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Holly_1007
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kind of a follow up with a new question
Holly_1007
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in case you guys dont remember we were having issues with BM manipulating the crap out of DH. our CO is pretty vague and basically says "as the child gets older the father is entitled to more overnight visits with reasonable notice" DH was picking up SD on wednesdays for dinner (bm wouldnt allow overnights). and also picking her up earlier than the 5:30pick up on fridays (we have EOWE visitation).
The CO is vague about holidays, just says they should be "split", same with allowing more time with SD when she is on school break.
we had been e-mailing BM back and forth about her breaks because we thought DH couldn't remember the specifics of what she told him at drop offs/ pick ups. turns out she was saying one thing and then the next week saying something else so we resorted to e-mail in order to document. she had huge issues with e-mail since she doesn't have access during the day. says we were "harrassing" her and we were "asking for too much". then we caught her in one of these little manipulations through e-mail so she had her attorney send us a letter stating that she will no longer respond to our e-mails and wants ZERO communication unless its through attorneys, and all visitation is to go back to what is stated in the original agreement: EOWE 5:30 fri to 4:30sun.
we're already in the process of trying to go back to court to modify the CO to make it more specific, so we have an attorney and he's just tacking on the hours at this point.
as soon as we received the letter from BM we drafted up a letter that documented what we wanted for easter, spring break in april, summer vacation and attempted to address SD's birthday party in june. (hoping we will be in court before any other holidays arise).
this letter was sent to BM's attorney 3 freaking weeks ago and she hasn't responded yet. easter is 2 weeks away, and I would REALLY like to be able to plan out what we are doing!!! DH's attorney is being a dingdong and said theres nothing he can do since we didnt specify when they needed to respond by. he called BM's attorney and she said we would have a response within 2 weeks. ARE YOU SERIOUS?! 5 weeks to answer a damn letter about vacations that we had ALREADY mentioned to BM in the e-mails before she decided that she didn't want to communicate with us anymore. so she has had the dates/times for 2 months now!
if she doesn't give us SD for easter I don't give a flying *** what DH's attorney says I'm telling him to file contempt. in their agreement it says they split easter. this year easter is on BM's weekend. I'm SO done with BM and her stupid little games!
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Re: kind of a follow up with a new question
I guess my question is, do you think DH should call BM and ask what the hold-up is? or what she is tentatively thinking about doing atleast for easter?
or should he just sit back and let the attorneys deal with it??
When this mess finally goes back in front of a Judge, BM and her attorney will have to explain why it took 5 weeks to respond about Spring Break and Easter. 5 weeks is completely unreasonable. In the future, have the attorney state when a response is needed ("if we do not hear back within X days, we will assume the aforementioned is agreeable"). That's pretty standard practice to cite a deadline of some sort.
I hope your husband is able to get the pending holiday time sorted out. And I really hope he gets back to Court soon to modify the CO.
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