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Got my official dates and a DH freak out

delinodelino member
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Today I was given my official calendar. I will start meds on 5/7 and have an estimated ER date of 5/18. DH freaked out last night. He's on IVF overload and we talked for like 2 hrs about how he's scared of everything and is afraid that he won't be ready to be a father. In the end he's on board with everything, but is still terrified. I'm scared sh!tless myself, but this is what we signed up for. My head is spinning today.
3 ectopic pregnancies (EDD's 1/30/12-tube removed, 6/2/12-methotrexate and 10/2/12-methotrexate)
IVF and Natural FET resulted in BFN's and a hole in our wallets
Natural BFP #4 on 9/7/12 gave us our miracle on 5/18/13
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Re: Got my official dates and a DH freak out

  • maggie2324maggie2324 member
    My DH is the same way... Simply terrified! We don't have our official dates yet (not until I start BCPs) and our ER is in April. It's soooo sooooo soon! Very very scary!
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  • delinodelino member
    I can't express how much it helps to know that I'm not alone with these feelings and emotions. This process is tough and having people that understand, really makes a difference.
    3 ectopic pregnancies (EDD's 1/30/12-tube removed, 6/2/12-methotrexate and 10/2/12-methotrexate)
    IVF and Natural FET resulted in BFN's and a hole in our wallets
    Natural BFP #4 on 9/7/12 gave us our miracle on 5/18/13
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  • pillowasspillowass member

    I think that DH management can be one of the most difficult aspects of IF. It sounds like you were able to talk yours off the ledge last night, which you may have to do a few more times before this is all done. Good luck to you!

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    FSH = 11 (20 on day 10 of CCCT)/ AMH = .98 / AFC=12ish
    5 IUI's with oral meds = all BFN
    March 2012 IVF (MDL Protocol) Started stims 3/3; ER 3/11 (9R, 8M, 7F) ET 3/16 (5dt of 2 blasts graded 3AB and 3BA, 3 frosties(!!) Beta 3/26 = 386; Beta 3/28 = 827; u/s 4/11 says TWINS! Boy/Girl Twins delivered at 36 weeks 6 days

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  • 4legsRbest4legsRbest member

    Squee for your calendar! How exciting! I totally understand where your DH is coming from - I myself sometimes have those thoguhts...

    I guess the good thing is that if you do get pg on your IVF cycle (and I am praying that you do) you get a long 9 months to get used to it Smile I have no doubts that you will be amazing parents, delino!

    Me: 37 DH: 40 TTC since 9/09
    #1 BFP 1/10/11; missed m/c discovered 7w5d
    IF Dx: Endo, hetero MTHFR mutation, poor morphology
    #1 IUI: 1/18/12 = BFN
    #1 IVF/ICSI 4/2/12 = 2 x 7-cell and 1 x 5-cell transferred (3dt) = BFP!!
    H was born at 41w2d on 12/29/12 - be still my heart!
    #2 IVF/ICSI 1/19/14 = 2 x 8 cells transferred (3dt) = BFP!! EDD 10/09/14
    M&W born at 37 weeks on 9/18/14 - I am the momma of 3 boys!!!

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  • delinodelino member
    image4legsRbest:
    I guess the good thing is that if you do get pg on your IVF cycle (and I am praying that you do) you get a long 9 months to get used to it
    This was one of the things that helped him calm down a little.
    3 ectopic pregnancies (EDD's 1/30/12-tube removed, 6/2/12-methotrexate and 10/2/12-methotrexate)
    IVF and Natural FET resulted in BFN's and a hole in our wallets
    Natural BFP #4 on 9/7/12 gave us our miracle on 5/18/13
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  • angela2004angela2004 member
    I think my DH and I felt the same way. My mom tells me that "I've had too much time to think about being a mom". Some days I know I'll be a fantastic mom and other days I totally freak out about it. IF messes with your head. Hang in there. {{HUGS}}
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  • maggie2324maggie2324 member
    imagepillowass:

    I think that DH management can be one of the most difficult aspects of IF. It sounds like you were able to talk yours off the ledge last night, which you may have to do a few more times before this is all done. Good luck to you!

    I love that term "DH management". And it really is so true! Good thing men don't have to do the physical aspects of IVF since they can barely handle the mental part of it. 

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    imagemaggie2324:
    imagepillowass:

    I think that DH management can be one of the most difficult aspects of IF. It sounds like you were able to talk yours off the ledge last night, which you may have to do a few more times before this is all done. Good luck to you!

    I love that term "DH management". And it really is so true! Good thing men don't have to do the physical aspects of IVF since they can barely handle the mental part of it. 

    Amen to that!
    3 ectopic pregnancies (EDD's 1/30/12-tube removed, 6/2/12-methotrexate and 10/2/12-methotrexate)
    IVF and Natural FET resulted in BFN's and a hole in our wallets
    Natural BFP #4 on 9/7/12 gave us our miracle on 5/18/13
    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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