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Add me to the "I hate FB list" (Pg mentioned, not mine)

Yesterday an old coworker (not sure why we're still FB friends) posted a picture of herself smoking while pregnant. And the only thing her idiot friends could say in the comments was "What's that you're smoking'? I hope it's the good sh!t!". 

I may write to her that this is so offensive to me. She doesn't deserve a baby if she's going to abuse it. Looks like she's getting unfriended (should have happened a long time ago).

 

* Edited to add "Pg mentioned, not mine". Sorry to all of you who read this before the edit! 

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Re: Add me to the "I hate FB list" (Pg mentioned, not mine)

  • You should say something. That is horrible!
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  • Ugh! I hate Facebook and I hate people like her even more. I've decided to let my bitterness take over with people like that and speak  up. Ill probably regret that decision later but in the meantime I just don't care and plan to blame it on hormones. Some people just need a wake up call.

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  • OMG that horrible!

    I definitely find myself not going on FB as often. It seems like everyone is pg and flashing pics all over the place. 

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    OMG that horrible!

    I definitely find myself not going on FB as often. It seems like everyone is pg and flashing pics all over the place. 

    I was talking to DH about that this morning. He threw his phone on the couch and asked why everyone on Facebook posts every detail about their kids online.  Of even he can't take it anymore, it has to be bad.

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  • Im normally a very quiet, sweet person, but I probably would have said something VERY rude to that woman! Sometimes the B in me has to come out and it usually happens when I see someone "taking advantage of the gift of motherhood..."

    And I also hate FB. I refuse to get on! 

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  • I have a few people like that on my FB and it makes me sick to see that kind of stuff.
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  • I would definitely have a few choice words for her and since you plan on deleting her anyway I would not hold back.
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    Yeah. I'd drop a molotov cocktail of a comment on her post telling her exactly what I think of her and her smoking, and then unfriend her. 

    yep! me too.


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  • I think I would have to say something.  I really hate people sometimes!
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  • Any chance it was a "joke" post?

    One of my SILs smoked heavily through both of her pregnancies and washed them down with an hourly Mountain Dew.  I'd take advantage of the fact that this girl is not family and totally rip her a new one!

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    DH just warned me that there's a slight chance she's not Pg in THIS particular picture ( however I know for a fact that she's due soon). Since the photo is from the chest up, it's hard to say, although those look like pregnancy boobs. DH is just a little worried that maybe this is an old pic, and if I say something and I'm wrong I might kick myself afterward. Still, even if this pic is old, it means she's smoking in the house she lives in with her 6 year old DS and 13 year old DD. Still offensive, no matter what. But, I'm gonna keep my mouth shut before I put my foot in it. She's definitely getting unfriended though.  
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    Im normally a very quiet, sweet person, but I probably would have said something VERY rude to that woman! Sometimes the B in me has to come out and it usually happens when I see someone "taking advantage of the gift of motherhood..."

    I agree. And I am so sorry you had to see that! I've had a few days of "I can't believe they get to have kids ..." So I fully understand. 

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  • I knew a girl who smoked through both pregnancies and had two healthy children, we aren't friends anymore (on FB or real life).  I would defriend her and move on.  
  • Gross. Makes me so angry but i can see it makes everyone hear mad. That poor baby! people can be such idiots.
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  • Wow, that's horrible! I would def publicly b!tch her out for doing something so damaging to the baby.
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  • Wow, that is disgusting!

    Whenever a pregnant friend starts complaining about morning sickness or the like, I have to stop myself from making a comment about being grateful for what you have. But in this case, I don't think I would stop myself from saying something. Super Angry

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  • That is ridiculous! A friend of mine (who has had a loss previously) is still smoking during this pregnancy. DH told me he thought she still was smoking and I didn't believe them. A bunch of us went out a couple weeks ago and her and her husband came. After about a half hour, they went outside to smoke! When she came back in, I asked her if that's a good idea with being pregnant. She said "well I've cut back. The stress of quitting completely would be worse on the baby then a few cigarettes now and then". Well, I think she's having way more than a few because in the 3 hours she was there, she went out for 5 smoke breaks!
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