NBR: Lost my wedding ring and am a wreck

Cin.NJ · March 2012

I've lost my wedding ring and my husband is mad at me. I am beside myself...I'm sick to my stomache and keep crying. My husband doesn't even want to look at me - its just been 1 day, but I feel so horrible that he thinks I somehow did this to him. I only take it off to cook (kitchen), to go to bed (bedroom) and ocassionally in my car when I put lotion on my hands.

I can't function...I can't think of anything other than this. I'm such a wreck,

I believe it went down the kitchen drain, but I keep looking for it everywhere just hoping it will show up.

It hurts even more knowing how upset my husband is...

Princess_Lily · March 2012

Do you know how many times family members have lost their wedding bands?

My mother never found her original band

My grandmother lost hers on her honeymoon, and never found it.

Both are/were happily married. My mother is married to my father almost 40yrs, and my grandmother stayed married until cancer took her husband at 70.

This too will pass.

polling · March 2012

Your husband doesn't want to even look at you?

Over a ring?

Forgive yourself. Tell him to grow up. It's not like you threw it away on purpose.

shellybird101 · March 2012

I lost my ring a few years ago and I didn't tell my husband for 3 days cause I was looking for it. Then to find out he had it all along, he found it and was wondering when I was going to say something to him, he was more upset with me cause I didn't confess to him that I lost it. I think that he should be lucky that you love the ring and him so much! Good luck.

P.S. Not sure if you believe in Saints but my boss told me when I couldn't find my ring to stand in the middle of the house and say...

St. Anthony, St. Anthony
Please come down
Something is lost
And can't be found

or

Something's lost and can't be found
Please, St. Anthony, look around.

jlw2505 · March 2012

polling:
Your husband doesn't want to even look at you?

Over a ring?

Forgive yourself. Tell him to grow up. It's not like you threw it away on purpose.

This. I am really sorry you lost your ring but it sounds like there is way more going on here than just a lost ring. Yes, it is most likely worth a decent amount of money and a lot of emotion but its a ring - it can be replaced. If it is insuranced, call the insurance company and see what you need to do to file a claim and then happy ring shopping. My SIL once lost her ring (in the car) and got a new ring and then about 3 years later, she was in a car accident and the ring popped out of where it had fallen.

howleyshell · March 2012

I totally understand how you are feeling.

I was beyond sick when I lost mine.

3 years later (never found it) I'm still sick about it from time to time.

You're not the first or the last.

I was lucky that DH was as sick about it as I was but certainly was never angry. After all... I took it off to put sun screen on HIS children. It certainly wasn't intentional. It could have just as easily been him.

Deep breaths. Chances are you will find it.

FortMyersBride · March 2012

I thought I lost mine last week. Turned out I had put it in the wrong drawer when I went to bed. Regardless I spent all day at work freaking out about it and texting DH about how upset I was. However, DH's response was assurance and telling me it was "just a ring". I'm upset about your H's response for you.

Temp6313048411121614 · March 2012

First, your H needs to GET OVER IT! It's a RING, it's a piece of metal with I assume a diamond or a few in it. Yes it sucks, but how can your H be such a jerk that he doesn't even want to look at you.

If you really think it went down the kitchen sink, call a plumber or see if your DH can fish it out. Have you reached your hands down there to see if it's not moved on?

bim38106 · March 2012

uhh, you're husband is being a total jerk about this. It was an accident.

I lost my engagement ring a while ago. I was beyond upset at myself and felt sick. DH understood it was an accident. He helped me look everywhere for it. I was especially upset because DH had just decided not to renew the insurance on it, so we'd be out of luck for that

A week later, DH found it in DD2's doorway, right by the wall, so hard to see. She had taken it from my nightstand and had dropped it there. Thankfully we found it before vacuuming it up!

Don't give up hope. It might turn up! And I agree w/ the pps about calling a plumber to open up the trap. If you dropped it in the drain, there's a good chance you might be able to retrieve it.

livinitup · March 2012

Cin.NJ:

I can't function...I can't think of anything other than this. I'm such a wreck,

It's just a ring, you can replace it.

It's not a person.

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