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luvmygirls22luvmygirls22 member
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brought up number 3 tonight and is still for the most part against it. We have two daughters right now who are 22 months apart. My DH said he is concerned that once we have a third it will be hard to do things as a family because our girls will be able to walk and into the same kinds of things and then there's the baby. I understand his thought here but don't think it;s a good reason not to have another child. Anyone go through this or was/is in a similar situation? 

 

Side note-Deciding to have a child is not easy-I never thought it was anyway, but man! I am also trying to prepare myself for the possibility that we may be done. I already told DH that I would have to go through a grieving period b/c  that will be very hard for me.  He completely understands that it would be very difficult for me. It's almost like we feel so bless with our girls that we just want to spoil them (within reason) but to that I say, We can spoil three! :)


 
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  • Rebekah1021Rebekah1021
    Well, if he's done - then you are done.
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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member

    I wouldn't hang up the towel yet.  He's not rushing out to get a vasectomy is he?  So maybe once your little one is a bit older he'll change his mind.  He also has to remember children don't stay babies forever, you are always going to be in a situation where one or more children are going to be older and at different stages(unless their multiples like twins, triplets..etc), so you go to an amusement park and only 2 of the 3 children ride the rides and the grown ups take turns, it's really not a big deal, your lives are not on hold just because you have another baby.  Now if it's a financial issue that's a whole different story.

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  • luvmygirls22luvmygirls22 member
    I agree with you littlemermaid. I am not hanging up the towel yet. I just don't know what we are going to do if by the time we decide we are both on opposite ends. Cuz you can't really compromise you know :)

     
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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member

    imageluvmygirls22:
    I agree with you littlemermaid. I am not hanging up the towel yet. I just don't know what we are going to do if by the time we decide we are both on opposite ends. Cuz you can't really compromise you know :)

    Completely understand, sometimes men need that time in between to reset.  Remember we are the maternal creatures in this equation, not them.  Men are to be the protectors and providers of our families so they look at it from a different perspective than a woman does.  I would give the subject a rest for a while and then revisit it maybe 6 - 12 months down the line and see where he stands then.   Maybe he'd be more receptive to have sometime with just the 2 children now and then when both of them are in preschool you can add another one. 

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