When did you have a baby shower? or not at all? I can't decide when I want to do one because I don't want to wait until right before placement and then have the adoption fail. I hate to get people all excited and then disappoint them. But I don't want to do one now either since we won't know what gender we're having. I'd like to wait until after placement but then I will have already bought a lot of stuff. Another reason I'd like to wait until after placement is because I hate being the center of attention and if I do it after placement everyone can meet our baby and the baby will be the center of attention.
I'd also like to do a low key fundraiser at our church and can't decide when to do that for the same reasons. I'd like to wait until after the baby is here so that it can be more like a celebration than a charity event and again everyone can meet our baby. All of our fees are due at placement but we can get a loan from my parents and pay them back after the fundraiser. So when we have the money isn't so important. Please share what you all have done.
Started TTC January 2007
4 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs
2012 - Adopted Child #1
2014- Adopted Child #2
2015 - Fostering Child #3
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