Breast Feeding Poll

luvlieK · November 2008

I had seen this discussion on DS. ?I was wondering what our EFF ladies felt on the subject. ?The question was about babysitting someone else's child and being told she could bf him, if she wanted. ?Would you? ?And would you want the reverse?

AnnaBananaBelle · November 2008

I'm not sure I understand the question? I wouldn't breastfeed someone else's child unless it was a disaster/emergency and that child had no other access to food. I have donated my breastmilk though, and felt comfortable doing that.

Califlorida · November 2008

i dunno. a co-worker told me she couldn't understand why her sil didn't want her to bf her niece. since she was the one babysitting and was nursing her own daughter, she figured she could just nurse both instead of heat a bottle.

i thought that was weird.

but then my little sis had her baby and i instantly thought, if she was having trouble bf'ing i would bf my nephew in an instant.

so maybe i'm weird?

DomerJenC · November 2008

I would do this with a particular friend - we've actually discussed it. But I think I'm probably in the minority.

This is relatively common in different cultures, and certainly a few generations ago!

Lady Galadriel · November 2008

Umm, no. I just want to make enough for dd though.

thejennigirl · November 2008

I have donated BM to a local mom in the past. I don't know if I would nurse another woman's child, but I would give a bottle of my bm if asked to.

I'm not sure how I would feel about another mom nursing my child. Kind of makes me uncomfortable.

MeantToBeWed · November 2008

ok.....if, for example, my i was babysitting my niece (just 2 mths younger than dd), and there wasn't enough milk (or formula - but i don't think she's ever had that), and it was going to be a while before my sil came back, I would be willing to bf her. as far as my sil doing the same for my dd - i guess i wouldn't mind, however, i'm also not sure about any potential dieases that sil may have - but i think i could trust her since she bf's her dd.

SapphyrEyes · November 2008

I would do it and would want the reverse amongst my family and friends. But, I grew up with this so it's not weird to me. I actually offered to DH's cousin who went through a few biopsies earlier this summer for cancer tests (luckily she turned out to not have cancer) and she declined. But, if she had wanted her DC to continue to have BM I would have nursed and pumped for her little one who was barely even 8 weeks at the time. I'm not the norm for an American though.

KHoekstra · November 2008

When I was a bay I had latch issues and so I would rip open my mother's breasts and would eventually just drink blood and of course cry about it. ?My mom was with her sister once and I was getting blood from both nipples (she was so cracked) that my aunt nursed me (my cousin is 6 weeks younger than me). ?I guess since I know this happened for me, I don't think it's weird and would do it for other family members and vice versa. ?However, I don't have kids so I don't know if my opinion is fully valid yet.

Dobie_Mama · November 2008

I would, with certain friends ... on either end of the scenario.

lxlz611 · November 2008

The only time I would BF another baby is if it was my bf's baby (she's trying to get pg) and if her baby didn't have milk/ formula and she would be gone for awhile. Also vice versa if she was sitting my baby and he didn't have milk. Oh, and if she couldn't bf for some reason I would pump for her and I wouldn't mind if she did the same for my DS. But, I would not want anybody else to bf my baby, too risky.?

greta&tess · November 2008

I have 2 friends that dc are within 2 weeks of dd2. So we were all BF and would talk about this.

In an emergency where there was nothing else, I wouldn't mind. But I'm not against formula so why not just give that.

My friend's ds has had my BM though in a bottle. We have playdate once a week and she lives 30 min away. I had taken frozen BM twice and put in it her fridge because I had to go somewhere. She never ended up using it for dd and I forgot it. It was only good for 24 hours since it had been frozen. She used it when she was at work the next day. At least it didn't go to waste. This is the same friend that BF her nephew and her sister BF her dd.

justgnat · November 2008

I might pump and bottle feed that child, but I wouldn't BF a child not my own. And I wouldn't want anyone else giving their milk to my baby. Disease can be spread thru any bodily fluids...not worth the risk.

kiliwicket · November 2008

Nope. IF I dropped my child off at a babysitter they would be supplied with BM and bottles. But I don't know how they treat their body, if its up to my personal standards, to bf my child for me. If it was an emergency of some sort and it was the only means necessary, then yes.

KatieLG04 · November 2008

No I would only want to BF my baby or have him get my milk. It would have to be someone very close to me or a very dire situation for either scenerio to happen. I would give my milk in a bottle or donate if that was needed though.

*speedracer* · November 2008

no. bottles were invented for a reason.

Halo79RN · November 2008

never have had that conversation... ???... think it depends on the friend/family. I would donate bm..and would have accepted it via milk bank if I didn't milk like a dairy cow.

hula_lula · November 2008

In extreme circumstances I would BF someone else's baby. I would never be ok with someone else nursing my child, no matter who they were.

I'm planning on donating BM next time around which IMO is a bit different.

Mrs.KittyCat · November 2008

My friend told me that when she was a baby (30 years ago) her mom and her BF would babysit for each other and would BF each other's kids. I don't have any girl friends that I am THAT close to... it has never been brought up, and I would feel pretty weird about BFing someone else's kid, but BFing was always kind of hard for me even though I did it for a whole year.

Alligator · November 2008

No, I'm not comfortable with that at all. Like the pp said, if there was a dire emergency I might feel comfortable with my sister bfing DS or me bfing my niece. But definitely not if they were just babysitting and I didn't feel like bringing a bottle.

smurfetteinred · November 2008

For disease reasons there would be a VERY limited number of people that I would be ok doing this with. Actually, I can only think of one at the moment and we've been bf's since we were small children. And I think it would probably be more of a need scenario then to do it just to do it. I don't really see the huge deal in this outside of the contamination aspect of it.

luvlieK · November 2008

I had to leave right after posting, so I never got to include my response. ?But I am in the no category as well. ?But on DS, believe or not almost everyone was a?definite?yes and hardly any Nos

goodhartedmommy · November 2008

If I needed to be away from my EBF baby and she would not take a bottle, I would want the person to BF them. I would do the same for someone who asked. I've offered my older DD other people's BM (my friend and my sister, both who I trust). I would have allowed them to BF her, but it was frozen milk and neither were actually producing at the moment. I had mastitis and DD would not drink my milk (you wouldn't either if you had seen/smelled it!).

So, yeah, it wouldn't bother me at all.

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