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Stacyc625
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Poll: How similar/different are your friends- from you?
Stacyc625
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I guess in every aspect-
Do you tend to have friends (that you get together with- both kid related and adult related) that are MORE similar... or more different than yourself.
By this I mean- economically? religiously? race? education? etc.
Do you tend to have a variety of friends- or is it more a group that is pretty similar?
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Re: Poll: How similar/different are your friends- from you?
I have different groups of friends. I moved to another state in July so where I am now, I am friends with a group of moms through my son's baseball and other sports teams, I have friends through my husband's work (their wives and some of his co-workers) and I have a friend now who I run with and she has a LO as well so we get together and play.
Back home, I have a very good friend and another set of other friends where we get together for all the kids' b'days and to go and hang out. I also had another set of dear friends who I met through the knot/nest and we try and get together as well.
totally different.
I have 3 close friends. one from HS/2 from college.
None of them are married. One of them is close to being engaged (god i hope soon, lol). None have kids.
They are all different economically/religiously/education wise. One has a masters, a good paying job/catholic. One lives at home with their folks, never finished school, low wage, catholic. One works at home, has a degree, lower middle class income, is an athiest (like me).
All fairly different personality-wise too. I tend to be a social butterfly so I get along with all different types of personalities.
I have other friends of different races/income brackets and such, but those are my 3 closest.
My close friends are seriously ALL OVER the map. I don't think my friends are similar to each other OR to me.
My best female friend is a lesbian, didn't graduate college, works at CVS, and is reformed episcopalian. she is getting 'married' this year- no kids
My other best friend is a male- is a surgeon at a local children's hospital, and he is Buddhist. He isn't married- no kids.
My other male friends (I have mostly male friends) are married, mostly with kids, and all are college/grad school graduates- mostly the same socio-economic standings and most are christian.
My other female friends- are mostly married, no kids, and all are college/grad school grads that work full time. Even the few that do have children work FT. Same socio-economic standings. Most of my female friends are either jewish or muslim.
While I have a couple of SAHM aquaintances- I wouldn't consider any of my close friends SAHMs.
I just realized how all over the map my friends are all over the place and not very similar to me-
I've always tended to have a variety of friends...I have my "core" group, and then I've always had friends outside of that group who different but who I get along with. For some reason, I always try to get them to "join" (not the right term for this) our group but my groups never blend so I end up having different groups of friends.
Anyway, in HS and college, friends were all pretty similar to me. I think that was more the circumstances of the school/area we lived in/etc.
Now, my main group of friends are moms I met through our hospital's mom's group for first time moms. We are all pretty similar as far as race/religion/education...but again, I think that's because we were grouped up (hospital's group) based on location and most people who live in this area are pretty similar...
As far as economically, I have friends who fall into all different ranges there.
Outside of my "core" group, I definitely have friends I've met through preschool or our mom's group who are different religions and races. Though I've found that almost all the mom's in our area have a minimum of a college degree, if not more, so educational wise, we are similar when it comes to that. Which I find surprising, but good
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My true friends are my childhood friends. None of them live near me. We are pretty similar in that we all have similar backgrounds but our adult lives have taken somewhat different courses, although we all have children. Politically, I am the lone Republican.
Race, all the same. Education, all have bachelors degrees. Economically... we started the same but things have changed since we all got married. Because our friendships go back so far, we still have plenty in common and our bonds are strong. (I'm thinking of 4-5 girlfriends in particular).
My local friends... my closest one is pretty similar to me. Same race, politics, economics, etc. We have different childhoods because she grew up here in this area and I grew up elsewhere but we seem to have a lot in common. I do not have a lot of friends that I've made as an adult.
My closest friends are all from highschool. We have all moved back to our hometown after college. We all happened to get married the same year. I am the only one with a child though. I would say besides the baby, we are all pretty similar in our views. We are all the exact same size with brown hair too.
All of DH's friends are from highschool also, but they all live about an hour away. He sees them more than I see mine though. They all went to the same college.. and are all pretty similiar in every aspect except politics maybe. But I know it's not something they ever talk about. DH was the first to get married and have a kid, but now they are all married with kids on the way.
I am close with all of the wives, but I would say we are all completely different. For the most part people tend to be drawn to others similar to themselves.
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My best friend grew up in the same town and is actually related to me (like 5th cousin or something??) and we were friends through school and college (we went to the same college, unplanned, and ended up being roomies and became close) We are pretty similar. Her hubby is also pretty similar to us and the 4 of us (them, my H and I) get along very well. I mean we don't agree on everything but we are very similar people. My casual friends/ acquaintances, though, are all over the place... various ages, races, backgrounds, religions, financial "status", etc. I guess i'm drawn to "interesting" people more than safe/similar people.
The mom friend that I'm the closest to- we feel the same way about being more relaxed about milestones/behaviors, etc. But even then, she's a little more laid back than I am. We have similar views on social situations but that's not to say we agree on religion or politics.
All in all H and I are very different from our friends in almost every way possible, except perhaps economically. We all tend to be in the same boat in that way. We're also all similar because we all care about each other equally and try to be as supportive as possible. But in terms of lifestyle choices and raising children, Adam and I are in left field compared to others.
I have a group of super-close friends in Chicago. 12 of us -- we call each other the Superfriends. Some are couples, some are singles. We pretty much lived at each others' houses back in the day, and when DH and I went back twice last year, they all showed up to whatever we planned. I LOVE those people, which is probably why it's been hard for me to adjust to our move to NJ.
Anyway, to answer your question, we're we're all into music and the arts, but personality-wise, we're all super different. We're mostly white, but one black and one Asian. We're all non- or semi-religious. All pretty liberal. Education runs the gamut from some college to PhD, but I guess we're all pretty well-informed and "cultured," whatever that means. We're all squarely middle class now, although half of us come from working class backgrounds. So yeah, I guess we're pretty similar.
My two BFFs from college are VERY much like me, personality wise, background-wise, beliefs-wise.
My high school BFF is completely different from me in that she is an evangelical Christian and a hard core conservative. We totally get each other on some level, though.
My mom friends here in NJ run the gamut. I guess what they have in common with me first and foremost is we're all pretty laid-back.