Babies: 9 - 12 Months
Has your LO been without you overnight - moms of 11 mnth olds
Just wondering if any of you have left your child overnight with family/babysitter... I have once and it wasn't a full night - he was with my mom for literally a few hours because I couldn't take it.
Wondering what age you left them overnight without you, or if not, when do you think you will?
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Re: Has your LO been without you overnight - moms of 11 mnth olds
I left Chloe for two nights when she was 2 months old. It was tough but the alone time with my husband was wonderful. Also, around 4 months old she stayed at my MIL's house overnight, we were 5 minutes down the road.
We may be leaving her overnight again in early June so we can go do something for our anniversary.
I had to leave DD for a night for work travel when she was 5 months old. I wasn't happy about it, but she did fine with DH and I was thankful it was only 1 night at least. We were gone for 2 nights for an out of town wedding when she was 6 months old. My mom stayed with her and it was hard for me, but she seemed to have a great time. Now we have another 2 night trip coming up for another wedding when she'll be 13 months old and I'm really stressing about it. She's much more particular now about who she's with, how she goes to bed, etc and she still wakes up to nurse at least 2 or 3 times a night, so I'm not sure how well she'll go back to sleep without me there. MIL and FIL will be staying with her though, and she does love them, so hopefully it will go ok.
If DD were STTN, I'd have no problem with being away overnight occasionally, especially if she were with a family member. Since she's nowhere near STTN, it really stresses me out and I'm glad this is the last time we'll have to do it for a while.
I didn't leave DD1 overnight until she was 18 months old. We had planned to at 16 months, but had to bump our trip due to buying a house. She stayed with my parents and did great, and also did great 4 weeks later when she stayed with my parents again while I was in the hospital having DD2. It was easier to be away from her than I anticipated - I missed her, but the time with just DH and I was much needed.
I was definitely not ready to leave her any earlier than that, and won't leave DD2 overnight until she's at least a year. But I'm now much more confident the world won't end if we're gone more than a few hours :P
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I guess I just don't get it...DD spent the night with my mom when she was 5 weeks old...Was it hard - yes. Do I regret it - no. She was in great hands and I was able to get some much needed rest so I could be a better mom for her when my mom brought her back (I was battling mastitis and an abscess, my mom took her so I could work on getting better). She has probably spent the night with them at least once a month since then, if not more.
They both love it...and it gives DH and me some much-needed bonding time.
The silly thing is - they think I don't let them have her enough and are being stingy with her lol. Hello! She's my baby I need time with her too!
I did once at 10 months overnight, but LO was with my H (which Iknow is a tad different than a grandparent or babysitter). LO didn't even know I was gone and actually slept through the night (which has only happened a handful of times).
H and I will leave LO overnight with my MIL in the summer for a concert. MIL (and probably FIL) will come stay the night at our house to take care of LO
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I haven't left him overnight yet, although DH and I are hoping to go on a couples vacation later this summer.
Right now it's just impossible. DS won't sleep anywhere but his crib, and he won't take a bottle from anybody but me. Plus, he's still not STTN so I don't think it's fair to whoever is watching him.
7 times so far. I have no problem with it. No longer than 4 nights straight so far, but DH and I are going on vacation alone for 10 days in June.
When I've been away she's either been with DH or her grandparents, so it's not a big deal. I miss her, but I can't imagine not having a life of my own outside of my child.
we just got back from a trip to Hawaii.. LO stayed with my in laws. it was really tough initially but we knew if they needed anything they'd call. We called once a day just to find out everything was fine.
I'm glad we did it but I'm also glad it's over
I left DD once for a night to celebrate my best friend's 30th. She was 11m. My parents stayed with her during the day and put her down for the night, then DH was home for the overnight. I was hesitant but it went totally smooth and I'd do it again. She's a great sleeper, I am just a mom and had an inexplicable nervousness about being apart from her.
H and I are leaving her with my parents for two or three nights in June when she'll be almost 15m because I want to go away and drink my face off for my 30th. A good friend is also due to have a baby in two weeks and doesn't have a mother to help her once her husband goes back to work, so I may go stay with her for a few nights if she needs me.
Like my mom told me when I was nervous about leaving her the first time: "You just have to do it. She's in good hands, and you won't regret it."
Yes, I was gone on a business trip for 3 days/2 nights last week. I really didn't have a choice, but DH did a great job with her and while she showed signs she missed me, we facetimed on our iPhones and it helped a bit.
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I've left him one night when he was 8 months and I was burnt out exhausted. My sister volunteered to take care of him, and I let her. I left and slept at a friends, and it was glorious. DS doesn't take a bottle, and he doesn't sttn so that night was hard for him, but he was fine.
Once he gets better at sleeping, DH and I might take a night away. It really depends when he's night weaned. I don't like to pump and he doesn't like bottles, so that does limit us a bit. Generally, it's not a problem for me.
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We have done overnights before---two weddings (one in October, and in January)--she stayed with my parents for one and my MIL for the other.
My husband and I have also had individual overnights where one of us went away. I went to the city to visit with my best friend and he watched her overnight for some "girl's time"--and then this weekend actually he is in AC for beerfest, so I am going solo with her.
My daughter for the most part is a REALLY good sleeper--and usually sleeps straight through until 5:30am. So we were never worried about that. Also due to medicine that I have to take, I was never allowed to breastfeed--so she was always on formula, which makes it easier as well.
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