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Sleep Lady Shuffle, anyone?
We are co-sleepers, and we've been trying tips from the NCSS for nearly three months now, but they just aren't working (or if they are, not fast enough to save my sanity). LO (9 months tomorrow) is still awake every hour to hour and a half at night, and nursing doesn't seem to work anymore. I'm exhausted and cranky, and I feel like I could recharge and refresh if I could just have my sleeping space back.
We still want to be as gentle as possible with her, so we're considering the Sleep Lady Shuffle. Has anybody considered or used this method? Pros? Cons? Tips for success? Thanks!
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Re: Sleep Lady Shuffle, anyone?
I have not, been a friend heard a local sleep consultant trained in that method speak and said it was helpful.
I did want to point out that 9-12 months statistically is the peak of night-waking. DS woke every 2 hours from 7-12 months and then he started transitioning to 3-4 hours pretty much on his own (albiet, I did stop offering to nurse at every wake up since they were so frequently spaced and he had transitioned himself to mostly solids at 12.5 months).
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Jacob and Melissa | Sept. 3, 2007 | Riviera Maya, Mexico
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Our situation was different because she was already STTN when we did it and it worked perfectly for us. 9 months is extremely difficult between the growth spurt and the wakeful, but at 10 months she went to one night waking that she kept until the one year mark and she miraculously started sleeping through for the first time ever.
We used the Shuffle when she was around 16 months old and weaned, we had always nursed to sleep and since I was pregnant I didn't want to rely on rocking. It could take over an hour to rock her to sleep! We started with shush and pat first so she could get used to being in the crib awake and falling asleep with me touching her and once she was comfortable with that I started the shuffle. Everything together took almost 2 weeks, but there were no tears.
I have the book and read through some of it. I have been using the method of stay in the room while he falls asleep for several weeks now, just for his morning nap. It works as long as i get him down before he's really tired. So, he plays a bit and then gets sleepy and starts whining. He never gets into an all out cry and I shh him and say "its okay sweetie, you just take a little nap", so he knows I'm there. I'm not into CIO, especially at 4 mos, so If he gets into a real cry I pick him up and nurse him to sleep. If he whines for more than 15 minutes I give him a pacifier (if I give it to him before that he usually spits it out). Usually he's asleep by 15-20 min.
To do it at night would pretty much be torture because LO still wakes up every 2 hours to nurse. I think its a lot easier if LO is only waking up once, or even better STTN.
I'm beginning to think he will never STTN. Every night I go to bed thinking "maybe tonight will be the night", and lo and behold within an hour he's already up wanting to eat. :-/
I think it's tough to tell if it will work for you until you try it and commit to it. I used it for naps and had a decent sucess, but you have to work really hard. I found it very stressful. Nights I haven't managed to get through. She starts out in the crib, but I give up at 11 or so and bring her into our bed. She wakes up too often and I'm exhausted. I am also finding that separation anxiety has peaked, which only complicates matters. Wish there was an easy fix that didn't require crying.