Have any of your husbands/SOs...

gymnst1013 · March 2012

...never taken LO out on their own? It just occurred to me that MH has never taken Nikolai out on his own for more than a walk to the park that is one house away. He's never taken him in the car anywhere without me! I asked him about it and he said he's terrified too because he doesn't know what he'd do as far as feeding him or changing him (it's unfortunate that so few men's rooms don't have changing stations). I think he just needs to suck it up and do it.

AshleyPT · March 2012

Yes, this drives me crazy. We've planned 3 or 4 times for him to take her somewhere and it never happens. I planned for them to go to a music class on Saturday. It's paid for - so no excuses.

hepcats · March 2012

gymnst1013:
I think he just needs to suck it up and do it.

I agree!

DH picks up Martin from DC any time I have something going on after work. It's probably been about 8-10 times or so and, at the end of the month, he'll be a single parent for 3 days while I'm traveling for work. He's quite competent with him actually, I'm pretty surprised lol.

justme04 · March 2012

I keep trying to get my DH to take the boys to their checkups....I just hate when they have to get shots or bloodwork. It makes my insides cry. Why can't DH just go.

I've tried to talk him into (since he stopped working for this last month of school to send out resumes and interview) to take the boys to playgroup or story hour and let me sleep in for a change...but will he ....no.

kas80 · March 2012

My husband was like that until about a month ago. I had dinner plans with a friend (it was planned sans baby) and a couple of his friends asked him to go to dinner as well. He opted to go and take her. That's the first time he's been brave enough to try taking her out by himself. Even when he was home with her for the month I went back to work he'd just walk around the neighborhood with her in the stroller and that's as far as they'd venture.

butterfly62682 · March 2012

Nick watches Avery several times during the week. He also brings her home on the days he works full days. He has never taken her out in public on his own. And I doubt he will until she is much older and less dependent on me.

Good Luck getting him to do more.

Sunidaze · March 2012

He picks her up daily from daycare, has taken her to the Y with him (tonight I had to meet him there for the handoff since we were only one day post-meltdown), takes her visiting. I remember one day when she was not even a few weeks old I got up and neither one of them were anywhere to be found. Turns out he took her visiting so I could sleep.

gymnst1013 · March 2012

BrandySun:
He picks her up daily from daycare, has taken her to the Y with him (tonight I had to meet him there for the handoff since we were only one day post-meltdown), takes her visiting. I remember one day when she was not even a few weeks old I got up and neither one of them were anywhere to be found. Turns out he took her visiting so I could sleep.

Well that was so sweet of him!

PurdueMama14 · March 2012

Nope, DH has never been out with Reed by himself. Ever.

MommaG123 · March 2012

MH has a grand total of 2 times I believe... and they were about 15 minutes each.

He says he's uncomfortable taking her out because he gets "amber alert stares from old ladies". It's kind of amusing. He also is afraid she'll have a complete meltdown and he won't be able to calm her down.

I pretty much tell him to get over it but honestly there aren't many instances where I need him to take her out somewhere.

MrsPBNJ0220 · March 2012

My DH has not even taken him to the mailbox, I have not desire to push it either. I know he would be capable but he has only watched him alone 4 times at home and it was not until this last time that he did nto call me for help. So, I think he needs more practice before he ventures out of the house. Honestly no one has ventured out alone with DS, and I am okay with that! He has the rest of his life to go places with DH and everyone else.

jen&jay07 · March 2012

Looks like my DH is in the minority here but he takes DS everywhere. He is home with him at least once, sometimes twice, a week. DH does alot of our errands on his weekday off (bank, food shopping) so he just takes LO along. He has also taken him to the mall, the barber, many breakfasts at IHOP and walks at the park. He will take care of bottles and feedings outside of the house. But he has never changed his diaper outside of the house. He says he never notices a changing table in the mens room.

tulipblossom · March 2012

Only once and it was for like 10 min. And I had to practically beg him to do so. I was super sick and he had to go to the bank and the store and somewhere else. He only took her to the bank then came home and forced me to go with him to the other places. I was super mad cause I just wanted to be able to sleep so I could get better. What made me more upset was she was ASLEEP he whole time I was out with them.

helenejr · March 2012

DH never takes DS anywhere alone - even when he was at home with him for 2 weeks on leave while i was at work - they never went anywhere.... it's like its too much effort for them.

LollyBug18 · March 2012

MH has at least a handful of times. One time he wanted to so she could pick out my Christmas present, one time I made him because I was about to absolutely lose my mind and needed a break Smile

But he does pretty well with it.

gymnst1013 · March 2012

I'm thinking back to the first time I took N somewhere by myself - it was an hour long drive to my cousin's graduation party and MH couldn't go for some reason. I was so nervous I almost didn't go but I made myself and it was totally fine. I think MH has the fear of the unknown right now and if he did it, he would see that it's really no big deal.

LexGator · March 2012

Not really. Twice (once for an eye exam and once for a haircut), my H dropped me off and did some shopping with K while I had my appt. but, no, they have never gone out alone together without me.

yychx · March 2012

Mine DH takes both boys to the sitter and picks them up if I'm running late. He has them to his parents on weekends so I could sleep in and rest. He has not taken both to the mall or other places and I don't blame him, it's a lot of work with a 7 month and a 2.5 year old. He dos however will take one out with him to run errands. Usually the older one will go n the baby stays home with me or my mother in law.

RobinSparkles81 · March 2012

nope Jeff has never really done it either. Mind you, there really hasn't been any times where it would make sense for him to do so...I'm sure it will happen more when I go back to work.

PhotoCat82 · March 2012

Kind of. Chris had to run to the store at 5 am once when I had food poisoning to get something. He took her with him then. Then there was the time I was a photographer for a charity. He was supposed to watch her for 4 hours but he waited too long to try to give her a bottle. Since I was only 5 min away, he put her in the car and brought her to me. I got to BF and take Santa photos at the same time. Talk about multi-tasking...Kind of got off track here. I guess my answer would be no, he hasn't gone out with her.

sunset+skies · March 2012

gymnst1013:
I'm thinking back to the first time I took N somewhere by myself - it was an hour long drive to my cousin's graduation party and MH couldn't go for some reason. I was so nervous I almost didn't go but I made myself and it was totally fine. I think MH has the fear of the unknown right now and if he did it, he would see that it's really no big deal.

This is probably very true. I lucked out. Jeff saw how much I was struggling in our first week home, and took D out grocery shopping so that I could have an hour or two to myself. I had a couple of beers, and sat and cried! Then, on my birthday mid-september, he took D to his parents' farm for a full 24 hours, even though he knew they'd only be home in the evening!

MommaA117 · March 2012

a few times. Twice to the mall and twice to the barber. Learned his lesson not to bring her to the barber the 2nd time when she screamed during most of his haircut. I told him he was being too brave. She was in her infant carrier at the time.

jcsumm0 · March 2012

A few times, but not much. He takes her for walks and he has run short errands, like to the post office, with her but never for very long.

CarlaAndJames · March 2012

gymnst1013:
I'm thinking back to the first time I took N somewhere by myself - it was an hour long drive to my cousin's graduation party and MH couldn't go for some reason. I was so nervous I almost didn't go but I made myself and it was totally fine. I think MH has the fear of the unknown right now and if he did it, he would see that it's really no big deal.

I'm sure that's exactly what it is! It's like a bandaid, rip it off!

The first time DH did it was in December. I had gotten home from work, and she hadn't slept the night before and I HAD to take a nap, so he took her to the mall (umm trial by fire! Mall in December!!) He was pretty nervous about it, but it went so well he came home saying "I have no idea why I didn't do that sooner, it was SO fun!" He wears her inthe Ergo when they go places, and he talks nonstop when they get home about how much fun he has watching her be SO curious about everything around them.

Last week, I needed to meet a work deadline, so he packed her up one afternoon, took her out to eat, and then went to the grocery store with her. He walked in later with her passed out asleep on his shoulder.

wendy46001 · March 2012

DH and Bell are actually at her 9month appt right now. I had to work....boo

but he has a more steady work schedule 98% of the time he takes her to daycare and picks her up (which makes me feel horrid as all the daycare workers know him and not me)

Anyway he likes to make Mr. Mom comments but i know he love their alone time.

LaRue86 · March 2012

My DH appears to be int he minority, but there have been two times he has been "forced" to be the sole provider. When A was three weeks old I had my gallbladder out. I was supposed to go home, but due to complications spent 2 nights and 3 days in the hospital. DH did great with A and never called in for reinforcement. I also spent three days in the hospital with severe dehydration and he had A on his own then.

When I was still preggo DH told me that he wanted 30 min with A each day without my help. He said he wanted to make sure he was comfortable should there be a reason I needed to be gone for an extended time.

I say rip the band-aid off. Your DH will find that he is more capable than he thinks he is.

Jills83 · March 2012

My H and DS are on their own every morning. DH gets him ready and does drop off. That often includes stopping to do quick errands or getting breakfast. They have never gone on a specific Daddy/Baby outting, but they do spend a lot of time alone together. I don't think H has ever changed a diaper at a public place...I know he usually reports back to me when there is/isn't a changing table in a men's room.

jgengo0 · March 2012

Dh has taken her out for lunch with his guy friends, takes her to lowes, etc. He also watches her all the time for me when I need to run errands on the weekend, etc.

At the hospital I forced him to learn everything on his own, pretended that I couldn't swaddle right so that he had to do it etc. to make him feel needed. It really helped- All advice from my sister.

skrichar · March 2012

DH does occasional daycare runs and doctor's visits, but that's about it. I don't think they've ever been out running errands or to do anything fun alone together.

Actually, DH picked M up yesterday from daycare, and it was the first time since we put the new convertible car seat in his car. He had to call me bc he could not figure out how to loosen the straps

emilys629 · March 2012

He takes him out all the time. He did so from the very start on Saturday mornings so I could sleep in. I'd say he takes him out on his own 2-3 times a week for fun, and he drives him home from day care.

amanda1680 · March 2012

No, he never has, but there hasn't really been a reason for him to take her out alone since I EBF and SAH. I'm sure he would be more than willing to take her out if necessary.

bestmaid6 · March 2012

He's brought him to meet me places. Like if he has a day off from school (teacher) he'll bring him to my office for lunch. One time Iw as at a movie with my mom and sister and he met us at a restaurant for lunch afterwards. He's never done a solo outing that involved a feeding. I'm not even sure how that would work since LO is breastfeed and is pretty picky about milk temperature.

jellybeanjean · March 2012

He used to take Luke out all the time. When I work, I'm gone for abt 14hrs/day, so they'd run errands, go to the park, to church, etc. Now that there's two of them, the only place he's taken them alone is church, I think. I keep telling him he has to try grocery shopping with both of them alone...it's quite the adventure.

Dani0701 · March 2012

DH has never gone anywhere with B by themselves. And I mention it all.the.time! I tell him that everything is already in the frigging bag, just take him and some bottles! Whenever I leave him at home alone, he calls his damn parents to come over and "visit". I get home and get mad and ask him why he can't just take care of him by himself! Why is it so hard? I do it every damn day!

brobin01 · March 2012

He drops her off and picks her up from our aunt everyday, but he has only taken her out once and that was to the mall while I was at a babyshower.

halfnhalf · March 2012

My DH has taken her out by himself twice, maybe three times. I convinced him last month to give it a try, because I had to go out of town overnight for a funeral and he stayed home with the baby. I assured him it would help to break up the day and LO loves going out for a bit. He went to Target and Home Depot. It went fine, he sent me like 10 pics of her in the carts (although he couldn't figure out the cart cover, we'll have to practice that one!). He's also taken her to the park, which is only 5-10min away. He does pretty well... Not as well as me of course ;-) haha

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