra on 3-16-13!!!


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  • *hugs* to you.  I'm sure that just rubs salt in the wound. 
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  • I'm really sorry :( strangers being pregnant no longer bother me at all because I try to remember that I don't know what it took for them to get there.  But my SIL who is preg and due 3 days after I was... Well that one still stings when I talk about it sometimes.  Completely understand where you're coming from.  Sending a big fluffy {{hug}}!
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  • I'm so sorry. :( that's just tough. I have a close friend due about 10 days after I was. I'm trying hard to not be jealous and bitter, but it's a battle. Hang in there!!


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  • So sorry :((

    While probably not intentional, friends and family say the wrong things at the wrong times. Consistently. And while it shouldn't come as a surprise, it hurts like he!l. You did have the first boy, and he should be recognized and remembered.  (((big hugs)))

  • I'm so sorry. I know how much that hurts. Big (((hugs)))
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  • I certainly understand why that would hurt so much. I am so very sorry. ((Hugs))
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    BFP #2 ~ EDD 11.15.2012 ~ CP 3.7.2012
    BFP #3 ~ DS born 12.03.2012

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  • Big ::HUGS::  I remember that feeling.  

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  • ((HUGS)) I'm so sorry.  FB sucks!

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     TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)

    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

  • I'm so sorry :(  Huge hugs!
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  • I found out last week that my cousin and his wife are having a girl ... And they are due two weeks after our July 23 due date.

    I agree that strangers don't really bother me, but I would have been excited to be pregnant at the same time as family.

    Thinking about you ... I know it's hard. But soon, it will be your turn too.

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    We lost our first (EDD 07/23/12) after finding out at 12 weeks there was no longer a heartbeat. Our rainbow was born 05/22/13 and was worth all we went through.

    “So can you understand? Why I want a daughter while I’m still young? I wanna hold her hand and show her some beauty before all this damage is done. But if it’s too much to ask, it’s too much to ask … Then send me a son.” – Arcade Fire
  • :(  I agree, you did have the first son! That needs to be recognized!  Im sorry what a tough week.
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  • (((HUGS)))

     

    I'm so sorry.

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  • Oh ouch!  I offer knife removal and huge (((hugs))).  That's quite a blow :-(  Today can pretty much suck it!  Any chance of a do over?
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    Dx: balanced translocation and LPD

    TTC since Oct 2011

    BPF 02/19/12, EDD 10/31/12, natural m/c 02/28/12 (4w6d)

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    BFP 12/02/12, u/s @ 6w,5d showed 2 HBs! Identical twins!!
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    Our rainbows were born 07/19/13 (36w, 5d)

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  • I'm so sorry. Both of those things alone would be hard to handle, so I can't even imagine both at once. That sucks. Huge ((hugs))
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    BFP #2 - 8/31/11, EDD 5/10/12, M/C 9/23/11
    BFP #3 - 3/4/12, EDD 11/14/12, CP 3/11/12
    BFP #4 - 5/9/12, EDD 1/19/13, CP 5/11/12
    BFP #5 - 8/22/12, EDD 5/5/13, CP 8/24/12
    IVF#1 - January 2013 - EPP/Antagonist - 7R, 3M, 2F, 3dt of 2 8-cell embies
    BFP #6 - 2/3/13, EDD 10/15/13, DS 9/18/13 at 36w1d
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  • I'm so sorry :( It's especially hurtful because your loss was a boy- do people not have any consideration when they say that she's breaking the streak?!?! Sometimes people should not be allowed to talk. 

    This whole experience has made me realize how hurtful words can be when you don't even realize it. I don't think I will ever post my BFP on facebook or flaunt it like maybe I would have before. It's just not fair to those who are experiencing IF or a MC.  

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  • Thanks guys! The worst part is that I even 'came out' on Facebook a couple weeks ago and said that my first loss was a boy.


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    Married 07/17/2010
    Diagnosed with PCOS 10/20/2010 
    TTC since Oct 2010 
    BFP #1 March 31st 2011 Due December 10 2011 
    Missed m/c discovered June 2nd 2011 at 12w4d
    D&C scheduled June 7th 2011 at 13w2d
    Found out our baby boy had Triploidy XXY through embryopathology
    BFP #2 September 28th 2011 Due June 8th 2012
    Missed m/c discovered November 20th 2011 at 11w2d
    D&C November 29th 2011 at 12w4d
    Found out our baby girl had Monosomy X through embryopathology
    BFP #3 April 24th 2012 Due January 5th 2013
    Betas falling on 04/26/12 Chemical Pregnancy
    RPL testing done, multi nodular goiters on thyroid discovered.

    BFP #4 November 22nd 2012, Due August 5th 2013
    Betas: 17 @ 9dpo, 62 @ 11dpo, 124 @ 12dpo, 321 @ 14dpo 720 @ 16dpo 13,805 @ 23 dpo 
    First ultrasound at 6w3d, hb 122 bpm. 
    Second ultrasound at 7w3d hb 143 bpm 
    Third ultrasound at 10w1d hb 167-170 bpm 
    Forth ultrasound 12w1d hb 167 bpm 
    Graduated rpl program, moving on to regular ob! 
    It's a boy! 

    Little man was born August 1st 2013, 7lbs 8oz and 20.5 inches long



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