July 2011 Moms

UO Thursday

When kids do poorly in elementary school, I usually think that it is the parents' fault. I do understand that there are cases of learning disabilities, physical problems (hearing, vision, etc), and other issues. I am not talking about this minority. I think that most of the time, the parents did not properly prepare their children for school, or the parents are not as involved in their child's education as they need to be. I think that it is a shame.

All this is coming from a FTM so feel free to flame if you are a 2+ mom or teacher or anybody else with a more experienced opinion.

I also think that kids are labeled with an ADD/ADHD diagnosis way too easily. I think that many of these diagnoses are excuses for you kid's bad behavior/poor performance in school. That being said, I do believe that it is a real thing and some kids truly have these disorders ... just not as many as are labeled with them.

 

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  • I 100% agree with Mason&Mama (especially on the exception side)... it drives me absolutely batty when people blame EVERYTHING on the teacher. Growing up, my parents were both teachers with tons of experience. They brought home work often, and thought and worried about the children everyday. 

    I have an acquaintance that is so critical of her grandkids teachers... literally every time I'm with her she mentions how her grandkid is so smart and did something wrong in school but it is the teacher's fault. And the teacher doesn't know what they're doing. I admit there are bad ones out there it's just that you can't blame all your child's issues on the expert in the room. I'm going to try my hardest to remember this when I hear negative or constructive feedback from LO's teachers.

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    I 100% agree with Mason&Mama (especially on the exception side)... it drives me absolutely batty when people blame EVERYTHING on the teacher. Growing up, my parents were both teachers with tons of experience. They brought home work often, and thought and worried about the children everyday. 

    I have an acquaintance that is so critical of her grandkids teachers... literally every time I'm with her she mentions how her grandkid is so smart and did something wrong in school but it is the teacher's fault. And the teacher doesn't know what they're doing. I admit there are bad ones out there it's just that you can't blame all your child's issues on the expert in the room. I'm going to try my hardest to remember this when I hear negative or constructive feedback from LO's teachers.

    agree. Especially the last part about our own children. (i can't believe one day they'll be old enough for school :( )
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    I hate when discussions about charity come up and people say they donate to animal charities because they like animals better than people. I don't care what people choose to spend their money on, but I hate when they specifically point out that they prefer animals to people.

    Oh I agree with this!  DH says this all the time, and it drives me crazy. Though he says it less now that DD is here.

     

  • I agree with M&M on all of that. So many kids are labeled simply because no one cares enough to figure out what is actually going on with the kid.

    I also cannot STAND when people criticize teachers and say they make too much money and have too many perks. I worked in public schools for about 4 years, and I know what these people make (and it is not much, especially for having degrees), and I know what they deal with. They work long hours, and have to simultaneously take care of and teach upwards of 30 children at once. Then, they take the work home with them. So yeah, they have a few weeks off in the summer, but otherwise I think they would have a meltdown. I dare any of these complainers to spend one week doing what a teacher does- I guarantee they won't say teachers "make too much money" again.

  • imageMason&Mama:

    When kids do poorly in elementary school, I usually think that it is the parents' fault. I do understand that there are cases of learning disabilities, physical problems (hearing, vision, etc), and other issues. I am not talking about this minority. I think that most of the time, the parents did not properly prepare their children for school, or the parents are not as involved in their child's education as they need to be. I think that it is a shame.

    All this is coming from a FTM so feel free to flame if you are a 2+ mom or teacher or anybody else with a more experienced opinion.

    I also think that kids are labeled with an ADD/ADHD diagnosis way too easily. I think that many of these diagnoses are excuses for you kid's bad behavior/poor performance in school. That being said, I do believe that it is a real thing and some kids truly have these disorders ... just not as many as are labeled with them.

     

    I agree also, and I am a teacher. Call it passing the buck, but by the time I see them, they are 14+, and it is hard to undo the sense of entitlement, the disrespect for authority, lack of organization and poor study skills. Not to mention, lack of motivation and no drive to succeed in life. Now please don't get me wrong, these kids are the MINORITY, but I keep trying to bring that number down, despite how difficult it is to "teach an old dog new tricks"-- it's not impossible, but those skills need to be taught at home, from a very young age. If a parents doesn't require respect from their child, what are the chances they will give it to another adult who crosses their path?

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  • The whole ADHD thing has always angered me. I feel like it's so over diagnosed to cover up lazy parenting. Almost every child in America could be labeled ADHD thanks to our sedentary lifestyles.
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    I'm happy that I didn't vote for Obama

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    Me too! I consider her a best friend only I feel kinda strange talking about sex with her son to her

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    I'm happy that I didn't vote for Obama

    I love my MIL

    Me too! I consider her a best friend only I feel kinda strange talking about sex with her son to her

    We're close and all, but we don't talk sex. My MIL teaches CCD for petes sake. No sex talk, but she does love Chelsea Handler Ha!

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    I'm pissed that I did.Indifferent

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    I'm happy that I didn't vote for Obama

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    I'm pissed that I did.Indifferent

    The Republican candidates terrify me.  

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    I'm happy that I didn't vote for Obama

    I love my MIL

    I'm pissed that I did.Indifferent

    The Republican candidates terrify me.  

    As a Repbulican, they scare me too.  

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    We aren't going to feed DD meat. 

    Every? Are you vegetarians? Are you just skipping pureed meats?

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    imageDeblondie1:
    We aren't going to feed DD meat. 

    Every? Are you vegetarians? Are you just skipping pureed meats?

    We mostly are, yes. If she wants to try when we go out to eat that's totally fine. But I don't cook meat at home. And for some reason pureed meat grosses me out. But like I said, if when she is older and can ask for it, I'll let her order it.  

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  • I despise tv. We've been without it in our house for a little over a year, and now when I'm someplace where a tv is on, the noise just grates on my nerves. What little I catch of tv, I can tell how much absolute garbage is on now. Even news is not so much news anymore as it is fear-mongering about random topics chosen by a producer who didn't have anything else to fill time. It reminds me of the John Tesh radio show - UGH!!!!

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  • agreed. i know that there are good teachers, bad teachers and a lot somewhere in between. but i think this makes it all the more reason for the parents to take responsibility for their children and the children's futures. 
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  • I dont love the ocean. I hate how it makes my skin & hair feel. That gritty salty feeling drives me nuts. Its cool to go to for a few hours once a year but beyond that Im all set. 
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    I dont love the ocean. I hate how it makes my skin & hair feel. That gritty salty feeling drives me nuts. Its cool to go to for a few hours once a year but beyond that Im all set. 

    I LOVE that feeling. Especially, the wavy nappy crusty hair. 

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    imagemainemommy:
    I dont love the ocean. I hate how it makes my skin & hair feel. That gritty salty feeling drives me nuts. Its cool to go to for a few hours once a year but beyond that Im all set. 

    I LOVE that feeling. Especially, the wavy nappy crusty hair. 

    Our friends all do a camping trip to the ocean every year. I cant bring myself to go for this reason alone. I cant imagine not being able to escape it. 

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  • imageMason&Mama:

    When kids do poorly in elementary school, I usually think that it is the parents' fault. I do understand that there are cases of learning disabilities, physical problems (hearing, vision, etc), and other issues. I am not talking about this minority. I think that most of the time, the parents did not properly prepare their children for school, or the parents are not as involved in their child's education as they need to be. I think that it is a shame.

    All this is coming from a FTM so feel free to flame if you are a 2+ mom or teacher or anybody else with a more experienced opinion.

    I also think that kids are labeled with an ADD/ADHD diagnosis way too easily. I think that many of these diagnoses are excuses for you kid's bad behavior/poor performance in school. That being said, I do believe that it is a real thing and some kids truly have these disorders ... just not as many as are labeled with them.

     

    I agree M&M, I was labeled with ADD when I was a kid and that really wasn't the problem.  I actually suffer from dyslexia and because of the dyslexia I had a hard time learning until I learned how to handle the dyslexia.  I think that the US has a really bad policy on identifying and addressing dyslexia. 

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    I despise tv. We've been without it in our house for a little over a year, and now when I'm someplace where a tv is on, the noise just grates on my nerves. What little I catch of tv, I can tell how much absolute garbage is on now. Even news is not so much news anymore as it is fear-mongering about random topics chosen by a producer who didn't have anything else to fill time. It reminds me of the John Tesh radio show - UGH!!!!

    I agree about the news!  I wish they could get back to just reporting and not creating their own stories...

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