PP Sex?

jdnemmer · March 2012

So last night I was having OB/GYN flashbacks during foreplay, and then L&D feelings while we were doing the deed. Am I completely out of my mind? I'm considering therapy because I just can't get back into the saddle again and DD is almost 13 months. Am I alone? Am I crazy? Has anyone else looked for professional help with this?

EVA116 · March 2012

I am so sorry you are going through this. I would go and talk with someone.

T&Ps

weberm05 · March 2012

I have the same problems....I don't think about L&D and stuff, but I have noooooo desire what soever. I really don't know how I got pregnant again ha ha.

I don't know if something is wrong or what..........but i feel sorry for DH.

Molluskwrangler · March 2012

From what you are saying it almost sounds like mild post traumatic stress. Are you feeling stressed and anxious during foreplay and sex? I would talk to someone. Did you have a stressful or traumatic labor?

Mt2G1012 · March 2012

Molluskwrangler:
From what you are saying it almost sounds like mild post traumatic stress. Are you feeling stressed and anxious during foreplay and sex? I would talk to someone. Did you have a stressful or traumatic labor?

This was my thought too. It did take a bit to get back in to the swing of things and find our new normal, but I still enjoy sex with DH.

jdnemmer · March 2012

It was a traumatic labor that I've sort of pushed to the back of my memory. Her shoulder got stuck and the damn Sunday intern was having me push hours before I should have been - so I had that crowning pressure down there for about four hours. Plus I needed stitches, which is still gross to me.

Do you think a regular family psychologist is the best route? This is so frustrating and sad - and yes, I feel bad for DH too

EVA116 · March 2012

jdnemmer:

It was a traumatic labor that I've sort of pushed to the back of my memory. Her shoulder got stuck and the damn Sunday intern was having me push hours before I should have been - so I had that crowning pressure down there for about four hours. Plus I needed stitches, which is still gross to me.

Do you think a regular family psychologist is the best route? This is so frustrating and sad - and yes, I feel bad for DH too

I think so, if he/she thinks they can't help you, I am sure the will recommend someone who can.

Molluskwrangler · March 2012

jdnemmer:
It was a traumatic labor that I've sort of pushed to the back of my memory. Her shoulder got stuck and the damn Sunday intern was having me push hours before I should have been - so I had that crowning pressure down there for about four hours. Plus I needed stitches, which is still gross to me.
Do you think a regular family psychologist is the best route? This is so frustrating and sad - and yes, I feel bad for DH too

I am so sorry. hugs.

I would start there, they can at least tell you where to go from there if they don't think they would be best for you.

I would also work on some breathing and relaxation/mediation techniques. You can try them before sexy time and it may help put you in a calmer state of mind. I was in a bad car accident and I get anxious in the car so I need to take a few moments sometimes to calm my mind. Good luck!

Mt2G1012 · March 2012

I'm sorry.

It does sound like you are a bit traumatized. I would talk to your regular doc who can give you a referral. But yes, I think a general psychologist would be fine.