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July 2011 Moms
JessandIgli
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DH vent (kind of ridiculous so bear with me)
JessandIgli
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Yesterday I went to my hair stylist for layers and a trim. She has been my friend/stylist for a while now. My sister is in styling school so the time before this, I let her cut my hair. To be fair, she was just starting out in school. She didn't really do enough layers and kind of cut it shorter than I wanted. DH told me he didn't like it. Anyway, I waited a few months to grow it out and then went to my friend.
So last night, DH comes home and goes, "Now your sister should learn to cut hair like Nicole!" I don't know why but I just went ape sh!t on him. I was partly mad because he was clearly insulting my sister, but most of me was just angry because if you like my hair, give me a REAL compliment. "I like your hair, you look pretty, etc.." Not a backhanded compliment that really didn't have anything to do with me but rather pitting my sister's talents against my friend's when my friend has been a certified stylist for over 5 years. He said to calm down and that he was making a joke but I didn't find it funny.
Anyway, if you made it through my ridiculous post thank you. I don't know why I got so upset. Maybe it's just because I could use some genuine compliments. I am working hard taking this baby weight off but my confidence after the baby is defintely not what it used to be. I'm working on that. I told him that this morning. I really didn't mean to make him feel bad but do guys realize how much a nice genuine compliment means? Or maybe I just take everything wrong. A few weeks ago we went out to breakfast and he goes, "That's probably the best outfit you own." I don't know why but if he had said, "That outfit looks so good on you" or "You look so pretty today" I think it would have sounded so much better. Don't get me wrong, he is a great, loving husband but this kind of stuff just gets to me.
So, am I completely overreacting or does my H not know how to give compliments at all? I've got my big girl panties on give it to me straight!
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Re: DH vent (kind of ridiculous so bear with me)
Baby Boy #1: 7.7.11
Baby Boy #2: 5.6.13
Baby Boy #3: edd 4.25.15
i think the pp is right, he's giving you compliments, it's just not exactly how you'd like ot hear them.
i can totally relate though. years ago i went to victoria's secret semi-annual sale and brought home this slinky nightgown. DH looked at it and said, 'that looks like something that came from sears not victoria's secret, but it's cute.'
"cute" is not what i was going for. i was pissed. the nightgown stayed on that night!
when i talk about my post baby body he says, 'don't worry you look fine.' again, "fine" is not what i'm looking for! but maybe he's saying this because sexy love goddess is out of the ballpark!
My DH says dumb things like this too. He thinks he's funny... He also tells me that I look pretty, sexy etc so when does say something dumb I tend to let it roll right off. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Yes this is my DH! I bought a springy dress to wear to work and DH goes, "It's cute...hmm the colors are a little grandma looking though." I laughed at that one. So he probably thinks I'm a nutjob who laughs at some of his comments and snaps at others! I do need to learn to relax and just take the compliment under the joke!
Thanks for the responses ladies! At least I know that this is a typical "guy" thing and I just have to relax!