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June 2011 Moms
kaitylin
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Update- Flame away... would this make me a terrible mom?
kaitylin
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Ok... I REALLY want to see Hunger Games so badly. DH and I have no family nearby and our friends who babysat once for DD just moved so we wouldn't know who to ask and neither of us feel comfortable having a stranger watch her. Obviously we can't take her with us during the day because there is no way she'd be quiet but what if we went to the midnight showing and took her with us in her carseat so she could sleep the whole time? (she sleeps through anything for what it's worth...) If she did wake up, one of us would leave. We live a 30 second walk from the movie theater so no big deal. However, would you seriously judge me if you saw me with a sleeping LO at a midnight showing? I feel kind of like a terrible mom for even considering it but I just really want to see it with DH. He said I can go see it myself and he will stay home with her but we never do anything together anymore and he really wants to see it. Also, we really can't afford a babysitter right now - we are saving every cent to try to buy a bigger place if our home sells, plus I'm SAH now (we have movie ticket passes that we got for xmas so that's free) so it's either go myself or take her with us. What do you think?
Update: so, DH and I decided we are going to try to brave the midnight crowds for Hunger Games! We live right next to the mall where it's showing (literally the next building!) so I walked over this afternoon with DD and talked to the manager. He was so nice and showed me the best seats so I could get to the door if I need to, showed me a spot for her stroller, etc. He really made me feel like they try to accomodate babies when people have them. He told me what time they would be done cleaning the theater so I could make sure to get those seats (DD won't be taking up a seat with her carseat, there are spots in the backrow for wheelchairs and strollers.) He even gave me a free popcorn and soda voucher! So, we decided that especially since they seem so accommodating we will try! I'm at the theater alone now saving our spots and DH will walk over with DD right before it starts so they don't have wait in a line or anything. She's already asleep in her carseat in her room at home so he just has to walk her over! I'm nervous but I'm right beside a door so I can run if she makes a peep but I think she will be fine- she sleeps through everything normally. I will update tomorrow during FFFC (and I may want flame free if it goes poorly, haha) but I'm being optimistic that it will be fine. We are sitting way off to the side by a back exit so horrible seats but at least I should be able to get out before she bugs anyone if she does wake up! Thanks for all the responses - at least this livened the board up a bit.
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Re: Update- Flame away... would this make me a terrible mom?
Honestly, I don't think babies belong out at that time of night. I also do not believe babies belong in movie theaters (unless it's meant for mommy/baby, ie sound is less loud, etc). It's just too loud in their for their little ears. So yes, I would definitely judge you.
I would go by yourself if you really don't want to wait for it to come out on DVD. But that's just my opinion. You can obviously do whatever you feel comfortable with.
FWIW, I took DD with us to see Final Destination 5. While she was a lot smaller, and therefore nursed during the entire movie, she could've cried during the movie. I was prepared to leave if I needed.
No it doesn?t make you a terrible mom, maybe not the best person to sit next to in a theater...but i say give it a go. If you are willing to abandon the movie at the first peep and she sleeps through anything.
I have to admit there is no way i could attempt it as Bell would scream at the first explosion
and yes I?d totally give you the side eye if you sat next to me with an infant on opening weekend (I?m very excited about this movie)
I guess what I?m saying is who cares what other people think as long as you?re courteous and leave if she wakes up
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No, it wouldn't make you a terrible mom, but is it really necessary? I know that it sucks to not have a babysitter (we don't have one either). However, I would either find someone else to watch her (have DH ask at work or something) or have DH watch her and try to find someone to go with you. I would even ask someone who is a "semi-acquaintance" to go with you b/c I think you'd have more fun with someone there.
It isn't just that she'd be out late (even if she's sleeping), but think about how PACKED it's going to be on opening night. People will be yelling, cheering, clapping, ooh-ing and aww-ing, breathing their germs all over.... I just wouldn't. Sorry.
sorry... this for me too. It wouldn't even be a question for me.
It does not make you a terrible mom at all. Maybe if she was like 3 months and younger. Alexis has been to the movies with us twice and she slept the whole time at one of the movies and during the other movie we watched she slept through have of it and then woke up and the second I felt her awake, before she made a noise I stepped out and fed her and she was fine.
Alexis can sleep through loud noises, she preferred loud white noise when she was little, it was one of the only ways she would get to sleep. Aslong as she's not being loud I don't see why it's a big deal. Flame away if you don't agree but it's not like you're taking her to a rock conert front row, the sound is not equivalent.
MIL bought us a bunch of movie passes for Xmas (not sure when she thinks we can use them with DD... haven't used one yet) so the movie itself wouldn't cost us anything. Not going to buy popcorn or anything... Otherwise, yeah, it would be silly to pay for a movie when we are saving :-)
1. If you have to ask, it's a bad idea. Even if you didn't ask, it's a bad idea. I think it is incredibly rude and inconsiderate when people bring babies to movies.
2. Your baby should not be at a movie. Midnight or not
3. People have been anxiously awaiting this movie, as have you. The midnight showing attendees more than anyone A crying baby in the middle will piss off and ruin the experience for many people.
4. I have demanded my money back when movies havebeen ruined by management letting babies into movies where they do not belong.
5. Go by yourself or wait for the DVD. There are other things you and YH can do together that really are baby friendly. A movie is not one of them.
6. Movies, especially action themed movies, are loud. Loud enough for a baby to not sleep through them.
I could keep going, but I think this pretty well explains how I feel about it.
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I guess I felt she'd be less disruptive at midnight then during the day. Her naps are so short during the day there is no way I'd feel ok taking her to a theater during the day because she would definitely make noise - that's definitely out. She just sleeps like a rock at night so I figured it would be better than day since she would sleep through everything (and if she didn't we'd leave...)
This, sorry
Meh, I think people are being a little harsh. Before kids, I totally would have judged, but if she truly is going to sleep through the whole thing, I don't know that I would mind now.
I think PP had a good point about taking up a seat at a midnight showing, though. Do you really have to see it at midnight? I think I'd go to a during the week to an evening show, like at 8 or 9, so that it is past her bedtime, but not crazy late and there probably won't be many in the theatre.
Movies are so loud that I'm not sure she will sleep through it, though, and then you are stuck seeing it alone anyway. But you know your kid better than I do, maybe she will sleep!
We took DD to Harry Potter when she was very small and she slept through the whole thing (it was really loud too). But we waited several weeks so the theaters wouldn't be crowded and we went in the middle of the day in the middle of the week. It went really well. We wouldn't do it now because she doesn't sleep as well. I wouldn't go opening weekend...too many people. I'd wait several weeks so the theater wouldn't be so full.
But I say, go for it!
It doesn't make you a terrible mother but I don't think you should do it.
IMO you should either shell out the money for a babysitter, wait until you are visiting friends or family who will watch DD for free, or just wait until it comes out on DVD.
I would seriously side eye and be pissed at someone if they brought an infant into a theater (especially midnight showing on an opening weekend) of a movie I paid money to go and see.
Do you have any mom you could do a babysitter trade with? Might be a free babysitter option, and then they could go see a movie another night?
I wouldn't do it, honestly I never realized how LOUD movies are until I took LO when she as about a week old. It was just a comedy, so no big explosions or anything, and I still felt like I had to cover her ears the whole time (and she did NOT sleep through it, even at that age. I ended up in the lobby with her waiting for DH). And it's not just that it's loud, it's that the sound varies a ton, so it gets quiet, then LOUD, then quiet again. I would really be shocked if a baby could stay asleep without being startled.
I don't mean to rain on your parade. We're really looking forward to the movie too, and we'd totally babysit if we lived near you! I agree with those who said you could go see it a lone, no harm in that!
I took LO to the midnight showing of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part 2. He was three weeks old, and he slept the whole time. And it was fantastic and I'm so glad I did it! Just sayin.
If I knew he'd sleep I'd do it to see The Hunger Games, but that seems super unlikely with my LO now. He's a nosy little busy body!
I'd say call up a friend and make a girls night out of it, or go by yourself and enjoy the kid-free popcorn filled environment :0)
Yeah, I would totally judge. Saw parents do this for avatar. As I walked past they were fanning the baby because it was 100 degrees in the theater with all the bodies.
I can't imagine sleeping through the trip down to the theater, out of the car, probably waiting in line in the lobby, the mad rush to get seats, the preview, the movie, the ride home and then being taken out to be put in the crib. Would you want someone to do that to you while you were sleeping?
I know it's a bummer, but I'd wait. I want to see it too, I know how you feel!
This.
Well, I don't think it makes a you a terrible mom, because first off you are questioning your actions before you do it. I personally do think it is way to loud for a baby, 1 week, or 10 months.
I don't know who but someone said they would judge you before she was mom but not now. I have to differ, I would judge you more now than I would have before. The reason for this is because as a mom who is having my DH stay home so I can go see it with my sister, despite the fact that he wants to see it, he wants me to go. I would be a little ticked before we even got in the movie, just because of my past reason (I don't think a movie theatre is good for LO's ears) but also because I left my LO at home for a night out and I would be irritated at the idea that I may even hear a baby crying for even 1 minute.
That is no way pointed at you directly, even though it is your post, it's just a general how I would feel if I saw this for anyone. You have to do what you want to do though and if you do decide to do it just be prepared for side eyes, and maybe don't go midnight, were you meaning tonight? It just dawned on me. If so, you really should not go because it is going to be so busy because this is supposed to be a huge deal!
We are in the same situation with B - no family to babysit. We are hours away from the people I'd trust to babysit, other than our incredible daycare girl. But, I agree with most everyone here - no way does LO belong at a theater right now! I would totally judge - I'd have been pissed at you prior to having my own LO for bringing a baby, and I'd be even more pissed now because I think it makes you seem selfish to take a baby to a movie, esp. a midnight showing. You are taking baby out of the crib to see a violent movie? Really?
Hubby and I are both teachers, so we're waiting for Spring Break to go see Hunger Games. B will be dropped off at daycare like usual, and hubby and I will actually have a day date
At this point with LO, I think we still need to put baby's needs ahead of what my husband or I just want - sure, I want to see the movie now instead of in 2 weeks, but I will get over it and go when it's good for him. It's just a movie - not that important in the long run, to take baby to.