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when other people's kids get hurt

2Gma2Gma member
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We were at the zoo today having a snack by a picnic table.  I noticed a mom at another table sitting with 6 kids (guessing ages 12mo-7yrs).  They were eating and some were standing on the bench.  I had my back towards them but at one point I noticed she got up and started talking to man at another table with her back turned to her kids.  The next thing I heard was a large thump followed by screaming.  I just knew from the sound it was a kid's head hitting the cement. I physically felt sick, like I was going to pass out or throw up. I felt awful for that little boy (guessing around 18mo-2yr) I know accidents happen and we all get distracted but I couldn't imagine not giving that many kids my full attention especially considering the ages of the 2 littlest ones.

I know because of my medical training/experience I have a tendency to be overprotective but anyone feel scared for other people's kids when the parents don't seem to be watching? do you step in a say something?

 

DD#1 5 years DD#2 3 years
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Re: when other people's kids get hurt

  • doubleOmommydoubleOmommy
    Yes, I sometimes get scared for kids who's parents are not paying attention. I would never say something to anyone in that situation though, it's really not my business. I have helped a child a few times at parks when they are clearly too small to be on the structure by themselves(1/just started walking). If they are in clear danger( like a 1 year old about to crawl off the structure and fall 5 feet) then I step in to help them if their parents are not around.
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  • jettagurljettagurl member

    The same thing could have happened if the mom was helping one of the other kids open something, or been cleaning up a mess, or whatever.  Even with only one kid, you can't always prevent everything.  

    I often take my 4 kids (2.5-5) places by myself. I'm glad there are moms like you waiting around to judge me.  

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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    imagejettagurl:

    The same thing could have happened if the mom was helping one of the other kids open something, or been cleaning up a mess, or whatever.  Even with only one kid, you can't always prevent everything.  

    Ditto this.  DD slipped and fell at a pool a couple weeks ago - I was in the middle of telling her not to run (she was just starting to) when she tripped, fell and cut up her toe pretty badly ... right in front of me.

    I would have been upset about the child being hurt too, but I probably would have offered to watch her other kids while she tended to the hurt one or ran and got some ice.

    DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12
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  • MeghanC 1028MeghanC 1028
    imagejettagurl:

    The same thing could have happened if the mom was helping one of the other kids open something, or been cleaning up a mess, or whatever.  Even with only one kid, you can't always prevent everything.  

    I often take my 4 kids (2.5-5) places by myself. I'm glad there are moms like you waiting around to judge me.  

    What she said.  If I see anyone who is hurt, I try to help, but I don't judge them in the process. 

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  • pollingpolling

    This is an awfully self righteous post.

    Glad you have medical training/experience.  Must have helped you when you offered your services to the little boy.

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  • juniper19juniper19 member
    imagepolling:

    This is an awfully self righteous post.

    Glad you have medical training/experience.  Must have helped you when you offered your services to the little boy.

    Amen.  Jeez, if someone was watching me all day I'm sure they could come up with a laundry list of mistakes, and any parent who thinks otherwise about his/her own parenting is seriously deluded.

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  • august06momaugust06mom member
    We all make mistakes. You'd better hope there are no Judgy McJudgersons around when you make yours.
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  • LissaLeeLissaLee member
    With all your medical training, you'd think you wouldn't pass out/throw up at the sound or sights of a trauma.
    Mommy to Evelyn Clare born 6/23/07, Ryan Hansen born 12/10/09, and Charlotte Nicole born 11/1/12
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  • emiliemadisonemiliemadison member
    You CAN'T give 6 kids your "full attention". You just can't. Next time one of your two kids does something while you're busy with the other, lets hope no one is standing around waiting to say "OMG, can you believe she let that happen instead of giving her full attention to both kids 100% of the time?" 
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