those of you who are preg with second baby (or third, or fourth?)

Nicki Boston · April 2012

This is my second baby and I'm already feeling guilty. I already don't feel like I'm giving this baby enough "attention". Now I know it's different b/c first time pregnancies are new and exciting and unknown but I was reading books, making lists, etc with DD. With this baby (and maybe because it's still so early) I feel like I'm not really paying much attention. I don't know.. and yes, I'm aware this sounds awful.

I pray for this baby every day to stick stick stick and I hope more than anything for my little november turkey, it's just such a different feeling than the first. Please tell me I'm not alone!!!

clydeisme · April 2012

You are not alone!! I've been feeling the same way! I'm going to regret saying this but sometimes I almost forget that I'm pregnant, but then a wave of nausea will remind me. I'm so excited to be pregnant again, it's just not the same as the first time.

penguin-kisses · April 2012

That's exactly how I felt with my second one. I didn't really read anything like I did the first time, I could have cared less how many limbs my baby had developed every week, and I didn't take NEARLY as many belly pictures as I did the first pregnancy.

In my case, part of me was terrified to get too attached in case something happened because my second baby pregnancy was preceded by a miscarriage and we had a few different scary test outcomes. It was also a lot harder on my body that time around than my first one so I seriously could not wait for it to be over! It certainly doesn't mean you love your second (or third, or fourth...) any less than your first, I think your priorities just change.

With my first pregnancy I couldn't get excited about the idea of holding my baby for the first time and wasn't all gushy about "oooh I can't wait to meet him!" like so many women are, but it was honestly because I just couldn't picture it! I have trouble with that part of my imagination and I hadn't been around many babies at all before I had my own so I just had no idea what to expect... with my second I was more excited than EVER because I had a much better idea of what to expect. I knew (more or less) what I was in for so it was definitely less scary, and I knew about the happy things I'd get to experience again with a new baby!

I think it's still early but you'll get into the swing of things and find new things to enjoy this pregnancy.

dentom · April 2012

You are not alone! I pray every night for a sticky baby but I am not paying attention to this baby as much either. I know I am lifting to much and just throwing my body around like I shouldn't be. As I write this I am disappointed in myself for doing that. However I am home alone with DS and I can't be helpless like I was with him. This baby was planned and I am beyond excited for the baby, but I have a lot going on. I know it's early I am sure things will change. I just feel for the most part pretty good so no need to lay around and think about baby all day. I love both of my babies so much I just think I am more prepared for this one and know what to expect.

kelly321 · April 2012

dentom:
You are not alone! I pray every night for a sticky baby but I am not paying attention to this baby as much either. I know I am lifting to much and just throwing my body around like I shouldn't be. As I write this I am disappointed in myself for doing that. However I am home alone with DS and I can't be helpless like I was with him. This baby was planned and I am beyond excited for the baby, but I have a lot going on. I know it's early I am sure things will change. I just feel for the most part pretty good so no need to lay around and think about baby all day. I love both of my babies so much I just think I am more prepared for this one and know what to expect.

Yes, yes, yes. DH was gone on a ski trip this weekend, and we're trying to get our apartment ready for our subletters, so all weekend I was packing things and yesterday early evening all of sudden I went, "ok. That was too much. I'm done." This morning I keep getting a twinge on my lower right abdomen, so I just hope it's a ligament or something protesting my treatment of it this weekend. I wish I could be as careful with this baby as I was with DD, but it's very difficult with another LO running/crawling around.

mrsjanks · April 2012

I don't have any guilt. I'm so excited for Landon to have a sibling!

chamommy · April 2012

LOL...I'm one of those mamas working on #4.. I have GREAT news for you! The BEST part of having #2....and beyond...is that you KNOW what to expect and therefore having at least a little less apprehension lets you relax and enjoy the pregnancy. Your body has done this before. You have experienced the miracle of pregnancy, birth, and baby first hand.You also have another baby/toddler/child to care for this time, so naturally ALL of your focus isn't on the pregnancy That's OKAY. It doesn't mean you don't love htis new LO growing in you, it just means you have other things you need to focus on too! .Even better news is that when the baby gets here, you will likely take a deep breath and say, oh yeah, I remember this. I can do this. I must admit, this came most for me with #3 (#2 was much fussier than #1 and kind of threw me for a loop for a while...) Best of luck!

Aloe0l · April 2012

I'm contemplating signing DH & I up for a "Birthing Again" class just so we can take time out to focus on this baby.

GHBEA · April 2012

chamommy:
LOL...I'm one of those mamas working on #4.. I have GREAT news for you! The BEST part of having #2....and beyond...is that you KNOW what to expect and therefore having at least a little less apprehension lets you relax and enjoy the pregnancy. Your body has done this before. You have experienced the miracle of pregnancy, birth, and baby first hand.You also have another baby/toddler/child to care for this time, so naturally ALL of your focus isn't on the pregnancy That's OKAY. It doesn't mean you don't love htis new LO growing in you, it just means you have other things you need to focus on too! .Even better news is that when the baby gets here, you will likely take a deep breath and say, oh yeah, I remember this. I can do this.

This exactly!!!

Chammoy I too am on #4 and expecting it to be DD#4.

gingerbrood · April 2012

i'm the same way, but i don't feel guilty. last time i was nervous and stressed and this time i'm so happy that my little one is baking away in there and i'm not afraid. i think the 2nd one is a gift. you don't have time to freak because you're chasing after #1, you only have time to appreciate that there's something beautiful going on

Nicki Boston · April 2012

Thanks Ladies! It's nice to know I'm not alone and I'll try to ease up on the guilt and just try to enjoy!

Conderfer2010 · April 2012

Nicki, looks like both of our babies will be the same age. I haven't seen very many moms on here with babies going to be so close in age. Nice to meet you

Yes, I feel the same as you. The first around I created a blog and updated it weekly with how I'm feeling, pics, etc. this time, we keep talking about snapping a pic each week, but have yet to. With my almost one year old running around the house and me being so tired at the moment, taking pics are the last things on my mind. You definitely are not alone.

srleine · April 2012

clydeisme:
You are not alone!! I've been feeling the same way! I'm going to regret saying this but sometimes I almost forget that I'm pregnant, but then a wave of nausea will remind me. I'm so excited to be pregnant again, it's just not the same as the first time.

this exactly!

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