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Pregnant after 35
jessandandy09
I thought id start a new post as the other is too far down list hehe. Sorry you had such a tough time with your 1st marriage, i was in a relationship for 11yrs, engaged the last 11/2, it had its ups and downs but man was i lucky i got away, we had started the process of a city hall marriage and on the way the next day for the ceremony when his other girlfriend called me.......yep thats how close i was to a disaster!!! Anyway thats all in the past and we are both very lucky to have found our perfect man now matter when!!
Ya im a little nervous, i will be at ease when he is out and in my arms, im more anxious of bowel movement during labour, i think that scares me the most 
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Re: jessandandy09
Lol. glad you started a new one, this is much easier to find... for now! I cant believe you were literally saved by the bell on your way to get married!!!! how crazy, you really dodged a bullet there! I always tell mself that past heartbreak and crazy experiences at least leave us with great stories later on.
I am a little nervous too, I always am because its so hard to predict what will happen when in labor. However I want to say I didn't think birthing the babies (although I was much younger) was too bad (I did it all natural in the hospital both times). At least it was not as bad for me, as so many others say it was for them. I am sure it varies from person to person but it seems to me that the people with hard experiences tell their stories more often and that makes everything seem so scary. Bowel movements have always been one of my biggest fears too. I know in my head the doctor won't care but I still don't want it to happen. I was very lucky with the first two and voided my bowels shortly before giving birth (also I took a shower directly before they were born - with DS I started having pushing contractions and full dialation in the shower-lol)
So I noticed in your siggy that you are going to name your son sean? I think thats a lovely name. Oh and congrats on being under 100 days that was a big milestone for me.
Lol, theres alot more to that story....we decided (me and the gf) to say nothing to him and for me, him and my witness to continue as normal (go ahead and pretend to be getting married) we all went to city hall and his gf and her friend were waiting, we all confroted him, was best moment of my life....he denied it the whole time (b*****d) its a GREAT story hehe!! She phoned me a couple of months later to check to see if i had got back with him or anything even though she stayed with him.......she was pregnant and didnt know the time of the showdown!!! That really hurt, they are not together now haha but sad for his daughter! The whole experience has def made me stronger!!
Anyway wow good for you going natural with your other LOs, i really want to do same, maybe gas and air, i do hope it goes that way but if not, as long as he is healthy and happy il be happy!!
Ya my husband picked it, my brother is named Sean also but i let Daddy pick it while i picked the second name, jeez i didnt realise i was under 100 days WooooHoooo, thanks for noticing
wow, the story does get even better! You should write a book!
I almost ended up using drugs with my second child. It was too funny. When I went in with my first I was dialated 8 centimeters and my contractions were 2 minutes apart (she was born within the hour). So when I hit 2 minutes with my son, I headed to labor and delivery. They told me that I was only dialated 4 centimeters. ( I had been dialated 4 centimeters with DD #1 for 4 days). They tried to slow down my contractions, but they stayed at 2 minutes apart. I walked around, and sat backwards on a chair, and finally took a shower. When in the shower I had a "pushing strength contraction" it almost brought me to my knees so I knew it was time to get out of the slippery shower. I had 2 more of these on the way back to my bed so I grabbed the hubby by his shirt with both fists and got in his face and grunted "I WANT DRUGS" he reminded me that I wanted to give birth naturally and then he looked in my eyes and went to get the nurse. The nurse said "i can give you a small drug that will take the edge off, or a big drug that will knock you out." I told her give me the big drugs, the big big big drugs, I cant labor like this for the next 4 days. The nurse then said "okay mam, we just have to check how far along you are.... OH no, the baby is coming out, no drugs for you." LOL. I was fine as long as the baby was coming out. So it was a close call on that second kiddo! And I believe too that its nice to have a natural birth and I encourage others to try, but its not for everybody, its simply not. There are reasons they have developed such good technology and medicines! And you are very right, its having a healthy baby in the end that is most important! Oh and having a son is so very special, my son is 13 now and we are still very close :-)