Anyone stare at bellies & analyze actions to determine if friends are pg?

delino · March 2012

I need to stop. I know my friend is TTC. I know she stopped BCP's in November or December. I also know a couple of months ago she wasn't pg because she said she got AF. But we don't talk about TTc because I don't want to discuss my troubles. She knows all about my first 2 losses, but not the third, so I know it would be tough for her to tell me if she's pg. So I watch her every move looking to see if she touches her belly or if she has stopped drinking coffee. I know she has prenatal vitamins in her drawer, but she wouldn't say what they were. No, I wasn't digging in her drawer, we were talking about something unrelated and she was pulling stuff out of her drawer. We just walked down to lunch and I was staring at her stomach as we were walking to see if there was a bump. She is super skinny and wears a belt everyday so I often see the belt and think bump. I think I'm a bit too obsessed.

ktsnshn · March 2012

I did this to a friend at my last book club meeting. I felt weird about it, but I was on a mission to decide if she was KTFU or not. She ended up having a glass of wine so I decided I needed to chill about it.

HopingforChange · March 2012

Yes, I do this! I am good at it too! Lol. I always know way before people announce, even if I am not that close to them. I have always been observant, add TTC frustration and obsession on top of that, and I am like a hawk with spotting pregnant peeps. In some ways, it's funny, but it also sucks. I am sorry you are dealing with it, Delino.

ecmleo · March 2012

I do this too! Embarrassed

It is actually how I figured out that my sister is pg. She still hasn't announced to the family, but last weekend my feelings were confirmed when she came over my house in maternity pants. She thought she was hiding the waist band under her sweatshirt, but it was obvious when she bent over.

mrsgaines100 · March 2012

No bc all my friends have recently been successfully pregnant!! gaaa!

Hugs!!!

raashton · March 2012

I only have one cousin trying to get pg, they've been trying to get pg for 2 years so it wouldn't tear me apart. However, I do live in fear of who will announce their accident soon- for example, my BIL and his gf don't use birth control (despite a pg scare last summer) so everytime I know we are going to see them, I live in fear that they are going to announce. It sucks ball sack to have those feelings.

kpowers982 · March 2012

Guilty as well!

sammer818 · March 2012

HA! I just did this EXACT same thing with my friend! I was convinced she was pg, but it turned out she wasn't. I'm now very critical of everything my friends that are TTC do and say. It's ridiculous. I'm glad I'm not the only one!

lotus88 · March 2012

*badge warning*

I still do this. During our ttc/m/c time frame, there were about a dozen pg coworkers (I work at a hospital, lots of nurses and aides). It felt like the place was booby trapped so I was hypervigilent. I remember telling one friend at work that I just wanted our other friend to tell me already. Just pull the bandaid off. It was torture being 95% sure and it just not being out in the open.

You probably are too obsessed, but I think it's a normal response to what you've been through. ((hugs))

jenn0021 · March 2012

Yup, I'm guilty of this. I know that one of my coworkers wanted her second kid when her first was 3. So as her son nears 3, I keep waiting for an announcement and watching her like a hawk at any social functions.

And I completely did this with my SIL even though I shouldn't have because they like to announce at 8 weeks and she doesn't start showing until like 16.

MrsLele · March 2012

Totally guilty. On several counts.

jellybelly03 · March 2012

***** SIGGY WARNING ******

I was just doing this with my SIL last weekend

kiki4 · March 2012

I am guilty of this. Shortly after our m/c, I noticed that a girl I work with is eating a little more lately...like every couple of hours. She's trying to drink more water. She always has a box of Special K with the strawberries in it; she recently brought in Raisin Bran. I have no idea if she and her husband were trying, but I just keep waiting for an announcement.

TheFutureMrs.O · March 2012

Omg. Thank you so much for posting this. I thought I was the only one. It makes me feel better to know that there are other girls out there that do the same.

orangegoggles · March 2012

Yup, all the time.

BOTB32010 · March 2012

I don't think I look at women's faces anymore. My eyes go straight to their stomachs to check if they are PG first. Horrible habit that I wish I could break but right now I am bitter.

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