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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
DH is annoying and I'm a mess (vent...)
So I am a working mom (teacher) and my husband works graves so it is just me at night. He usually comes off of his grave shift in the morning, takes DD, feeds her, ships her off to the sitter and gets 8-9 hours of uninterrupted sleep each day. He tells me that I "don't understand what it is like to work a grave and in fact he 'needs' 11-12 hours of sleep to feel normal." !?! WOW, don't we all!?
Lately DD has been waking in the night (after STTN since 5 weeks.) so my days have been exhausting. Husband comes home this morning and talks about how tired he is. Uhm REALLY?! He IS coming down with a cold but come on! I find myself just giving him the stink eye most of the time and being horribly annoyed that I just can't stand it.
To top it off I just got a call that the only other kid that our sitter watches has croup:( GREAT! Should be a long week (end) and I'm hoping DD doesn't get it. That's the last thing she needs after having the reddest butt in the west THIS week. Poor BB. Thanks for listening!
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Re: DH is annoying and I'm a mess (vent...)
Hate to say it, but it only gets worse with 2!
I cosleep with DD, and our 2 year old still sometimes wakes at night. So, DH takes the couch, and then, the once or twice a week when DS starts moaning, he goes, tucks him back in, and goes back to sleep. And snores. Yet, I am up with feedings all night. And, then he has the gall to say how bad it is to sleep on the couch, and how he gets no sleep. I HEAR YOU SNORING ALL NIGHT!!! hehe. Sometimes guys are such babies themselves. It's like that when he gets sick too. Like, he is the only one who has ever had a bad cold or flu and he is dying. He did tell me that he could never be a mom, and I loved hearing that.
Once the sleepless time is over, it will go back to normal, I promise!
BWAAHHAA- yes, I'd love to kick him square in the nuts and smile, then head off to work. LOL:)
I agree with all of this. It's a crappy situation for everyone, not just him and not just you. It drives me nuts when DH asks me what's wrong and I say I'm tired and then he says I'm tired too. I want to be like "Oh so I must have imagined that you got 8 hours of sleep while I was up with DS 3 times last night."
All that said, I have worked the graveyard shift prior to getting married and sleeping during the day is much different than sleeping at night. At least for me it was. It was never a deep sleep and I was always exhausted. It didn't help when I had days off and tried to have a "normal" schedule those days. I'm not saying your DH needs 12 hours of sleep but cut him a little slack.
I know! My son JUST started to approach this in the last two weeks.
to the OP: I worked 7pm to 7am as a nurse prior to having my son. I could only ever get 4 or so hours of sleep during the day, I just could not sleep more even though I was tired. So, the fact that he gets 8 or 9 - he is pretty well rested!
Sorry you are both struggling, I hope it gets better soon.
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
My DH has started going to be around 7:30 pm...while I'm fighting to get B to sleep for about 2-3 hours at a time...he then still has the balls to complain about how tired he is. Try being up all the freaking time with a teething 4 month old...then we can talk tired.
To the poster that asked if this was MUD...grave yard shift may be hard but that doesn't mean that the OP can't be upset with the way her husband is acting. Being a mom is hard enough without listening to your partner in parenthood complain about his lack of sleep. That doesn't equal MUD.
To the lady that responded saying this was MUD...I think your answer is MUD. Seriously? You can't cut the woman slack? Taking care of an infant by yourself especially at night is hard work. Maybe your child sleeps through the night, but most of us don't have that little pleasure occurring on a daily basis. Night after night waking up 2,3,4 times is EXHAUSTING! And the worst part is nobody knows when it's going to end or get better.
To OP, I'm wishing you sleeping vibes...I hope your baby gives you one night of rest!
LOL. Every word of this is so true.
To the post that said this was MUD....I agree with the other posters that said your post is MUD! LOL, seriously!? Oh poor DH, only getting 11-12 hours of sleep!
Update: Now LO has only been waking once per night which is a lot better. She has a pretty red butt still but we finally got an Rx so hopefully that helps her. I'm actually looking forward to her 4 month appt so we can get some answers as far as her endless pooping. Hopefully we can start some solids and get her back on track. Thank you all for your encouragement...it really does help me!