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Thoughts on Trying Again?

elplochoelplocho member
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I was just curious what every one's thoughts were on trying again. Personally I have very mixed feelings. My m/c was physically very painful and it's left me reanalyzing whether I really want to try to have another baby.

I feel like maybe in 3 or 6 months time may have smoothed things over a little and I'll be ready to ttc, but I'm really on the fence.

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    Spruce14Spruce14 member
    I didn't even pass it yet and still don't even know if it will happen naturally or not but I wish I could try again today. I'm ready to move on but everyone has their own timeline. 
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    I've had two m/c's, and I'm sure we'll try again once AF comes.  I actually feel more sure about that now than I did after my first loss.  I had all these thoughts last time about how maybe we shouldn't keep trying, we already have a wonderful DD, etc. But I don't feel like our family is complete, and I really want to give DD a sibling.

    If we have a third m/c, I would really need to reevaluate.  I kind of feel like 3 losses would be my limit emotionally, but maybe would change my mind if I was ever in that situation?  Hoping it never comes to that. 

     

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    katharine25katharine25 member
    The only way to guarantee you'll never have a child is to never try (well, kind of). For me, the question really isn't "if", it's "when".
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    emjo03emjo03 member
    We just had our 3rd consecutive m/c but we also had 2 healthy kids before that.  So we definitely want another one.  We do plan to try again at this point.  For me, the hope, thought, dream of trying again and having another baby is what has helped me through it.
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    dtowngirldtowngirl

    imagekatharine25:
    The only way to guarantee you'll never have a child is to never try (well, kind of). For me, the question really isn't "if", it's "when".

    This. Elplocho, you have to understand that a lot of us here haven't had a child yet.

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    CCline09CCline09
    Yes, I for sure want to try again...we have no children and this is our first m/c. I want a baby so bad.
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    holly321holly321 member
    I was going to wait to try.  But then I had residual hormones, and I thought I was pregnant.  I realized I was never going to feel ready and safe, so why not try.  I can not imagine never having another child. 
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    elplochoelplocho member
    imageegsquared:

    I've had two m/c's, and I'm sure we'll try again once AF comes.  I actually feel more sure about that now than I did after my first loss.  I had all these thoughts last time about how maybe we shouldn't keep trying, we already have a wonderful DD, etc. But I don't feel like our family is complete, and I really want to give DD a sibling.

    If we have a third m/c, I would really need to reevaluate.  I kind of feel like 3 losses would be my limit emotionally, but maybe would change my mind if I was ever in that situation?  Hoping it never comes to that. 

     

    I feel a lot like this, just with DS. The miscarriage also made me think a lot of the postpartum period after having my ds, which was not my best time. I guess time will tell, because I do also feel strongly that I want a big family, and I think DS will be a great big brother.

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    imagedtowngirl:

    imagekatharine25:
    The only way to guarantee you'll never have a child is to never try (well, kind of). For me, the question really isn't "if", it's "when".

    This.

    Katharine, you have to understand that a lot of us here haven't had a child yet.

    I understand - I don't have a child - I'm 2 for zero. I think your wording as directed towards me is a bit confusing.

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    imagedtowngirl:

    imagekatharine25:
    The only way to guarantee you'll never have a child is to never try (well, kind of). For me, the question really isn't "if", it's "when".

    This.

    Katharine, you have to understand that a lot of us here haven't had a child yet.

    I understand - I don't have a child - I'm 2 for zero. I think your wording as directed towards me is a bit confusing.

    My goodness I'm out of it today. So sorry Katharine... In all my confusion I was trying to quote you and say i agree with you but tell the original poster the second portion. Im going to edit and if I can't figure out how, I'll delete that post. 

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    bobbydsgirlbobbydsgirl member
    This is exactly what I am feeling today. I just found out I had a cp not even a month ago (second loss)And up until this point I have felt that we were going to try again after the next cycle started. Already seen an RE too.but I feel like I am in the process of postponing ttc. I feel like I am acting like these losses are a test I have failed and I am trying to rush to "fix" it. I don't feel I am emotionally ready to be pregnant again. That, and I really cherish my alone time when DS is sleeping. Makes me wonder if now is the right time.
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    juliemagudajuliemaguda
    We just found out yesterday that we lost the baby, so for me, it is still too early. I'm not sure if I want to try again or not.  I'm so scared of going through this again.  I guess we will see how we are feeling in a few weeks/months and go from there.  I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decided. =)
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    tetiananinatetiananina member

    After my first M/C I was terrified to try again and we waited almost a year. Now with the second one the 2 weeks from my D&C are taking forever and I can't wait to hopefully get answers of what we can do different and go for it again. We don't have a baby and we can't wait to have one. My DH is just as eager we are just waiting for our ok to go.

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    rebekamrebekam member

    I had a missed m/c at 9 weeks and its one month today that I had my D &C. DH wants to try right now and I feel differently each day. I am completely exhausted but I wanted nothing more than to have a baby.. I will just wait for AF and let it happen when it happens....

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    acruz8179acruz8179
    I'm with DutchKatie, I know that I was meant to be a Mom and have confidence that it will happen. But having a MC really did take the innocent excitement out of TTC. We are getting ready to try again and I am excited, but also terrified to go through another MC. In the end though there is no way of knowing what will happen and I would rather try again then let this one experience define the rest of my life.
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