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What age for a basic sex talk?

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DS1 will be 6 in June and the reason I think of this is last night we were watching the Discovery Channel's Frozen Planet program. He loves nature shows like that. The very beginning of it shows two polar bears mating. He didn't ask what they were doing, but he easily could have, and I was not sure what the appropriate level of information would be for him at age 5.5. WDYT? If your child asks something like where do babies come from, what is mating, etc, how much info do you provide at this young age?  

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  • SxiaSxia member

    I'm thinking of having the basic one soon since DD has already asked how babies get into the mommy's tummys, etc. I'd rather her hear it from me than somewhere else. I'm thinking about getting a kids book from the library with the correct terms and everything. (I used to babysit for a family, and it was the kids' bedtime book. They were 5 and 3 with an infant sister. That was fun for a 12 year old to read.)

    The only problem is that she would blab to all her friends. (She already said to one little girl friend who came and picked her up, giving her a wedgie, "Ow! You're hurting my vagina!" Her friend looked at her strangely and said, "What's that?" DD said, "Your privates.")

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  • surprise3rdsurprise3rd
    I don't know the answer, but wish I did, and will be reading the responses.  My DS age 6 just asked me how 'Daddy helped get the baby in my belly" and why they weren't all mommy, how they looked like daddy if they grew in mommy's belly.
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    I work with this organization as part of my advocacy work. They have some good suggestions here.
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  • rebbieWrebbieW
    DS1 is just 3 months older than your son. Since I'm pregnant with #4, obviously questions have been asked. :) He knows that babies are conceived through intercourse, which is when the man's sperm and woman's egg meet and cells divide to form a baby. He knows a baby comes out of the vagina and that midwives are for catching. :) He also knows that the penis must enter the vagina to release the sperm and that this happens when a man and woman love each other very much and share private time together (called "sex"). That seemed to satisfy him and he hasn't asked any follow-up questions for about a half a year. The topic must be dormant. :) I just used the policy to ONLY provide the information being asked for so as not to overwhelm him. He took it fine and shows just as much or as little interest in this topic as in any other relating to science.
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  • 2Gma2Gma member

    DD just turned 5 and for about the last 6 months has been pretending to be pregnant with her dolls and talking about how "babies grow in mommies tummies, but not in daddy's" and asking how they get out.  I'm thankful she hasn't yet asked how they get in! but figure this will be coming soon.  DH and I try to only provide the information she asks for in simple (correct) terms and she seems satisfied with that.  I agree with some of the previous posters in that we plan on providing information as the situation arises. I definately want my girls to understand sexual information/intimacy BEFORE the situation arises and it seems this age is getting younger and younger all the time.

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  • dpdwdpdw member

    imagerebbie:
    DS1 is just 3 months older than your son. Since I'm pregnant with #4, obviously questions have been asked. :) He knows that babies are conceived through intercourse, which is when the man's sperm and woman's egg meet and cells divide to form a baby. He knows a baby comes out of the vagina and that midwives are for catching. :) He also knows that the penis must enter the vagina to release the sperm and that this happens when a man and woman love each other very much and share private time together (called "sex"). That seemed to satisfy him and he hasn't asked any follow-up questions for about a half a year. The topic must be dormant. :) I just used the policy to ONLY provide the information being asked for so as not to overwhelm him. He took it fine and shows just as much or as little interest in this topic as in any other relating to science.

    Sorry, I had to lol that "he hasn't asked any follow-up questions".  Jaysus, if he knows all that what follow-up question could he possibly ask?  

    My 6 year old knows nothing about where babies come from.  He thinks that he got in my belly when I "swallowed a crumb" .  My 4 year old DD calls her vagina her "front butt" (I've been dragging my feet on correcting her).  My approach is to answer the questions that are asked and no more.  So far the questions haven't been asked.

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  • BlackvelvetBlackvelvet member
    Just be glad yours waited so long to ask.  We have been watching cows since it's time for them to have their babies DS has been asking a lot of questions and he doesn't seem satisfied untill he knows way more then most kids do.  We have already talked about how they get out and how they get in and about boy parts and girl parts.  We havn't used all the correct names yet as DS still can't say them but we use what we can
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