FFFC

bunnymama625 · March 2012

DH is gone for business all next week-- I plan on getting him to help me scrub down the entire apartment this weekend so I can sit on my butt and watch hulu while he's gone and be lonely.

nirern626 · March 2012

I only wear underwear at work. Wearing them constantly during pp bleeding and again when I bled for 7 wks after my mirena was such a miserable experience for me. I only wear them at work because the uniform pants are too rough, and because I totally skeeve most of my patients so it's one more layer between me and them lol.

kas80 · March 2012

I have had a girls weekend planned for months now thinking that we'd have LO on bottles or cups by now and I could get a break. Instead, I have to take her with me and my husband gets a break. I am really bitter and mad about this even though it's no ones fault. I've been sulking all week about it and I feel like a petulant child.

Sunidaze · March 2012

nirern626:
I only wear underwear at work. Wearing them constantly during pp bleeding and again when I bled for 7 wks after my mirena was such a miserable experience for me. I only wear them at work because the uniform pants are too rough, and because I totally skeeve most of my patients so it's one more layer between me and them lol.

Now if one were to only read the first sentence, one would really have to question what you do at work!

nirern626 · March 2012

BrandySun:
nirern626:
I only wear underwear at work. Wearing them constantly during pp bleeding and again when I bled for 7 wks after my mirena was such a miserable experience for me. I only wear them at work because the uniform pants are too rough, and because I totally skeeve most of my patients so it's one more layer between me and them lol.

Now if one were to only read the first sentence, one would really have to question what you do at work!

Haha! That would really liven up my job!

klingb52 · March 2012

DramaMama06:
Sgt M's Wife:

Along the lines of the teacher confessions this morning:

I think teachers (and any public employee) should pay into their health care benefits just like the majority of American employees. I don't pay into my health care but my salary is less than what it would normally be to take into account my contribution to health care.

With that said, I think teacher unions are hurting teachers. There are way too many teachers who coast along in their career because they have tenure and it's next to impossible to have them fired because of the union. Good teachers shoulder the burden that these lesser teachers cause. If each teacher had the ability to negotiate based on their own merit and performance you wouldn't have situations like the PP where the employees who just don't care effect the rest.

(Disclaimer: this is just based on the situation going on in NJ where I live)

YES TO ALL OF THIS! i know many many young teachers who are fantastic and go above and beyond. and i know many older teachers who either put the union first or just coast along and think they are entitled. DH is a teacher at a private school. i know first hand the long hours he put in and i think that anyone entrusted with the knowlege of our youth deserves to have a salary that matches that responsibility. and i understand that there are scammers in every system. but the teachers union in NJ is embarasing. It is one of the main reasons my children will NOT be going to public school even if i have to homeschool them.

Just an FYI: Every school district has a different contract (at least in my state). So, insurace contributions, retirement contributions, and salary scales vary greatly from district to district. I do contribute to my retirement, pay a percentage of my healthcare, am required to have a Master's, and am required to complete continuing education courses (on my own time & dime) to maintain my certification.

hepcats · March 2012

I have two FFFCs. One is pretty "meh" and the other is controversial.

1. I am not sad that Martin is growing up and becoming more independent. I love seeing him grow. Each stage brings something new and exciting for both him and me, so I can't be sad that he's no longer as snuggly or more mobile. I'm looking forward to seeing the man he becomes. I don't begrudge people who feel this way, I just can't relate at all.

2. For me, there's a huge difference between providing BM and BFing, and the thought of BFing for a year or more (frankly, even past 4-6 months) creeps me out. Especially once they can walk, you basically have a person on your teet instead of a baby. I know that it's perfectly natural and that many cultures BF for 2+ years, but, for me, it's creepy. Sucking on my boobs is something only my DH should do. I might feel differently if Martin had ever gotten a latch, but I was sort of happy that he didn't, because my nipples never got sore, nor had blisters or any of the other common ailments BFing moms have/had. Again, I don't begrudge people for whom this is important and who are still BFing, but for me personally, it was never an option.

J9melissa · March 2012

Ohhhh I have another one.

I'm listening to the TLC album FAN MAIL.

It takes me back to my highschool days.

CarlaAndJames · March 2012

hepcats:

2. For me, there's a huge difference between providing BM and BFing, and the thought of BFing for a year or more (frankly, even past 4-6 months) creeps me out. Especially once they can walk, you basically have a person on your teet instead of a baby. I know that it's perfectly natural and that many cultures BF for 2+ years, but, for me, it's creepy. Sucking on my boobs is something only my DH should do. I might feel differently if Martin had ever gotten a latch, but I was sort of happy that he didn't, because my nipples never got sore, nor had blisters or any of the other common ailments BFing moms have/had. Again, I don't begrudge people for whom this is important and who are still BFing, but for me personally, it was never an option.

I really think the bold is true, you would feel very different. Breastfeeding is SO different than your husband playing with your breasts, it's hard to imagine unless you've done it, but it's so completely unsexual, especially after all the work at the beginning to get it right and having your boobs hanging out, attached to a pump, having a LC work with you on latch/positioning, having your husband help with those things, etc. It's kind of like saying your baby kissing your cheek feels gross because your husband kisses you on the cheek during sex.

But I get why it seems that way to you

SarahP15 · March 2012

I'm making a Jacks pizza and intend on eating the whole thing.

I'm also relieved my sister's closing date got pushed back because now it's in the middle of the week and I don't have to help her move.

jellybeanjean · March 2012

klingb52:
DramaMama06:
Sgt M's Wife:

Along the lines of the teacher confessions this morning:

I think teachers (and any public employee) should pay into their health care benefits just like the majority of American employees. I don't pay into my health care but my salary is less than what it would normally be to take into account my contribution to health care.

With that said, I think teacher unions are hurting teachers. There are way too many teachers who coast along in their career because they have tenure and it's next to impossible to have them fired because of the union. Good teachers shoulder the burden that these lesser teachers cause. If each teacher had the ability to negotiate based on their own merit and performance you wouldn't have situations like the PP where the employees who just don't care effect the rest.

(Disclaimer: this is just based on the situation going on in NJ where I live)

YES TO ALL OF THIS! i know many many young teachers who are fantastic and go above and beyond. and i know many older teachers who either put the union first or just coast along and think they are entitled. DH is a teacher at a private school. i know first hand the long hours he put in and i think that anyone entrusted with the knowlege of our youth deserves to have a salary that matches that responsibility. and i understand that there are scammers in every system. but the teachers union in NJ is embarasing. It is one of the main reasons my children will NOT be going to public school even if i have to homeschool them.

Just an FYI: Every school district has a different contract (at least in my state). So, insurace contributions, retirement contributions, and salary scales vary greatly from district to district. I do contribute to my retirement, pay a percentage of my healthcare, am required to have a Master's, and am required to complete continuing education courses (on my own time & dime) to maintain my certification.

Yeah, this. My husband's a teacher (we're in NY). We certainly pay plenty for health insurance. Before I went per-diem (and was working full-time as a RN), I did NOT pay a penny for health insurance, and I was making a substantial amt more than he does. You really don't go into teaching for the money, at least not around here. We've had to pay for his Master's (required) out of our own pockets (NY doesn't reimburse you for a penny) and he does contribute to his retirement.

We'd be a lot better off if I was the one working full-time, but for now, this is what's right for our family. I'm not complaining -- he has a good job and he enjoys it -- but it by no means is a cakewalk. Oh, and his union is pure crap anyway -- he's been contractless for almost 2 yrs because they cannot agree on negotiations.

Kymbirleigh · March 2012

J9melissa:
Ohhhh I have another one.

I'm listening to the TLC album FAN MAIL.

It takes me back to my highschool days.

LoL!

A scrub is a guy who thinks he's fly
And is also known as a buster
Always talkin' about what he wants
And just sits on his broke ass

Thanks for putting that song in my head. Stick out tongue

cvl105 · March 2012

CarlaAndJames:
hepcats:

2. For me, there's a huge difference between providing BM and BFing, and the thought of BFing for a year or more (frankly, even past 4-6 months) creeps me out. Especially once they can walk, you basically have a person on your teet instead of a baby. I know that it's perfectly natural and that many cultures BF for 2+ years, but, for me, it's creepy. Sucking on my boobs is something only my DH should do. I might feel differently if Martin had ever gotten a latch, but I was sort of happy that he didn't, because my nipples never got sore, nor had blisters or any of the other common ailments BFing moms have/had. Again, I don't begrudge people for whom this is important and who are still BFing, but for me personally, it was never an option.

I really think the bold is true, you would feel very different. Breastfeeding is SO different than your husband playing with your breasts, it's hard to imagine unless you've done it, but it's so completely unsexual, especially after all the work at the beginning to get it right and having your boobs hanging out, attached to a pump, having a LC work with you on latch/positioning, having your husband help with those things, etc. It's kind of like saying your baby kissing your cheek feels gross because your husband kisses you on the cheek during sex.

But I get why it seems that way to you

It is VERY unsexual...with that being said....I will miss it being sexual with MH. My nipples during sex will never be the same and I'm sad about that. It used to be one of my favorite forms of stimulation with MH. Never again will it be the same. lol

hepcats · March 2012

CarlaAndJames:
It's kind of like saying your baby kissing your cheek feels gross because your husband kisses you on the cheek during sex.

LMAO I never thought of it THAT way. Totally makes sense! lol

cyclek8bride · March 2012

I'm thinking of sending DH to take DS to his doctor's well baby checks from now on. He is DH's primary doc and he really likes him. The way he brings things up with me about N's development drives me nuts.

For the first 4 appointments he gave the same binky lecture each time when it didn't apply to us in the first place. It became a non issue after DS figured out how to put it in himself. At the 9 month check, he randomly said that it is perfectly normal for babies to cat nap throughout the day for 20-30 mins at a time and that N's sleep should consolidate in the next six months. This is good information if it related to our situation at all. N sleeps twice a day for an hour or two each time. I'm probably being terribly picky but I feel like, perhaps he should ask questions about my kid rather than assuming N is anything like the text book. Goodness knows N's parents don't follow the textbook very well anyway.

J9melissa · March 2012

Kymbirleigh:
J9melissa:

Ohhhh I have another one.

I'm listening to the TLC album FAN MAIL.

It takes me back to my highschool days.

LoL!

A scrub is a guy who thinks he's fly
And is also known as a buster
Always talkin' about what he wants
And just sits on his broke ass

Thanks for putting that song in my head.

RClaffee · March 2012

jenny_jeff:
ok...this may be a bit of a vent but I need to get it off my chest.
My FFFC is that I deeply regret ever sleep training Abbey...I should never have let her CIO, for any length of time. Ever since we moved her into her room/crib and out of our room/bed she's changed. Does she STTN? Absolutely. But some days I also feel she is less attached to me.

I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. If it is any consolation, both of my girls are doing the same thing, but they haven't had any changes in their sleep arrangements for months. Lil used to come snuggle me in my bed in the morning. I read while she took a little nap. No more, though. Now she just pushes me away and tries to escape. It's sad that they are no so snuggley anymore, but I really don't think that it is anything you did.

bookkitten · March 2012

CarlaAndJames:

IdigDirt:
I don't want to seem anti formula so feel free to ignore this. My supply has gone to sh!t, I started domparadone (sp?) it doesn't seem to be working, LO is waking up more at night probably because he is starving because I apparently suck at making milk, I hate pumping for 1.5 hours a day to get 6oz when LO eats 12oz at daycare. I just don't know what to do. I will be out of milk by Monday. I know I have to start formula but the thought is killing me. I know I should be proud I made it this far but I am not, I wanted to make it 18 months. I feel like such a failure. I don't know why I am so hard on myself when I have never judged anyone for FF but seem to judge myself by different standards.

*hug* mama! This is exactly where I was at 6 months. Congrats to making it this far on all breastmilk, that is a HUGE accomplishment, and the % of moms who are still giving their child any breastmilk at a year is only like 15%!! Just remember that giving some formula does not mean you are done breastfeeding! Keep nursing as often as you can, just fill in the gaps with formula. I cried my eyes out the first week of mixing formula into her daycare bottles, now it doesn't bother me a bit. They're eating solids now, so the virgin gut (main reason I didn't want to supplement) is no more anyway. And as long as you are still pumping/nursing as often, just replacing freezer stash with supplemented formula, you aren't doing any further damage to your supply, so there is no reason you can't keep on nursing some until 18 months. I started supplementing a few months ago and my supply is the same as the day I started it.

ALL of this! In fact, my supply actually got a little better once I stopped stressing and just accepted that I only made what I made (Dom didn't help me, either) and at least I have access to clean water and formula to provide the rest. I *still* plan to go beyond 1 year.

Kymbirleigh · March 2012

cvl105:
It is VERY unsexual...with that being said....I will miss it being sexual with MH. My nipples during sex will never be the same and I'm sad about that. It used to be one of my favorite forms of stimulation with MH. Never again will it be the same. lol

I think I just got depressed. I'm hoping it won't be awkward in the future if he does it! Embarrassed

pammeelala · March 2012

My FFFC and a large reason I don't post as much as I used to:

I hate when people come on here to ask for advice and then do whatever the hell they planned on doing in the first place. Really? Were you looking for validation? Because most the time, you don't get it. Then you come on a day or two later saying I did it anyway you were wrong. Seriously? Then why did you ask?

DramaMama06 · March 2012

jellybeanjean:
klingb52:
DramaMama06:
Sgt M's Wife:

Along the lines of the teacher confessions this morning:

I think teachers (and any public employee) should pay into their health care benefits just like the majority of American employees. I don't pay into my health care but my salary is less than what it would normally be to take into account my contribution to health care.

With that said, I think teacher unions are hurting teachers. There are way too many teachers who coast along in their career because they have tenure and it's next to impossible to have them fired because of the union. Good teachers shoulder the burden that these lesser teachers cause. If each teacher had the ability to negotiate based on their own merit and performance you wouldn't have situations like the PP where the employees who just don't care effect the rest.

(Disclaimer: this is just based on the situation going on in NJ where I live)

YES TO ALL OF THIS! i know many many young teachers who are fantastic and go above and beyond. and i know many older teachers who either put the union first or just coast along and think they are entitled. DH is a teacher at a private school. i know first hand the long hours he put in and i think that anyone entrusted with the knowlege of our youth deserves to have a salary that matches that responsibility. and i understand that there are scammers in every system. but the teachers union in NJ is embarasing. It is one of the main reasons my children will NOT be going to public school even if i have to homeschool them.

Just an FYI: Every school district has a different contract (at least in my state). So, insurace contributions, retirement contributions, and salary scales vary greatly from district to district. I do contribute to my retirement, pay a percentage of my healthcare, am required to have a Master's, and am required to complete continuing education courses (on my own time & dime) to maintain my certification.

Yeah, this. My husband's a teacher (we're in NY). We certainly pay plenty for health insurance. Before I went per-diem (and was working full-time as a RN), I did NOT pay a penny for health insurance, and I was making a substantial amt more than he does. You really don't go into teaching for the money, at least not around here. We've had to pay for his Master's (required) out of our own pockets (NY doesn't reimburse you for a penny) and he does contribute to his retirement.

We'd be a lot better off if I was the one working full-time, but for now, this is what's right for our family. I'm not complaining -- he has a good job and he enjoys it -- but it by no means is a cakewalk. Oh, and his union is pure crap anyway -- he's been contractless for almost 2 yrs because they cannot agree on negotiations.

my issues (in the district in which i live) are more with the union and the union reps. DH has been directing the musical for our local highschool and the crap the producer (a union rep) pulls b.c she's supporting the union is just ridiculous. it becomes more about what's good for the union instead of what's right for the teachers or, more importantly, for the students.

RobinSparkles81 · March 2012

hepcats:
I have two FFFCs. One is pretty "meh" and the other is controversial.
1. I am not sad that Martin is growing up and becoming more independent. I love seeing him grow. Each stage brings something new and exciting for both him and me, so I can't be sad that he's no longer as snuggly or more mobile. I'm looking forward to seeing the man he becomes. I don't begrudge people who feel this way, I just can't relate at all.

I think for me it's partly due to the fact that I don't know if/when I'll get to have that newborn cuddle time again and I guess I wished it had lasted a little longer (that being said I'm happy I soaked up every second of it while I could!) Don't get me wrong, I LOVE her independent personally. I wouldn't change it for the world because I think it's a sign that she is going to be very headstrong and adventurous! I can't wait to see what kind of person she will become either...I just have the sad moments where I really wish I could just hold her and not feel like I'm "torturing" her.

Andie_83 · March 2012

IdigDirt:
I don't want to seem anti formula so feel free to ignore this. My supply has gone to sh!t, I started domparadone (sp?) it doesn't seem to be working, LO is waking up more at night probably because he is starving because I apparently suck at making milk, I hate pumping for 1.5 hours a day to get 6oz when LO eats 12oz at daycare. I just don't know what to do. I will be out of milk by Monday. I know I have to start formula but the thought is killing me. I know I should be proud I made it this far but I am not, I wanted to make it 18 months. I feel like such a failure. I don't know why I am so hard on myself when I have never judged anyone for FF but seem to judge myself by different standards.

I felt the exact same way when my supply went to shiit at 7.5 months and I had to switch to formula. I felt like I was a failure. I still feel bad now and then, but I've gotten over the majority of the guilt for the most part.

My FFFC - I work in law enforcement in Northern NY and there's a Native reservation that straddles the border, so I'd say about 80% of our traffic we see is Native. It's a proven fact that 95% of all contraband (smokes, guns, drugs etc) come through this reserve into Canada. I'm sick and tired of seeing 16 year old kids driving through in their hummers and escalades, knowing that it's illegal proceeds that buy these toys. Also, I'm sick of hearing "get off my land" a million times a day. Seriously? Colonization happened a LONG time ago, get over it!! And stop using your Native "rights" to smuggle and be a criminal! After the vent, I guess what I'm trying to say is that sometims I wish the rez would just sink and take the bad ones with it.

ETA: I obviously know not all of the residents are bad, I'm actually friends with a couple of them, it's just hard to find the good people amidst all of the criminals. Very sorry if this offends anyone, but unless you work in the environment I do, you just don't understand.

supermom83 · March 2012

My DH does not know how much I weigh, and I will never tell him, unless I become like 120lbs, then sure I'll be shouting it from the rooftops. But as matters stand right now, he'll never know.

AlyciaandRich · March 2012

hepcats:

For me, there's a huge difference between providing BM and of BFing for a year or more (frankly, even past 4-6 months) creeps me out. Especially once they can walk, you basically have a person on your teet instead of a baby. I know that it's perfectly natural and that many cultures BF for 2+ years, but, for me, it's creepy. Sucking on my boobs is something only my DH should do. I might feel differently if Martin had ever gotten a latch, but I was sort of happy that he didn't, because my nipples never got sore, nor had blisters or any of the other common ailments BFing moms have/had. Again, I don't begrudge people for whom this is important and who are still BFing, but for me personally, it was never an option.

I don't blame you for feeling this way. Before I had DS I thought breastfeeding past a certain point was creepy. I was really lucky and other than a few bumps in the road have had a fairly easy BF experince. Now that I have has so much success with BF I intend to do extended breastfeeding. Funny how things change.

AlyciaandRich · March 2012

My confession:

I resigned from my teaching job this week. I was taking this year off and going back in September but now I am a SAHM. The confession part is that although I did this mostly because I have a strong urge to stay home with my son and am lucky enough to be able to another part of me resigned because being a teacher in my district (and many others) royally sucks the big one right now!

LaceFace14 · March 2012

cvl105:
CarlaAndJames:
hepcats:

2. For me, there's a huge difference between providing BM and BFing, and the thought of BFing for a year or more (frankly, even past 4-6 months) creeps me out. Especially once they can walk, you basically have a person on your teet instead of a baby. I know that it's perfectly natural and that many cultures BF for 2+ years, but, for me, it's creepy. Sucking on my boobs is something only my DH should do. I might feel differently if Martin had ever gotten a latch, but I was sort of happy that he didn't, because my nipples never got sore, nor had blisters or any of the other common ailments BFing moms have/had. Again, I don't begrudge people for whom this is important and who are still BFing, but for me personally, it was never an option.

I really think the bold is true, you would feel very different. Breastfeeding is SO different than your husband playing with your breasts, it's hard to imagine unless you've done it, but it's so completely unsexual, especially after all the work at the beginning to get it right and having your boobs hanging out, attached to a pump, having a LC work with you on latch/positioning, having your husband help with those things, etc. It's kind of like saying your baby kissing your cheek feels gross because your husband kisses you on the cheek during sex.

But I get why it seems that way to you
It is VERY unsexual...with that being said....I will miss it being sexual with MH. My nipples during sex will never be the same and I'm sad about that. It used to be one of my favorite forms of stimulation with MH. Never again will it be the same. lol

I used to be creeped out at the thought of bfing a 1 year old but I think for me it's because I used to picture nursing my little baby and then all of a sudden a 1 or 2 year old. I think since the baby grows and each day is just one day older than yesterday and yesterday it wasn't creepy yesterday. Now the "ick" factor comes in for me somewhere between 2 and 4 lol.

And the other thing, I find it totally different with DH vs. baby. I guess because my mind is in a different place, my boobs can serve dual purpose without affecting the other. Plus I think it's a totally different sensation and I'm all business when it comes to bfing. Once he's done eating, hes off.

Rachel5782 · March 2012

DramaMama06:
Sgt M's Wife:

Along the lines of the teacher confessions this morning:

I think teachers (and any public employee) should pay into their health care benefits just like the majority of American employees. I don't pay into my health care but my salary is less than what it would normally be to take into account my contribution to health care.

With that said, I think teacher unions are hurting teachers. There are way too many teachers who coast along in their career because they have tenure and it's next to impossible to have them fired because of the union. Good teachers shoulder the burden that these lesser teachers cause. If each teacher had the ability to negotiate based on their own merit and performance you wouldn't have situations like the PP where the employees who just don't care effect the rest.

(Disclaimer: this is just based on the situation going on in NJ where I live)

YES TO ALL OF THIS! i know many many young teachers who are fantastic and go above and beyond. and i know many older teachers who either put the union first or just coast along and think they are entitled. DH is a teacher at a private school. i know first hand the long hours he put in and i think that anyone entrusted with the knowlege of our youth deserves to have a salary that matches that responsibility. and i understand that there are scammers in every system. but the teachers union in NJ is embarasing. It is one of the main reasons my children will NOT be going to public school even if i have to homeschool them.

I teach elementary in NJ and I'm always amazed at this attitude. I've been teaching for 7 years so I'm in that in between that "new" and "old" teacher phase. I hate the attitude that just because some teachers have been teaching for many years that they automatically become lazy or only think about the union. Some of the best teachers in my schools have worked for 30+ years are also the ones that stay until 6pm every night and spend hours upon hours doing work at home. When most of these teachers started their jobs, they were paid crappy salaries, with the promise their whole careers that they would receive a decent pension when they retired. Well our crappy governor is threatening to take that away.. while he gets to be in office for a measly few years and receive lifetime benefits and pension. The union understands that the economy sucks right now, but that doesn't mean they aren't going to fight for the middle class teachers, who are being sucked dry. NJ taxes are ridiculous, no doubt... the teachers have to pay them too!

Unions also fight for teachers when board of ed members' kids' go to school and they don't receive A's. We've actually had students say to some teachers.. don't you know my father is on the board of education??? Do I think the tenure system needs to be revamped?? Are there bad teachers that need to be fired?? yes... but we shouldn't throw the whole baby out with the bathwater.

mesr · March 2012

cvl105:
It is VERY unsexual...with that being said....I will miss it being sexual with MH. My nipples during sex will never be the same and I'm sad about that. It used to be one of my favorite forms of stimulation with MH. Never again will it be the same. lol

i think you'll be surprised how quickly nipple play can feel sexual again once you've weaned. at least that's something to look forward to.

klang621 · March 2012

pammeelala:
My FFFC and a large reason I don't post as much as I used to:

I hate when people come on here to ask for advice and then do whatever the hell they planned on doing in the first place. Really? Were you looking for validation? Because most the time, you don't get it. Then you come on a day or two later saying I did it anyway you were wrong. Seriously? Then why did you ask?

took the words right out of my mouth.

klingb52 · March 2012

[quote user="Rachel5782]

Thanks so much for posting this! I agree 100%. Some older teachers are terrible as are some newer teachers. Most of those who are older have spent their lives working hard to make a difference in childrens' lives. I think teachers are often easily attacked because people think our salaries are so high. Ours are very low compared to that of politicians like governors, senators, etc.. We are nearly all middle or lower-middle class. We are not rich!

chloephoebecali · March 2012

jenny_jeff:
ok...this may be a bit of a vent but I need to get it off my chest.
My FFFC is that I deeply regret ever sleep training Abbey...I should never have let her CIO, for any length of time. Ever since we moved her into her room/crib and out of our room/bed she's changed. Does she STTN? Absolutely. But some days I also feel she is less attached to me. I am feeling really sad and depressed about this. She no longer cuddles me for more than about 20 seconds, if she wakes up too early or in the middle of the night she no longer will seek comfort in sleeping in our bed. She just won't sleep next to me any more and I miss it soooo much, like I'm really really upset and I'm crying right now
She also hates diaper changes and getting dressed. She cries, whines and squirms to escape the whole time. It's getting to the point that I dread having to change her and it makes me tense and annoyed. I hate that I'm feeling this way because I swore I never would.
The only time in the day when she is happy and close to me is when she's BFing and even that has come to a point where as soon as she's done she whines to be put down.
Ok...terrible mom vent over

It's not the CIO! It's her age. I never did CIO with DD and she naturally hit an age when she did not want to cuddle or be rocked. She had a period of miserable changings and seemed less interested in me. It's just them being independent and curious. Their personalities come out and they don't want to stop moving. You are not a terrible mother. Just think of all the quality sleep your DD has now that allows her the energy to explore. It was not the CIO! And btw, my 2.5 yr old is now more attached to me than my DS. She came back around and is more lovey than ever.

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