Clicky: do you get along with your MIL?

Sunflower7777 · March 2012

How would you characterize your relationship with your mother-in-law? [Poll]

ah625 · March 2012

Not as well as I used to. She started acting really weird when BIL's gf got pregnant.

matchboxdaisy · March 2012

We get along great when we are around each other in person. Her crazy comes out when she's home (she lives quite a ways away). That's when I have to remember shes Grandma and to let it go.

mylove2005 · March 2012

I love my smil and get along great but as far as his biological mom not at all don't see her or talk to her

EastCoastBride · March 2012

I said "somewhat". My MIL is just... a different person than she was when I first met her 20 years ago. Long story short, she went through a lot of health issues and is now dealing w/ depression, and she acts helpless. While DH adn I both want to be sensitive to her genuine health issues, when she plays the "Oh- how do I buckle my seatbelt? Oh, how do I move my seat back?" etc etc etc card over and over - it just wears on both of us.

She's nto enjoyable to be around. She has nothing to talk about, and often times when she does talk - its' really not appropriate to the conversation at hand.

MeliScribe · March 2012

It's one of those weird strained relationships. When we're around other people you would think we have a great relationship. The fact of the matter is I don't like being around her one on one for more than a half hour if that long. She makes it a point to only come over when I'm not home so I realize the feeling is pretty mutual. She is that typical controlling, set in her ways, old school train of thought Latina mother in law.

juniper19 · March 2012

She's a great grandmother. My kids love her. But she and I have different values and priorities and she has a difficult time hiding her contempt for my choices, although I'm sure she thinks she's being subtle. Yet she tries to foster a relationship with me and gets upset when I don't call frequently enough.

I just wish we could have polite but superficial interactions when we see each other and not talk in between. I want to do everything possible to foster her relationship with my children but I have no interest in her beyond that and I wish she felt the same about me.

brightning · March 2012

I never thought I'd be someone who didn't get along with my MIL, but I can't stand mine and I know the feeling is mutual. She has made a point over the years of bringing up my DH's ex-wife (they had no children, so I'm not sure why MIL ever needs to mention her in my presence), is not very nice to DD1 and always makes a scene when she stays at our house. Grown women begging for attention is weird and sad. I dread her annual visits and hope they aren't more frequent when she retires.

jlw2505 · March 2012

I voted somewhat - MIL has major depression issues among other things so it makes it really, really hard. She is good with my kids but honestly, I have never felt comfy (nor DH) leaving her alone with the kids. She has tantrums that make my kids look like saints - when she is having a good spell, she is great but when she is off, watch out. It is sort of like walking on egg shells as you just never know what the outcome of things will be. We went to an out-of-town family event with my ILs and both my SILs/BILs. For some reason, we ended up sharing a mini-van with my ILs (had our own room at the hotel). DH figured that since we really were only driving to and from the airport that it would be fine - by the time we were had driven 30 mins of the 2 hour drive, DH was regretting the decision. WE see the ILs a few times a month although during this school year, they take my older DD to her speech therapy 2xs a week so my DD sees them for a short bit every week - DH and I are thrilled that they are able to help but also can't wait for that need to be over. FIL is fine, MIL is the issue and she often skips the drives to speech. We try to make the most of the situation as we want our girls to know their grandparents - I could honestly go without seeing them very often - years ago, we decided to limit the things that we do when with them to help ease the tension that my MIL causes and it has helped a ton.

Printergirl · March 2012

When we were dating MIL and I got along great. When we got engaged the 'great' went to 'good' and stayed that way till BIL got married and MIL started comparing me to SIL. She made it very clear that of the 3 DILs I was the least fave and made me feel like an outsider to the rest of the family.

SIL and I have since gotten close which changed things for MIL. And since we now have kids close in age we've gotten closer and don't allow MIL to manipulate us as she once did. Over a year ago MIL did something to hurt my husband bc she was mad at me so I called her on the behavior causing major family drama. It's not been 'good' since. We tolerate each other for the sake of DH and the kids. I'm not sure if she thinks we're 'good' now but based on the way she treats our children compared to the other grandkids I'm going to say no.

Sheila92003 · March 2012

I get along very well with my MIL, which is great because she lives next door to us. We live in townhouses, so we literally share a wall!

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