I'm one sad mama
Holly_1007
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SD calls me by my first name, we thought that was the most appropriate thing when DH and I first met. SD was 2 and her mother is still very much in the picture.
When DS was born I knew we were going to have issues at some point down the road with DS wanting to call me holly instead of mama, from what I have read every child goes through it at some point.
DS is 2 and SD is 5. last night at dinner SD said 'thank you for cooking dinner holly' and DS mimicked her in his adorable 2 yr old babble 'thank you for cooking dinner holly' I calmly corrected him and told him my name was mama. all throughout dinner he kept calling me holly... "more pasta holly", "all done holly" and every time I corrected him that my name was mama.
I don't think he gets it, why SD is allowed to call me holly but he has to call me mama and I feel like he thinks I'm punishing him for calling me holly, I'm not trying to but I was legit in tears by the end of dinner, we don't have this issue with DH because they both call him dad.
the issues I'm having is that I feel like it would be so much more easily corrected if SD wasn't around/didnt call me holly. I know this is awful, and hopefully its just the pregnancy hormones. I know I would have this issue at some point even if SD wasn't in the picture but I feel like it would be much easier to correct if DS wasn't watching his sibling call me something other than mama.
anyone been through something similar??
Re: I'm one sad mama
My son is the same age as yours and he would understand if I told him that his half sisters have a different mama. If I were you I would just tell him that SD has a mama and she is so and so. I am your mama. I personally don't see a problem with that because it is the truth.
Otherwise my son has occasionally called me by my first name. The time he did it the most is when I broke up with my ex and moved in with my sister and since all of my family was around all the time calling me by my first name he started doing it too.
I wouldn't worry about it too much, but like I said I see no reason why you can't explain to him that you are his mom and SD's mom is so and so.
Can SD start calling you Mama Holly or Mama H? I personally don't think kids should call adults by their first names but I didn't meet SS til he was 5 so he calls me by my first name too.
I mention this only to empathize that I would not be ok at all with any child other than SS, especially my bio child calling me by my first name. I'm sorry
My DS called my DH by his first name because he always heard me calling him that. I thought it was funny. He would say hey X can I have some milk please and things like that. It's totally normal even if you don't have a blended family.
Try not to let this hurt your feelings. Ina a few years he tells you that you aren't his friend and he doesn't like you. Toddlers years are fun. :-)
First, kids do this. Monkey has called DH Chief, becuase that is what everyone at work calls him. But at the end of the day...it's daddy give me a hug.
Second, your Stepchild has a different mother. Explain it to your child and move on. It's nothing to hide, be ashamed of and needs to be addresses sooner, rather than later.
DD is the same age. She started by calling DH by his first name. Then it progressed to me and her grandparents. I know its because my son calls my husband and his parents by their first names and she is copying. When she does it to me for example, I just reminder her that to her I am Mommy and only Daddy can call me Amy. We handle it the same for everyone. We remind her once and then drop it. The more attention you give him for doing it the more he will do it. After all, at that age the biggest reward is mommy's attention. No matter how he gets it.
This. And if you had a niece or nephew that stayed for the week the same thing would have happened and you would not feel hurt. Seriously, move on is my best advice.