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any parents here with special needs kids?

sunshine1234sunshine1234 member
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i was just wondering something...you know a lot of us have a lot of stress from our life. we all love our kids greatly. but our marriages might suffer due to the stress  of having a special needs child or children.

does anyone else feel this way? how did you try to save your marriage?

Is this true? Are people with special needs kids more likely to divorce?
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Re: any parents here with special needs kids?

  • JellymanKellyJellymanKelly

    Yes, it is more common. I'm only familiar with the autism stats, but 80% of couples who have a child with autism end up divorcing.

     

    I can't help with the "how to keep it from happening" part, though. We had issues beyond my son's problems, but I am sure the stress and my hyper focus on our son didn't help matters.

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  • blondnearbyblondnearby

    My oldest has Langerhans Cell Histiocytosis.  She was on chemotherapy for the 2 years of her life just about.  She does have some side effects from the chemo, some that we knew all along and some that are becoming more apparent as she is starting school.  She is legally blind and will never be able to have children.  

    My youngest was born healthy but because of a dr's calculation error regarding reglan, my DD#2 now has tardive dyskinesia.  

    We tried to stay together but things were to hard on us.  We were still newly weds for all uncertain terms and dealing with a very sick young child was just too much to handle.  We were split when DD#2 was born so he really had nothing to do with that at all. I heard from a close friend of mine that nearly 80% of people who deal with their children having cancer divorce and I would have to say that is fairly accurate.  All of the friends I made the year and a half were were inpatient are now divorced. It really is very sad to me. 

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  • blondnearbyblondnearby

    Also, are you sure you meant to post this here? There is a special needs (SN) board.

     

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  • JHart264JHart264
    I cannot relate personally, but as a sped teacher I can tell you it certainly makes a difference.  A lot of times, one parent accepts their child and is very supportive and involved, and the other parent can't cope with what's going on and shuts down and disengages.  It's very sad, but it happens a lot. 
    "Never trust anything that can think for itself if you can't see where it keeps it's brain." ~ J.K. Rowling
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