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BM made me dinner

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Yes you read that right!!!

BM called me yesterday just as I was leaving work.  She asked me if I could take SS to his play as she has seen it three times already (she volunteers at the school).  She said if DH and I were going there was no need for her to go again.

I arrived to her house straight from work.  She and SS has just returned from guitar lessons and she had thrown on some chix dippers and fries for him as he was short on time.  She knew I didn't have time to eat so she threw on some extra for me and her. 

I actually thought it was a really nice gesture.  It was also totally fine and we all chatted very naturally. 

SS and I went to his school where I was greeted by all his teachers and his friends parents.

After the play DH and I hung out for a little while with the parents of one of SS friends that we have come to know.  I really like them.

I dropped SS home after the play and he was literally bouncing in the seat with adrenalin.  When we got to his gate we sat chatting (about the food pyramid lol) for about 10 mins before I had to say to him 'SS you better go in its getting late'.

At home dh and I were talking and he said that he gets very nervous about the fact that I end up having to hang out with BM or have dinner with her or care of SS on the weekend.  He said he hates that it falls to me and that he really appreciates all I do and he never sees it as my responsibility.

He said that when I told him about my evening his first response was to get really angry at BM.  He said it is enough that he askes me to help out without BM feeling like she can just call me and ask me to do things.

I told him that I feel that HE created the situation by where she wont call him (BM is kinda timid and DH just steamrolls her.  I have noticed that if BM names comes up on DH phone his whole demeanour changes.  He answers the phone with 'hello' but truly his tone says 'what do you want?')

I told him that it was fine that and that in all honestly I actually like BM.  I find her very polite, greatful and accommadating.  I told him that she is actually nice.

I read Twinks post to him (he said he could not handle that and he would rather leave than deal with the constant stress.  He said that Twinks DH will eventually have nervous breakdown trying to please everyone).

Then he said ' BM is a good person and a good mother isn't she?'. 

This is HUGE progress.

I told him maybe he should tell her that some day.  He just looked at me. 

Maybe someday!!!

 

 

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  • JayMOOMOOJayMOOMOO
    i must say my DH 2nd BM is like that. shes very nice laid back she remarried with a 2nd kid herself. I use to date a guy before Him who had a daughter i loved her so much. Her mom use to call me for eveything instead of him she put me on the emergency contact lsit if her daughter had an emergency at school shes nice her whole family was nice. her grandmother loved me and they told the guy i was dating that he had a good thing but he wouldnt commit. Anyways she and i were close she also use to cook every now and then and ask us if we would like some if we havent cooked or ate yet. I think its better when the whole family can get along but if you ever have doubts follow your gut and if you dont see her cook it then dont eat it. My DH first BM is like that i do not trust her period.
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  • NativeNyerNativeNyer
    Your title made me choke on my coffee.
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  • Holly_1007Holly_1007 member
    I'm so extremely jealous.  I wish I had this kind of relationship with BM.  not that we were 'freinds" but atleast that we all got along, for SD's sake
                           
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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    Love this update!  So happy for your blended family sweetness!

     

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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  • honeybee #1honeybee #1
    imageNativeNyer:
    Your title made me choke on my coffee.
    Lol. It got my 'you've got to be kidding' eyebrow raise. I'm jealous too, even when BM was super involved we never got along. Civil was our very best.
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  • OoglybearOoglybear member

    That's really awesome! 


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  • acardona1010acardona1010 member
    It's so nice to hear about someone else who has a good relationship with BM.  I literally talk with BM daily and get updates on the kiddos school day.  My DH is the same way though, he could care less and answers the phone with the same tone.  Luckily we all talk and are able to do whatever we need to for the kids.  I was just thinking about how thankful I am to have her to call on.
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