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SnowflakeBride06
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18 mo old sleeps better and longer in family bed than own bed WWYD?
SnowflakeBride06
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We moved to a new home 3 months ago and decided to move our DD to a floor bed in her own room adjacent to ours for naps and to start the night.
Previously she was exclusively bedsharing with us. We moved her because we felt it was time to transition and wanted to start new routines in the new house (seemed the right time to make change)
Its been an up and down battle and what I have decided is that she will sleep better and longer in our bed. Especially for naps.
Take today for example, I put her down in her room and she slept for 45 m then woke crying, even though I was nearby she jumped up ran to the gate crying and would not lay back down (did this last night too) and cried until I let her sleep in my bed.
I want her in her room because it is safer, more baby proofed and I can l leave her up there and go down and do house work etc. Is that so wrong? Plus DH and I can have our own alone time in our bed before she comes to bed with us after her first waking (typically midnight).
Do I let her sleep with us or keep fighting her to sleep in her own room?
6/09 right tube loss (fallopian torsion) 12/09 BFP #1 (DD born 9/10)
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50mg Clomid/Ovidrel IUI #2 Beta 11/1= BFN
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Re: 18 mo old sleeps better and longer in family bed than own bed WWYD?
Perfectly stated. GL OP!
More Green For Less Green
I don't think anyone can answer that for you.
DD is 19 months and she is still in our bed. She sleeps better there, so that's what works for us.
DH and I hang out in the living room or guest room before going to our room.
Also, I don't stay with her for naps. When she wakes up she gets out of bed and comes out to where we are.
DD sleeps better in the family bed than her own bed...Actually, she has never slept in her own bed...I am hoping she makes the transition before the new baby is born, but it hasn't happened yet...We'll see.
However, when she was younger, we worked really hard to get her to sleep alone in our bed for naps and after I woke up in the morning. It took several weeks of me going back to her when she woke up to show her that it was okay to sleep when we weren't there...If you want to transition her, it will likely take more than a couple nights/naps...
DS1 slept co-slept with us from infancy on. When he was about 17-18 months, we put his mattress in the other corner of our bedroom to try and get him to sleep on his own. It was a total failure, and we ended up moving his mattress next to ours (we had his mattress side car-ed to our mattress). Anyhoo, we tried again when he was 22 months, and it was the easiest transition ever - he moved into a "big kid" bed without any problems or coming back to our bed. His bed was still in our room, but we moved him into his own bedroom a few months after that.
Anyhoo, maybe give it a few weeks and try again, she might not be ready. Will she nap if you lie down with her? Maybe you could try having her nap in her room, and then she can sleep with you guys at night (Or vice-versa)? Would her mattress fit in your room for awhile, that might be an option that works, too. hth
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)
DS is 2.5 and still sleeps with us at night. He has a twin floorbed in his room but I've never pushed the idea of him sleeping there. Just within the past 2 weeks he's started taking naps in his own "big boy" bed and even asks to nap in there. I still have to lay with him until he's asleep and if he wakes prematurely I lay down with him until he's back asleep. He's making the transition, at least for naps, but it's a process like anything else. He doesn't sleep as long there as he does in our bed. His room is brighter since it's on the south side of the house and you can hear a little more street traffic so I think it will take him some time to adjust to sleeping in the environment itself.
Do you play in her room often? Part of DS's change in attitude about napping in his room came after we moved his train table and some of his favorite toys into his room from the family room. Once he started spending more time in there playing he started to take more ownership of the space and became proud of his room and comfortable being there alone for short periods of time.
Of course, some of it is an age thing as well. My thought is that if a change is causing upset in other areas (like not sleeping enough and not making up for it at night or a change in attitude in other areas where there was no resistance before) then it's just not the right time. Scrap it and try again at a later date. This is what we've had to do with potty training. Just follow your own instinct.