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June 2011 Moms
How often do you and your DH/SO get out alone?
We are in desperate need to have some alone time outside of the house. Our problem is the only babysitters we have now are MH's parents, who also watch the kids during the week, so by the time the weekend rolls around, they're exhausted and need their own time (this is an issue in itself - MH doesn't trust anyone else to watch the kids, including my mom).
Anyway, we've been out on a "date" maybe once or twice since DS came, but this weekend we're finally planning to get out...we NEED it!! I'm going insane! Am I alone here?
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Re: How often do you and your DH/SO get out alone?
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We have gone out alone three times since K was born: once to a wedding and twice out to dinner with friends. All of those took place when we were home visiting family. We have no family or babysitters here, so we always bring K with us.
we have the same issue sometimes. we're lucky that my BIL is a rockstar w/ J and his godparents beg to watch him. we try to get out every 2 weeks or at least 1x a mo. BIL is moving in with us temp (maybe long term) once baby x arrives so i'm hoping that we can get into a weekly date night schedule. he'll be living with us rent free so i won't feel bad about asking for 1 night of child care.
i wish my parents would be better about watching him, but they live in their own world over there. oh well! their loss!
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So far we have gone out four times without LO: one wedding, one play/dinner date, and two hockey games. All of those times we had my sister or ILs watch him at their houses.
I really wish we knew a reliable teenager or college student to babysit for us on a Saturday here and there. Since LO goes to sleep at 7, it would be nice to put him to bed at home and have the sitter there for a couple hours while we go to dinner or a movie and LO wouldn't know the difference. I've been thinking about using sittercity or care.com to find someone.
we went out once, for 1.5 hours, 3 blocks away from home while my old roommate watched her. She was supposed to be sleeping the whole time, but apparently woke up
We don't have family close by, and even our friends dont live close enough to our apartment to babysit.
His family lives over in NJ, but I don't trust them at all. My mother is flying up in July so we can go to a no-baby wedding.
We've been out on a few date nights since Sophia was born but not nearly enough. It's not for lack of sitters, it's for lack of free time on our part. I feel like if it's not a family obligation he has an Army obligation.
This Saturday is the first night in forever that we're going out. My SIL is getting married so I don't even know if I should count it but I will. My mom is going to keep Sophia at her house overnight. I'm actually dreading it...the last time she watched Sophia for a long time she f*cked up her feeding so badly...like gave her an 8 oz bottle and breakfast literally right after I had nursed her in the morning. And she can't imagine why I'm hesitant to let her watch her more than a few hours.
We have been out on our own twice now, both times for a wedding and we were only gone for 4 hours. I told DH he needs to plan a date night. I hate having to plan everything (he hasn't planned a date night since 2005) and he's dropped the ball on several holidays/birthdays (no Christmas, birthday or Valentine's cards/flowers/gifts for two years).
I hate not putting LO to bed, but he goes to bed at 7 and we live pretty close to some nice restaurants. I would love to get duck out for a nice dinner every once in a while, but so far, we haven't. Maybe when he's a little older and sleeping through the night we'll have him spend a night with the In-laws, who live about 10 miles away.
We try to go out on a date every other weekend. Usually it's just dinner and a movie, but the weekend after next we are going to recreate our first date. This will be dinner, a play and a stay at a swanky hotel (the hotel thing didn't happen on our first date, LOL) . That will be the first time leaving DS overnight.
We've been out 4 times - once when my ILs were visiting and they watched her, once when we were visiting my family and my stepmom and dad watched her (disaster!), and twice with a sitter I found on sittercity.com.
I really recommend sittercity - our sitter is great (in her 20s, college grad, background check, first aid certified, etc.).
We really need to get out more often - I'd like to schedule a regular date (like second Saturday of every month or something...).
We've been out 6-8 times I think? Out for a meal a few times, 2 movies, and once to see a UK b-ball game. All the times my parents or ILs have watched her. They both live about 3 hours away, though, so it only happens when they come visit us or we visit them. When she gets a bit older, our neighbors across the street have a daughter in high school that babysits, but I don't feel comfortable leaving her with someone that young yet.
We are going to an adult only wedding next month which will be the first time someone else has put her to bed. I'm worried about how that will go. (We are going to practice w/DH first.)
MH and I had our first night out without DD 2 weeks ago.
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We get out actually alone, no baby, about once a month, that is what we shot for. I try not to ask anyone to watch DS to often so we just try for once a month. It would be nice if we could have something where it is every other week even if one of those is just to hang out at home.
Usually once a week. We go play trivia at a local bar once per week and MIL and FIL watch DD, but we leave around 6:30 - 6:45 and it's almost bedtime. We're usually home by 8:30 - 9:00.
Once a month we bowl in a bowling league and SIL watches DD.
Then randomly, usually once or twice per month we go out with friends or to dinner or something.
We could get out more than we do.... But we're pretty happy spending time as a family... So unless we're needing to discuss something important without interruptions, we take K everywhere we go. I guess we're oddballs!
That being said.... We've probably been out alone four or five times since she was born. No... More than that. It's usually just for dinner and then we're itching to get back to her.
I think we've gone out alone 2x, but that's fine by us. Anywhere we would normally go we can bring DD, and neither of us want to be without her for long. But we were major homebodies before we had DD, so that factors into it as well.
We have couple time after DD goes to bed, and we make an effort to talk about stuff other than DD. We just prefer to keep her with us.
We've only gone out twice... both times my parents were watching C.
We don't have anyone close enough to watch her (ILs 12 hrs away, my fam 4 hrs) unless it's when they're visiting and then we want to be able to hang out with them too since we rarely see them.
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