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April 2011 Moms
SandiaPinaMama
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BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
If I had it to do over...
SandiaPinaMama
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What's something that you would do differently if you had to do it over? Baby-related or otherwise?
...I would have had the first birthday party at the park with pizza. Too much cleaning, drama, more cleaning, food prep, lack of sleep (in both me and LO), guests overstaying their welcome (they were there for nearly 5 hours), etc.
What about you?
BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
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Re: If I had it to do over...
I would have told my husband's family not to visit so much the first few weeks, as I was not well rested and having them there was quite stressful for me. I would be nursing in one room, and his sisters would come in to watch and want to have a conversation with me. I had to tell them finally "I will be done in 20 minutes and I'll come out and talk to you then."
I would definitely set more defined boundaries. AND, I will not have people at the hospital waiting for the baby to be born next time. Everyone can come when I have delivered and the baby is actually in the room with me. With my DD, I was in recovery for 3 hours, DD was in NICU for 4, and my husband's family got to see her in the ICU before I even did. I was flippin pissed.
My first husband didn't believe in having children unless you could afford live-in help. This is sounding more and more like a good policy
I'm thinking of changing my grading policy so that once a paper has X mistakes, I draw a line across it and write, "I stopped grading here." Then, they get one chance to re-do it if they don't want an F. Hopefully, it will cut down on grading time.
Mac and cheese lover!
I'd have a better plan in place to make breast feeding successful. (Pumping etc..)
I assumed it would come naturally, but it didn't. Instead of doing things to improve and protect my supply, I supplemented, and it went down hill from there. I stopped completely at 3 months.
We're all good now, but I do have some lingering regrets.
Like PP mentioned, I wouldn't have a bunch of people waiting at the hospital for LO to arrive. We had 7 visitors over the course of 3 days, it was way too hectic and I wish it would have been just the three of us. Next time I will let everyone come visit when we get home.
Also, I hit the button on my epi to give me more meds right before I had to start pushing and I wish I wouldn't have done it. I was completely numb and couldn't push that well because I couldn't feel a thing. 3.5 hours later J made his debut with the help of some forceps.
After reading the OP I'm glad we are having the party at the park
Kim, Sittingonamtntop's siggy pic definitely makes me agree with you!!
Jolly, that is an excellent reminder, isn't it. I've maybe been a bit snarkier lately than necessary or really even allowable.
BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
I know! Every time I see her siggy I want to kick myself around the block for not having pics done. It is stunning.
- I would have tried to take longer maternity leave, even if some of it ended up being unpaid. I took 8 weeks, which is more than many, but I just felt like I was not ready at all to come back and wish that I had more time to spend with DD.
- I would have asked for more help from the beginning and gotten more people involved with DD's care.
- I would have tried to not stress over every little thing so much. Of course, this is easier said than done. We were terrified! When I look back at all of the little things we worried about, I laugh about it, but I feel like I wasted so much time worrying or stressing.
Awww thanks