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2-3 is SO much harder than 1-2 (# of kids)
everyone told me the opposite, but my opinion is that this way is so much harder. Of course, it's probably the spacing more than the number of kids, but I'm going to go insane. I never felt like this with just 2. My sweet little boy is turning into a terror because of the change and lack of attention. It will get easier, right? No one is getting good attention because it's just me trying to get through another day with all of us in one piece. My parents have been great about taking the kids and doing fun things with them, but they just miss their mommy. I obviously cannot do the same things yet with having a newborn attached to my breast all day, and recovering from an exhausting pregnancy. Where are the veteran moms of three to save the day?
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Re: 2-3 is SO much harder than 1-2 (# of kids)
My only is 3 months younger than yours and I would go bat a$$ crazy if I had 3 that close.
I have 3 friends in your boat, and they both send the two "older" ones to school 5 days a week for the oldest and 2 days for the 1 year olds. It seems to really help them all get what they need.
Newborns are just hard. And 2-3 was way easier for me because #2 had colick....#3 didn't.
Give it 6 months. Even now with our youngest going on 18 months, things seem SOOOOOO much easier...but I remember when he hit 6 months, I finally started to feel "normal" again.
Thanks. I don't think preschool would help (although we've certainly considered it). Ethan is a complete mama's boy, and he's having a really hard time with me not giving him hardly any attention the past couple of weeks, which is really awful, but the truth. I have her in the sling all the time, but newborns are still so needy. It seems once you have them changed, fed, and asleep, you only get so much time before you start over. They all need ME right now, and as much help as I get from other people, those people aren't Mommy.
Luckily, I think I finally got my good baby (am I saying that too soon?)! I hope the madness is over sooner rather than later. Bella was a nightmare as a baby. Thanks for the encouragement, I needed it.
FYI---your newborn only needs your boobs and won't know the difference if its you or someone else burping/changing/rocking/whatever....can you have someone come over to deal with her so you can spend time with the older two? Then you are only obligated to stop for nursing!!! That's what I did when people offered to help....they got the newborn...I don't think they were expecting that, but I also wanted to spend time with my older kids as much as they wanted to spend with me...and I got PLENTY of newborn time all the wee hours of the night, so bonding was not affected!!!
Good luck! It WILL get better!
I don't have 3..but as a mom of a mama's boy I can tell you the MDO has helped a TON. He has become so much more independent. I think even a little time with new people and kids is such a great thing for this age. Miles has even gotten better with Emilia now that he has his "own thing".... as opposed to sharing DH's time or my sisters time with DD. He know that school days are all play and fun.
You might think about it. He may not have the reaction you think he will.. don't get me wrong.. Miles still is attached to my thigh as soon as I pick him up but he seems to be more outgoing now then he was before. He loved his school... now that we started him back up again in a new school, I hope he will love it as well.
I just want to echo what everyone else is saying.
School for Ethan right now is essential, ESPECIALLY if he is a momma's boy. He needs that interaction, and that time away from you. Whether you want to believe that or not!
Also, at this point, it will do YOU (and the two girls) some good as well.
Listen to DandR --- she has some good advice as well!
Damn, I wanted to hear 2-3 is pie.
It'll get better (I hope). It did with so, so surly it will with 3, right?
Thanks! My mom works in a MDO 2 days a week, so I will look into sending him there. He's very social, it's just that he has a hard time sharing me. It may be helpful. He also starts to act out when we aren't getting out with friends, going to playgroup, etc, so that's why I've thought about it in the past. Ethan really needs that time with other kids, so it would be good, especially in the winter when we can't be at the park and stuff.
Do you think MDO is better than a class that we can do together? It really can only be one or the other, timewise and to stick to our budget. I'm planning on starting Bella in ballet after the new year.
let him do it alone. Maybe every other weekend you can take him on your own and do something fun.
Miles and I go get donuts every other Sunday. He gets to choose a few and the guy knows us well enough that he lets Miles back behind the counter to look closer.. Every other Saturday Emilia and I go get a cake that she can pick out.
It really is him acting out and yes he does need mommy time but he needs to understand that the other 2 also need you and that isn't so easy for an almost 3 year old. You will be doing him a favor and he may find that school is his release.