Pregnant after a Loss
Eastie156
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medical bills for a LO we don't have...errrrr..
Eastie156
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We just got a whole bunch of bills in the mail (4 months later!) from our m/c in November. It boggles my mind that we have to pay the hospital $2,800 for a baby we didn't even get to take home. This makes me really sad for some reason. I am happy knowing we have a LO cooking in there, but sad b/c of our loss. 
[MC 11.20.11] [DS born 9.24.12] [DD born 10.15.14]
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Re: medical bills for a LO we don't have...errrrr..
I am really very sorry, I cannot imagine. We never got a hospital bill or a bill from our OB and I was told when I asked that it had been "taken care of"...whatever that means. We did have to cover all funeral and cremation expenses and other non-medical expenses, but our church donated the niche in the columbarium and others donated cash to help us while I was unexpectedly off work with no leave left for the year.
I wonder if any of your providers offer any sort of discount or help with those expenses under those circumstances?
Yeah I have been there! My last two losses my water broke and I went into labor. My one son passed shortly after birth and the other passed right before. I was 24 weeks with one and 20 weeks with the other. I had a hospital bill from labor and delivery .. burial fee's for the cemetery.. and had to pay for the cemetery space. If I did not have them buried then the hospital sends their 'bodies' to medical research and I could not bare that! It's heartbreaking. Then to add to it the hospital kept calling me wanting me to come back to sign some paperwork for the birth and death certificate... grrrr. I finally snapped and told her if its so important she can bring the paperwork to me. The lady was so rude didn't seem to grasp the fact I just lost a child!!!!
I had another daughter .. who would be 17 now. She was born perfectly healthy and beautiful. Then she went to bed one night and never woke up. =( She was 3 months old. She died of SIDS. I was devastated!!! Then I had to arrange a funeral .. find a plot .. pick out a grave marker .. pay for the whole thing .. and ambulance and hospital bills .. and OMG it was way too much for a grieving mother =( To this day I still feel sad anytime I drive near the cemetery or church. It's been almost 17 years and at times it will still feel like yesterday.
I am pregnant now with twins and terrified! If you can imagine .. I lost the last two in second trimester so I am on pins and needles until I am passed the second trimester. Then once they are born alive and well I am going to be constantly checking them to make sure they are breathing! Doesn't matter whose baby is near me I am always checking for breath! Having gone through a loss really does do a number on you mentally. =(
So sorry for your loss and I hope and pray the baby in baking will stick until time to be born alive and well!
I absolutely understand exactly how you're feeling. I ended up with almost $5k in bills from the ER, labs, my OB and the outpatient surgery place because my m/c happened 2 weeks before my health insurance at my new job kicked in! Talk about adding insult to injury.
Its still painful to think about.
Yea the bills suck big time. I completely understand what you are going through.
Both of my m/c were about that much each. Try calling the hospital and seeing if you can get on a payment plan. Usually they will allow you to pay what you can. As long as you pay something each month, they are happy.
BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
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Yup it's sucks balls majorly. I'm doing the same myself. This one will be born before Ive paid off the bills for the little girl we lost.
So sorry that a lot of us are in the same boat.