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Not wanting to go?

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Recently, my 3.5 yo has started saying he doesn't want to go to school/activities (he does 3 afternoon classes). I can't really get him to articulate why except for saying that he wants to stay home. Getting him ready has turned into a big struggle. I can't figure out why because when I pick him up, he always seems happy and says he had a good time. His teacher says he plays with the other kids, seems engaged, doesn't exhibit any problem behaviors, ect. Same thing for his activities, which I stay and watch.

He did it again today and now I'm sitting here feeling terrible for making him go. But I don't want to start a bad precedent because then he'll never go. Do your kids ever do this? What do you think is going on? 

TIA for any reponses. 

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Re: Not wanting to go?

  • KathrynMDKathrynMD member

    I think this is simply a 3.5 yo trying to assert themselves.  I wouldn't really pay it any mind or feel guilty about it at all.

    You can try to give him choices about getting ready/what to wear/what side of the car to get in on, etc. but bottomline - he's going to whatever Mommy says he needs to go to.

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  • Wally3Wally3 member
    DS does this for preschool sometimes.  However, he has started letting go of my hand and running off to play instead of sticking by the teacher and holding her hand - so I know he is having fun.  As pp said it is just there way of having control just be firm that this is the schedule. 

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  • NJLHNJLH member
    One of my girls has started doing this recently. She used to be one of the few in the class that nevered cried when the mommies left. Now, she has started clinging to my leg saying she wants to go home. And I drive off feeling terrible. And without fail, I go to pick her up and she's smiling, full of reports what they did. I need to remind myself of that.
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