I hate that things are coming to this. He was scared to death when I had emergency surgery, and he's terrified that it'll happen again and he'll lose me. He said he's willing to do our FET, but *if* I didn't want to, he'd be happy walking away now.
It's so hard and it raises so many other questions. Since he is ready to give up, he's now worried that I won't be able to and he'll lose me because I'll want to keep trying.
I really feel like emotionally and financially I'm spent. And I do think that at one time I'll need to close this chapter and move on. I just don't know how I'll do that.
That was long and there's really no major point. I just hate this and all the major decisions that come along with it. I need a stiff drink!
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Oh Katt, I'm so sorry you are struggling with all this. Like this stuff isn't hard enough to deal with as it is, but when you and your H aren't on the same page...I pray with all my heart that your FET is a success and you won't have to face such a situation. Regardless, I hope you two can come to a decision and choice that you are both comfortable with. ((BIG HUGE HUGS)) I am here for you!
TTC #1 Dx: severe MFI
IVF with ICSI #1: BFP
TESE for DH 08/09/09
ER 08/09/09; ET 08/14/09; Beta #1 08/23/09: 150; Beta #2 08/25/09: 267
TTC #2: FET #1: BFP
ET 06/16/11; Beta #1 06/25/11: 282; Beta #2 06/27/11: 777
First u/s: Twins! Baby A stopped growing @ 9 weeks, forever in our hearts
TTC #3: FET #2: c/p lost at 4 weeks
I'm so sorry Katt. I just want to give you a big hug. So here's a virtual one (( HUG)). They removed the tube if I remember right? That should decrease your chances of having another tubal. Did you have problems with the other tube? I know any decision isn't an easy one. I hope the right decision will become clear for you both soon.
After 22 cycles and tube removal our IVF miracle has arrived! Detailed IF and IVF info in bio.
(((hugs))) Hope you can come to some sort of resolution that makes both of you happy.
Your DH and mine have a similar mindset it seems. My DH is now opposed to ttc #2 again since our IVF last May when I had the abdominal hemorrhage following ER and ended up in the hospital. He thinks that trying for a baby = me possibly dying now. I can't seem to persuade him that there is little chance of that happening.
IF sucks. I hate that all of us have to deal with this.
TTC #2, Operative hysteroscopy March 2011; IVF #1 long lupron protocol April 2011-cancelled due to poor response; IVF #2 flare protocol May 2011=hospitalization due to abdominal hemorrhage during ER and no fert due to MFI issues. Moving onto international adoption from Moldova January 2013!
Oh Katt, I'm so sorry you are struggling with all this. Like this stuff isn't hard enough to deal with as it is, but when you and your H aren't on the same page...I pray with all my heart that your FET is a success and you won't have to face such a situation. Regardless, I hope you two can come to a decision and choice that you are both comfortable with. ((BIG HUGE HUGS)) I am here for you!
I'm so sorry. ((Big Hugs)) Do you think he's be willing to talk to a therapist with you? It might be helpful for someone to give a little outside perspective.
I hope y'all are able to get on the same page soon. ((more hugs))
2.5 yrs TTC #1 - DX = Stage IV Endo, Lap performed Jan 2010 TTC #1 - May 2010 - IUI #3: BFP TTC #2 - May 2012 -IUI #2: BFP
Re: My H wants to give up :(
IVF with ICSI #1: BFP
TESE for DH 08/09/09
ER 08/09/09; ET 08/14/09; Beta #1 08/23/09: 150; Beta #2 08/25/09: 267
TTC #2: FET #1: BFP
ET 06/16/11; Beta #1 06/25/11: 282; Beta #2 06/27/11: 777
First u/s: Twins! Baby A stopped growing @ 9 weeks, forever in our hearts
TTC #3: FET #2: c/p lost at 4 weeks
After 22 cycles and tube removal our IVF miracle has arrived! Detailed IF and IVF info in bio.
(((hugs))) Hope you can come to some sort of resolution that makes both of you happy.
Your DH and mine have a similar mindset it seems. My DH is now opposed to ttc #2 again since our IVF last May when I had the abdominal hemorrhage following ER and ended up in the hospital. He thinks that trying for a baby = me possibly dying now. I can't seem to persuade him that there is little chance of that happening.
IF sucks. I hate that all of us have to deal with this.
TTC #2, Operative hysteroscopy March 2011; IVF #1 long lupron protocol April 2011-cancelled due to poor response; IVF #2 flare protocol May 2011=hospitalization due to abdominal hemorrhage during ER and no fert due to MFI issues. Moving onto international adoption from Moldova January 2013!
DD1: allergic to eggs & dairy
c/p 4/1/11
DD2: milk and soy protein intolerant, allergic to eggs, soy, peanuts, tree nuts, sesame, bananas
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This exactly! (((hugs)))
I'm so sorry. ((Big Hugs)) Do you think he's be willing to talk to a therapist with you? It might be helpful for someone to give a little outside perspective.
I hope y'all are able to get on the same page soon. ((more hugs))
TTC #1 - May 2010 - IUI #3: BFP
TTC #2 - May 2012 -IUI #2: BFP
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((hugs))
I'm so sorry
(((hugs)))
::hugs::
I am so very sorry you are in this position.
Thinking of you.
TTC #2 since June '08
~*DD 10.21.07*~
dx unexplained
IUI #1-4 BFN
IVF#1 June 2011 BFN
IVF#2 Dec 2011
Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634
EDD 8/25
*PAIFW/SAIFW*