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Potty Training
angelrue522
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Potty regression at almost 4 years old boy ADVISE PLEASE!!!
angelrue522
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I have a very stubborn, limit testing son who will be 4 in April. He was'nt potty trained until he was 3 yrs and 4-5 months. He did great for a while but the past month and a half he has been pooping and sometimes peeing in his big boy underwear. We have had no life changes or changes in routine except for that I am pregnant.
For the first couple weeks we didnt make a big deal out of the accidents and told him that it was ok and put it aside. As they kept happening we started putting him in time out when he had accidents. This obviosly is not helping either becase he is still having accidents. I started reading up on potty progression and they said DO NOT PUNISH for accidents and now I am paranoid that I have done even more damage by putting him in timeouts. Nothing is working and I am having another baby in 3 months which is going to cause him extra stress and I am worried how he will adust to this. We also wanted to put him from a home daycare to a preshcool based daycare but are afaid now to make any changes for him due to the fact that he is regressing.
He only has accidents for us at home and never at daycare. Should I just put him in the new pre-school program and hope he adjusts? I dont want him adjusting to a new daycare and a new baby in the family at the same time.
Advise please?????
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Re: Potty regression at almost 4 years old boy ADVISE PLEASE!!!
timeout will teach him not to pee or poop at all and he might hold it too long thus giving himself bladder issues and getting impacted
the only way we could train our son was with bribery. We got the pee training down pretty quickly but it wasn't until 3 months before I had my 2nd son that he was fully poop trained. We had to use jellybeans and dum dum suckers for rewards. If he had an accident we just cleaned it up and he got no reward.
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Does he try to hold it in, or deny he's had an accident when it's quite obvious he has? If this is the case you might want to make an appointment with your doctor. My son started regressing at about 4.5 and it turned out he had something called encopresis. Your son is a little young for that, but it might be worth checking out. This website is a good summary:
https://kidshealth.org/parent/general/sick/encopresis.html
Hopefully it's just a phase though! If that's the case, I think it's best to just continue to be neutral about it. Have him help you clean it up (not as punishment, but as a "this is what he do when we soil ourselves" sort of thing). Will he cooperate with a potty routine of sitting after breakfast and after dinner? We found this helped my son quite a bit. He resisted at first but we got him a leapster he can only play on the toilet and he likes it now. Good luck!
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