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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
azul91
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how do you handle being a super mommy to newborn & toddler?
azul91
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hey mamas. I'm a mommy to a 7 week old and a 15 month old. it challenging giving both of them one on one time. my 15 month old always cry wanting attention especial when feed or changing the 7 week old. then when the 7 week old is napping I spend few min play with 15 month old but I have to clean and cook too. it very hard I was wondering how other mom are doing with the same situation?
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Re: how do you handle being a super mommy to newborn & toddler?
It's HARD. I take everyday at a time, try to get through alive (LOL), and not take anything too seriously. It won't be like this forever, things will get easier, and once LO is a bit older, life will become a lot more doable. My older son just turned 2 and LO is 3 months. I'm EBF, so there's jealousy with my older son, and he constantly wants all of the attention. I just do what I can. I hold the baby and play with my older son. I try to have my LO sleep in the swing or elsewhere while I play with my older son. My DH comes home at lunch, so that helps. I count down until 5:00 when he's off work
My older son watches some tv, looks at the iPad, both of which buy me time even though it isn't an ideal activity.
Can your husband help cook? That's one job my husband takes on, he cooks all of our meals. When he gets home at 5, he takes my older son and they start to make dinner together. He has his own stool, and he teaches him how to wash, cut (he only watches) and prepare food. He LOVES it.
I think you just have to realize you can't do it all, and ask for help. Have friends and family come help you when you need it. Also consider making food on the weekends, freezing it for the week, so it's a lot less work. Once LO is older things will get a lot better.
Can you wear LO? That will free up your hands to do other things. I find that whatever I need to do (cook, clean, etc.) I can have my older one help. I give him a baby wipe and he helps me clean the floor (not really, but keeps him busy), or give him a wooden spoon and pot and he makes dinner for us (LOL).
Everyday is hard, but we survive. I always remind myself that things will get easier. Hang in there.
DD was 22 months when DS was born. It was rough. If they were both fussing/crying, I addressed DD first. Housework was not a priority AT ALL. The first two weeks I was by myself with both babies were hell and I didn't think I could do it. Then one day, it worked. After that, it just continued to get better.
I think surviving the days, making sure both kids are fed and loved, qualify you for super mommy at this point! GL!
This.
It sucks. Sometimes I resent the baby because I feel like I'm missing out on important time with my toddler, especially because I know the baby won't remember this time, but my toddler will. And it's super-hard because my baby won't nap more than 20-30 minutes 3 times a day, and I spend more time than that trying to GET her to sleep. My older one is alone/watching tv waaaay too much. All I can say is that I've never eaten so much takeout in my life. And even though I really need time for my own mental health & to take a shower once in a while, whenever I DO get help (like when my mom comes down to visit or something), I usually take my older one out somewhere just the 2 of us while mom watches the baby, because the toddler needs a break from the baby, too.
Hmmm...tough question. My kids are a dream. LO2 (3 months) is EBF and LO1 (2.5 years) is obsessed with him. He's never shown any size of jealousy. If anything he's jealous that anyone else gets to hold LO1. They are angels too, we go out every day and I never have issues. I SAH and I can't believe what a breeze it's been. I clean, cook every night, and get enough sleep. It's like the Twilight Zone.
But when LO1 was about 17 months he was a nightmare. Tantrums and running in public, it was a disaster. Thank God the timing worked out with LO2! Everything is a phase. Including the good times!