What to say when your DD starts using the word Sexy?

Sxia · March 2012

My DD told me her little (boy) friend says he's sexy.

She asked me if I thought she was sexy and if I'm sexy.

I told her that she's a little girl and her friend's a little boy and they're too young to be sexy and they shouldn't think about that and grown-ups should never say kids are sexy.

These kids are both 5. WDYT?

DandelionMom · March 2012

I just had that conversation a couple of weeks ago with my 5 y/o. It caught me off guard and I went with "that's a grown-up word...not for kids to use." So she probably thinks it is a swear word. Oops.

pookie2005 · March 2012

It's because of that stupid LMFAO song. I was able to keep dd from hearing it until that M&Ms commercial.

I just explained that sexy is a word for grown-ups to say...not kids. She said, "ok, mommy".

Glendi428 · March 2012

I usually start conversations like that with "what do you think it means?" That usually gives me a starting point, since her idea of what it means is almost always NOT what it really means!

shopgirl78 · March 2012

My DD was 5 when she stated (out of the blue), "Sexy means something is pretty and beautiful." We agreed and that's the last I've heard of sexy-talk from her mouth.

superslug · March 2012

DS read it the other day and asked if it was a bad word, I told him it wasn't a bad word, but it's not a word we should use. He asked what it meant I told him it was a grown up word for good looking. He was satisfied with that. We have a lot of words that aren't really "bad" words, but not words we use, like "shut up" or "stupid" so we just added "sexy" to the list.

superslug · March 2012

That's exactly why he asked! He read it the song title and then the questions began!

susan1017 · March 2012

DD is a very precocious almost 6 year old. She LOVES that song and sing "I'm sexy and I know it" all over the house. I asked her if she knew what that word meant and she said no. I told her she is not allowed to use a word unless she knows what it means. I just give her the side eye when she sings it and she stops.

SpiderSpray · March 2012

Glendi428:
I usually start conversations like that with "what do you think it means?" That usually gives me a starting point, since her idea of what it means is almost always NOT what it really means!

Love this advice. Sometimes if you aren't sure what direction your kid is taking something, it's best to just ask. They might make it easier on you anyway! lol

StrawberryAlarmClock · March 2012

Ugh.

This word has become part of the casual vernacular. Heck, my principal used it to describe a new tech system we're having installed. He called it a "sexy little program." That just about made my skin crawl.

I don't have any real answers for you. I think this is up to each Mom as an individual. Some see absolutely nothing wrong with it and don't see it as a literal term. Others would be mortified. I think you handled it right. If she were my daughter I'd explain that the little boy didn't know what the word meant and that it is just for grown up men and women. The word he should have used was attractive or beautiful/handsome. I don't know. Thank goodness we're not there yet.

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