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TTC After a Loss
ChloBub
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My Blog: One Emerald
BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
Cue ugly cry (pg mentioned, not mine)
ChloBub
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My younger cousin just called to tell me she's KU. She's due at the end of October. I'm supposed to go visit her tomorrow for her birthday. She's planning on telling my mom and grandmother then.
She was so sweet and thoughtful to call me and give me the heads-up (like, seriously great. She went on and on about how she knows how hard it is to hear and that I'm still grieving and that her heart is breaking to have to tell me), but I just feel like screaming. I was supposed to have the first great-grandchild. I was supposed to be the one getting baby things for my birthday. And we should be sharing this together instead of it feeling like a knife in my heart.
I was having such a good day, too. I know you girls understand.
My Blog: One Emerald
BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
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Re: Cue ugly cry (pg mentioned, not mine)
Oh, this hurt my feelings for you so bad. Please try not to focus on that, because it is the one thing that you can not change. But you will have your take-home baby soon, and hopefully that won't matter then. Cry as much as you need to, I am so sorry. And kudos to your cousin for letting you know like that, I'm sure it helped soften the blow. Seriously, hugs to you.
We lost our first (EDD 07/23/12) after finding out at 12 weeks there was no longer a heartbeat. Our rainbow was born 05/22/13 and was worth all we went through.
“So can you understand? Why I want a daughter while I’m still young? I wanna hold her hand and show her some beauty before all this damage is done. But if it’s too much to ask, it’s too much to ask … Then send me a son.” – Arcade Fire
BFP #2 - 04/04/12, 1st Beta @ 9DPO 19, 2nd Beta @ 13 DPO 168. 1st u/s - 4/30/12 - we have a heartbeat!!
I am so sorry sweet lady. Your feelings about having the first great grandchild, mirror my own about my younger sister's pregnancy....sometimes things like that, that really shouldn't bother us so much, cut the deepest. Please know that I am thinking of you and praying for you.
If you ever need to vent/scream please don't hesitate.
Big, big (((HUGS))).
*PGAL/PAL Welcome*
My Ovulation Chart
BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
After RPL testing my losses and subsequent infertility are considered unexplained.
Cycle #22: Femara, TI, and progesterone = BFP!!
BFP#3 Dec 21, 2012. Beta #1 @14dpo = 134, progesterone 67.8. Beta #2 @ 17dpo = 664! Team green, EDD 9/1/13, healthy baby boy born 9/12/13!
Congratulations to the fabulous KGS2003! Her sweet boys are here! Grow boys grow!!!
I am so sorry....I understand to a degree as my sister-in-law is pregnant and we were so looking forward to being pregnant at the same time.
It hurts. I am just so sorry.
My Blog: One Emerald
BFP#1: 9-13-11 EDD: 5-26-12 MMC: 11-4-11 D&C: 11-8-11
BFP#2: 7-6-12 Elizabeth Faye ("Zuzu") born 3-21-13
BFP #1 9/1/11, EDD 5/15/12, Missed M/C at 9w4d, discovered at 11w3d, D&C 11/2/11
BFP #2 6/20/12, Baby Boy born 3/2/13
BFP #3 October 2016, EDD 6/11/17
A milkshake sounds like the perfect finale to an ugly cry. (((Huge Hugs)))
BFP#1 10/1/2011. Our perfect little girl, Her heart stopped @ 12w1d. D&E 11/23/11
BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
BFP/WTF#4 10/26/12 CP
BFP#5 12/10/12 EDD 8/23/2013
BFP #1: 8/2011 ** EDD: 5/9/2012 ** Missed m/c discovered at 13 weeks
BFP #2: 4/4/2012 ** EDD: 12/24/12 ** Born: Charlotte "Charlie" Olivia 12/18/2013, 8 lbs 1 oz, 21 inches!!!
BFP #2 04/25/12 EDD 01/04/13(?) confirmed ectopic 05/16/12 6 wks 5 days 2 doses of MTX-Lost left tube on 05/25/12 Back to TTC, earlier than originally expected.
BFP #3 01/05/13 EDD 09/17/13 u/s 1/24/13-great appt, measuring 2 days ahead, NT scan 3/11/13-great scan measuring 4 days ahead, A/S 4/29/13-another great scan can't wait to meet my baby BOY!!!!!
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PgAL/PAL Welcome
Sending you strength in case you do decide to get together with your cousin, mother, and grandmother. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It is always the little things that sting the most.
BFP#2 ~ 8/2/11, EDD 4/11/12, D&C 9/12/11 at 9w5d
BFP#3 ~ 4/15/12, EDD 12/21/12 ~ DD born 12/22/12
I am so so sorry hun! I completely understand where you're coming from. When I became pregnant the first time, I was so excited to have the first grandchild and first greatgrandchild. So now I have it in my head that I will have the first. I know it's horrible to feel this way, but I would be devastated if someone else had the first. So I really do understand how you feel.
I hope you're feeling better today. ((Hugs))
BFP #1 ~ EDD 5.20.2012 ~ MC 10.1.2011
BFP #2 ~ EDD 11.15.2012 ~ CP 3.7.2012
BFP #3 ~ DS born 12.03.2012
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TTC since 11/09; 5/11: lap (endometriosis-cleared), HSG (high pressure in tubes- cleared) and Hystoscopy (endocervical polyp - removed)
8/5/11: BFP; 11/14/11: no heartbeat on US; 11/16/11: delivered my angel baby, 19w1d; 12/15/11: D&C
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Oh hon, I'm so sorry. I totally get your pain. It was nice of her to give you a heads up though.
And I also totally get the whole being the first to have a great-grandchild. I really wanted to be the first to give a grandchild to my inlaws and I failed at that. I seriously cried for a full 2 hours when SIL announced her pg. And now she's giving them a second.
I'm sending giant ((hugs)) your way.
BFP #1 07/04/10. EDD 03/14/11. Missed m/c 08/09/10. D&C 09/27/10. }Casey & Jaimie{
TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
TTA for 7 months
Jan-Mar 2014 - RPL, SHG, karotyping: all results normal
TTC Again May 2014
Progesterone & baby aspirin combo for 5 cycles - All BFN's
SA with DNA fragmentation = Perfect results
Diagnostic cycle monitoring = Polycystic ovaries leading to premature egg release
TTA Oct 2014 - Jan 2015
Jan 2015 - Medicated cycle with timed intercourse
My Blog: The Canadian Housewife PGAL/PAL Welcome My Chart
BFP #1- 11/7/10 ~EDD 7/20/11 ~M/C (bo) 12/6/10 @ 8wks ~Missing my Little Firework
BFP #2- 9/11/11 ~EDD 5/25/12 ~M/C (mmc10w)11/4/11 @ 11wks ~Missing my May Flower
BFP #3- 02/21/12 ~EDD 11/1/12 Audrey Lee Born 11/4/2012
BFP #4 ~EDD 6/20/14 stick baby stick!
So sorry Cho...I know how desperately you want to be the mom of a rainbow baby. Unfortunately, not everyone gets to take the easy road to get there. Whatever path you are on, I hope it leads to your rainbow baby very soon. Big ((HUGS)).