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dana316
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Do you ever wonder why you get unfriended on FB?
dana316
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In this particular case, I noticed that a SAIF'er unfriended me. They still have tons of other SAIF friends...but not me.
I honestly wish I didn't care...and it really is a petty thing...but it just got me to wondering why. This was not a person I've ever had any beef with...but someone I wholly supported. I'm not exactly a 'hot button' SAIF'er, and I honestly can't remember having pissed anyone off...so it suprised me when I noticed it.
Like I said, it is a really stupid, petty thing...and I am embarrassed to admit it, but it stings a little...
So you ever wonder why you get unfriended on FB? Or is that just me, being childish?
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Re: Do you ever wonder why you get unfriended on FB?
I usually never notice. Haha!
The only reason I defriend people is if they post crap that irritates me ALL the time or if I find that I don't really KNOW them that well. I don't remember deleting any SAIFers, but who knows.
It wasn't me was it?
Nope
I unfriended someone because I saw them in real life - said hi to them and they couldn't be bothered with me. Another whatev - good enough to be FB friends, but not friendly in the real world??
In any event, I don't let it bother me unless I "talk" to them a lot, then I would send a message wondering what was up and attempt to clear up any issues there may be.
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I try to not give it any thought! You can't win 'em all!
I do have to say, I went to FB to make sure it was not inadvertently
me!
I wonder too. I was unfriended by an SAIF'er too. I had no beef with her or her with me so I have no idea why.
I would honestly never notice. I don't keep track how many i have - and even if i happened to look and notice one day - and then saw that number shrink - i'd have no idea who it was.
I think you shouldn't worry about it at ALL - oftentimes people clean house and if that saif'er didn't recognize your real name she probably inadvertently defriended you, thinking she didn't know you (well.) Don't sweat it!
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
Let me add that it wasn't anyone who still regularly posts on the board...and that I only noticed it because FB suggested we become friends ;-0
Does that make it a little less pathetic that it hurt my feelings?? LOL
I periodically clean house on FB...and delete people that I haven't had any FB interaction with in a long time (ie we don't comment or like eachothers activities). I just don't like thinking that people have access to my pictures and updates but don't like or care enough about me and my family to put any effort in. So I can be pretty brutal with my cuts. And I am sure I have cut SAIFers, perhaps inadvertently, especilay if I don't remember who they are on the board. It is never personal, and I don't think too much about it because if I never put any effort into interacting with someone on FB, I wouldn't be offended if they defriended me, you know?
Because we're fancy like that.
I know you! And I felt the same way as you for a bit because my first pregnancy was on a break between IVF's and my second was also a surprise. I had mixed emotions about #2 at first and didn't feel right here with so many working HARD to get their BFP's. But I quickly got over it because I love my SAIF girls.
Welcome back!
This!
I go in fits and spurts on FB so I rarely notice that kinda thing.
I did wonder why I got blocked by a few people on here once when I finally figured out that actually I had accidentally blocked THEM. Duh...
The way I look at it - sometimes I get sick of my own yammering. I'm sure others do as well. Not everyone loves everyone else all the time.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I just looked and I've bee defriended by a former SAIFer. I wonder if it's the same person. To be fair I had considered deleting her too...so whatevs.
Are you and I even friends on FB? I don't know.
Same thing happened to me...a SAIF'er unfriended me but is still friends with lots of other SAIF'ers. And I only wondered cause people were posting here about pictures they saw on FB, but I didn't see the pics. That's when I realized I was unfriended. I wondered for a little bit and then just let it go.
And lollalillie, I'm in the same boat as you and wondered if I should still post here but it is what it is, ya know? And I like keeping up with the girls and their kiddos.
I did run and check to make sure it wasn't me dana! But nope, we're still friends.
BFP with no treatment!
You are all too kind
I still lurk but will definitely get back to posting more often 
I just would hate it if I hurt someone's feelings. I know that so many girls struggle to get pregnant again (if at all) and I have immense guilt that we were able to do so, twice. I have always loved this community and the people in it 
Ditto this.
Also, while I don't "keep track" I do periodically notice that I haven't seen someone's posts in a while, and then I check whether we're still friends. It always stings for me. I wonder if I said something to offend them or something, and while I really TRY not to, it always makes me worry. Maybe I'm just sensitive, but I don't seem to be able to change that.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
The same thing happened to me a month or so ago with a SAIFer and it did make me stop and wonder. Just liked you said above, I'm so totally non-drama and this was someone I have supported.
I like to think this person was just cleaning out their list and likely didn't recognize my real name. But yep, it did sting a little. But I'm moving on!
I have never noticed if I was unfriended, so I maybe I don't notice - but I do get super annoyed at certain people and want to delete them, but never have the guts.
It bothers me when I comment/like a certain person's stuff and reach out to them privately and yet get nothing in return. I think it is just super rude.
I have recently made a business page and set up a charity, there are certain people who I have supported that have not yet liked my page and/or donated to my charity (after donating to their stuff and liking their pages) that will get deleted here soon. I just don't feel like I need them around if I support them, but they don't support me back.
Diagnosed PCOS & MFI-Success with IUI
Nope, not you either
I actually hadn't noticed that you un-friended me. I did like seeing your 356 project...but that's fine.
Dana- I posted something to your FB wall- I think it will make you chuckle.
I think there was a SaIF'er who let us know that she was de-friending everyone for privacy purposes. I can't remember who it was though.
If I ever do that to someone, just re-friend me. Sometimes I don't recognize names and get a little deletion happy. lol!
I don't unfriend people very often, but I have such a horrible time linking FB names to nest names, especially if the person doesn't use their kid(s) name(s) or have siggy pics. I could see myself deleting someone who doesn't post on FB much, only because I wasn't really sure who they were!
As for being deleted myself, I usually don't notice, lol. If I did notice, I know it would hurt my feelings, even though it is not a big deal. But, I post a ton, with lots of pictures, so I would understand if people thought I was being annoying.
I went through not that long ago and "unsubscribed" from a bunch of people. Most were high school people or distant relatives that I don't really care to see their day-to-day posts in my feed. This way, they are still my friend and I can see their wall, but I don't have all of their stuff cluttering my feed. From what I understand, they have no idea that I did this, so their feelings won't be hurt.
I am into a cycle of seeing the same people's posts all the time..so I comment or like their post, which makes facebook keep showing me their posts. Because of that, there are several people from here that I "know" but I never see their facebook updates. If they unfriended me, I wouldn't notice probably.
I noticed one of my old coworkers unfriended me and I wondered why...then I found out she left her husband and was dating a woman now...so she ditched her old facebook account and set up a new one. I am friends with her again...she had to refriend everyone that she wanted to remain friends with.
This.
Dana, I feel the same way. I really enjoy looking at photos and updates from fellow SAIFers especially those (like you) that have kids the same age as mine or went through ART at the same time. I feel like I am supportive and so non drama so my feelings get hurt when I get unfriended especially because I do not think I have ever unfriended anyone! :-)
I hope it wasnt me! Were we friends on FB?
I had put my account on hold for a couple of weeks and when I came back a lot of my friends were missing. A few people had friend requested me again and that is what made me realize some were missing. So if it was me (or even if it wasnt) please feel free to friend me!!
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